Him and I want out for about seven months and we broke up last may, it seemed like for a while him and I would still be good friends, but now he says he sees no point in being friends so what should I do? I'm driving my poor frineds nuts when I talk about him everyday. I still love him so much but he says that we will never get back togehter, and all I want is to just be friends if that's possible? please help me. Is there anyway I could win him back again?
2006-10-01 17:21:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Aww poor thing! I know you how feel. It really sucks , ive been in your situation, except my gf lost all contact, so i cudnt even contact her even to ask her why i was dumped!
Anyhow, i suggest you DONT go for him. Even as just friends. Your reducing your own respect and by begging or pleading and running after him, is only gonna increase his ego and he will feel cool or whatever.
Another thing to note, you maybe do love him, but the fact he doesnt want to know you at all, maybe the one making you like him more, because he doesnt want to. Do you see what i mean here? Its just a thing of value, but in real its just fake its not real.
There are 6 billion people on this planet, dont let 1 guy who doesnt even care about you make you fall helpless on your knees. I know this is tough, but believe me, there is a better guy out there, who will beg YOU to come to him! So hold on, take a deep breath, and relax. Make yourself busy on other things, make new friends even! But honestly, even if he does take you back, do you want a guy who you have to beg to take you back? or a guy who will respect you and not treat you like that?
Best of luck!!
Dont think about him, hes not worth it
2006-10-01 17:32:27 · answer #1 · answered by DudeWantsAnswers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very often, upon a breakup, a couple can hardly remain as friends due to the amount of tension that already exists between them in their relationship. Even if they remain as friends, they would never be as close as before, as they would have mentally drawn a line between them. There will be a drift of some sort. Once a man loses interest in you, no matter what you do or say, he simply does not care (speaking from experience). You should be fair to yourself and move on. Why waste your effort and time on someone who does not love you for who you are? There are lots of good men out there. Don't give up a forest for the sake of a tree. Since he has made his point so clearly, then let go. There is no use fighting for a lost cause.
2006-10-02 01:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by iwillmoveawayoneday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I feel so for you. Did he specify the reason for you two no longer being friends? If he will talk to you ... you can try asking him what's going on. It seems like he's moved on. Your friends may be tired of hearing you talk about him, but for right now that is what you'll need to get over him. From experience ... don't do this to yourself. If you're spending your time asking your friends about his actions and such ... trying to figure out how you're gonna get him back ... you don't have him, hon. And unfortunately you're not gonna get him ... use that time being with someone who wants to be with you.
2006-10-02 00:35:25 · answer #3 · answered by Fiusha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly loved him and he tells you that he wants nothing to do with you and you keep trying to get back with him that is not cool. Respect his decision no matter how much it hurts you. It is not just about your feelings.he should have some say in it also. Maybe if he sees you backing off and pretending that it does not bother you he will become interested again. Try seeing someone else that should help getting your mind off of him. When you see him just say hello and keep going. Trust me I know men they always want what they can't have.
2006-10-02 00:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that you can win either a relationship or friendship back. but for right now back away from him and save your energy to do something fun with your friends, that will pull away some of the energy and time that you have spent talking about him to your friends and thinking about him. good luck girl
2006-10-02 01:06:24 · answer #5 · answered by tmoni1970 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry Hun but it dosent sound like he wants to get back together! And your never gonna get over him as long as you keep talking about him....being his friend would be hard to cause your still in love with him!! Let him have his distance and let him decide if he wants to give it another chance!!
Good Luck
2006-10-02 00:30:51 · answer #6 · answered by ?rukkaloca24? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really know that you are hurting inside and you want to be with your
ex boyfriend. Apparantely something changed in the relationship. What happened I do not know. I can tell you that if he does not want to be friends with you then he will not be your friend. If you have not told him how you really feel then you should. Did you break up with him or did he break up with you? And if you can tell me why that would help answering your question.
2006-10-02 00:31:58 · answer #7 · answered by patrick G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just let him go. The fact that you both were friends first and now he doesn't want to be anything to you, shows you that you two were not real good friends. Just let him be. Stop sweating him, so you find the real one for you
2006-10-02 00:28:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit bugging him and get over it. Seven month realtionship ...you should have been over it In August. Get on with life and be a friend to the people you've been dragging down
2006-10-02 00:29:32 · answer #9 · answered by Foss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps your boyfriend is appalled at your ability to spell. But seriously, if you really want him back, just offer yourself to him. To be honest, I don't see why you are depressing yourself over someone who clearly has no real feelings for you. You should find someone or wait to find someone who is able to appreciate you.
2006-10-02 00:27:21 · answer #10 · answered by bloop87 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋