I have been with my boyfriend for only a few months, but i see stability in our future together. We both are looking for a long term relationship, and I think he is the one that I want to be with. I just found out that he needs to update his status as an immigrant, but he doesnt have a green card yet. I want to marry him so that he wont worry about it, but i am not sure if that will hurt our beautifully blossming relationship, or make us even closer. So should I marry him?
2006-10-01 17:15:34 · 13 answers · asked by cocokutie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage is no joke and REALLY getting to know the person you about to marry will be very important issue.You see, I knew my husband for several years before we dated. We dated for five years before we got married. And even then, there were things that I was still finding out about that "Ole Man Of Mine" If this guy is a good one, he won't push, but instead allow you the time to make a comfortable decision for you both. Because lets face it.... there are some non-citizens that will do, and say anything for the right to legally stay in our country. ( I'm not saying that this would apply to your guy, but there are some guys out there that do seek out women just for that purpose. I happen to know a few of them personally) We want to make certain his motives are just. But the bottom line will never be an issue of, can you live with him.....instead the question is.....if you can't live without him..... Kind of makes you go Hmmmmmmm, huh. But I am sure you will make just the right decision for you and this special person in your life. Good Luck!
2006-10-01 17:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by LynWill 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If yall were ready for the marriage stage of the relationship, you would already be engaged. Do not get married because you think this may be it. Only time will tell if he is the right person.
2006-10-01 18:17:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to consider a lot of things before marrying that person., few months is not enough though i know you really love the person.. but as the song goes love is always not enough. try to enjoy the moment. my bf and i were on our early 30's and most of the time we talk about getting married., you should consider you financial status bec it is not just living w/ the other person but you are to build a family. Pray to God and he will answer all your questions. take it slow.
2006-10-01 18:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, you can't let that be the reason for marriage, men can be just as crafty as women when it comes to something they really want. Also if he is looking for long term he needs to be looking into being legal
2006-10-01 18:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by 6986isin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think so...it's not even a year with him and i think your in that level of getting to know each other..honey, don't marry the guy because of it..you should marry a guy because of love and you need him and nothing will force you to marry him..enjoy each others company and assure your guy that your there beside him no matter what..but marriage is not the answer
2006-10-01 18:37:57 · answer #5 · answered by harukashin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No do not marry him just so he can get his green card.......this will be a mistake for you to do.....if you truely love each other things will work out without the marry......
2006-10-01 17:20:41 · answer #6 · answered by thats me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! If its meant to be, it will happen...make sure he is not using you...sorry to say it can happen. Help him in any other way you can..just not marriage...three months is not long enough
2006-10-01 17:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by kachamp74 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is probably using you to get his green card , i would wait until he gets it on his own and see if he feels the same way.
2006-10-01 18:44:57 · answer #8 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, no way. Then he's legal, and there goes your relationship. You haven't known him long enough, and he may just be using you......Get smart, sweetie
2006-10-01 18:41:41 · answer #9 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you want to and love him. Marriage is usually for forever.
2006-10-02 06:18:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋