I had drunken sex with a very good friend of mine... he however has a girlfriend. I feel truly awful about this but dont know what to do for the best. I don't know if I should ignore the situation and carry on as normal, or If I should talk to him about it. I feel really bad about it, so he must be feeling a lot worst (we spoke about it very briefly and he said he felt really guilty) so should I let him know that im here as a friend if he needs to talk, and tell him for what its worth im sorry, for want of a better word, or just let it go. We have a sexual past together and I know we can move on and still be friends from this, its just I dont know what to do about this!!!
Please help, constructive advice is greatfully welcomed
Thanks Tess x
2006-10-01 17:04:31 · 21 answers · asked by flummoxed_19 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Tess, you're not the first person to get drunk & make a mistake, and you sure won't be the last. Don't beat yourself up about it. Next time you have a conversation with him, just be straight - "I feel terrible too, but a booze-fuelled bad decision is all it was - Let's move on!"
Good luck, & be happy!
2006-10-01 17:11:42 · answer #1 · answered by belmyst 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You shouldn't let this get to you so bad. If it bothers you that much try to talk to him, I don't think he is dwelling on it. So let it go, move on! You guys are friends, unless there is something more, then you may need top move on or act on it. People here don't know your situation so you be the judge on what to do. think about it first, write out the pros and cons then act on it. Good Luck!!!
2006-10-01 17:13:32 · answer #2 · answered by butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him about it and get it put behind you, it was a mistake so think of it as a mistake,your feeling bad as if it was done on purpose. Don't tell anyone else about it so that the word doesn't get out. As a lesson.....
don't let yourself get drunk to the point where you do things you will regret!!!(good luck)
2006-10-01 17:10:22 · answer #3 · answered by Mycan Moneek 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have done all you can. You both did talk about it a little, so maybe you should just move on, but slowly. This is something that you cannot just move too quickly past. You are correct; you will move on and probably will stay friends.
2006-10-01 17:09:56 · answer #4 · answered by kepjr100 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean he is transgendered?I am a little confused.I would tell him you just want to be friends,explain to him that it was something that was in the heat of the moment and you are sorry if he thought it was more.
2006-10-01 17:09:29 · answer #5 · answered by Celebrity girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to his girlfriend and let her know what you have done. let her know you had some toxic (alcohol) in you and that you were very drunk. she should understand because you came to her face to face and you didn't try to hind it. now your friend, go ahead and apologize to him. after that if it's necessary you, your friend, and his girlfriend should talk it out and try to work something out so it won't be any awkward moments between you guys. well take care and good luck.
2006-10-01 17:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by fizzsboo09 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't make a huge production out of it, but I think you should talk. It sounds like you need to assuage your feelings of guilt. By explaining it and talking it out you might make yourself feel better.
2006-10-01 17:08:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't drink. I'm not trying to be rude but you need to grow up. next time you are at a bar look around at the older people and try to imagine you at that age. do you really want to be like them at that age?
2006-10-01 17:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by grumm_dmons 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go if you can and if he brings it up, discuss it then. There is no reason to beat yourself up over this. It has happened to the best of us!
2006-10-01 17:10:57 · answer #9 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to forget it ever happened and let him come to you if he needs to talk about it. I really hope he used protection cause if he didnt you may have an even bigger problem
2006-10-01 17:10:16 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋