Or, I suppose any parent or any daughter.
Do fathers really dream of walking their daughters down the isle, giving them away to their new hubby?
See, here's my thing:
My father and I have always been close, nearly best friends.
When my fiancé' actually asked my father's permission to marry me, my father could of done cartwheels. My sister married twice in a courthouse without even letting us know, my brother was too far away to get to his wedding. But this one he was gonna be at. He was gonna walk me down the isle, give me away.
And then my fiancé' was killed in a car accident.
Now, I had my one true love, and am satisfied. I'm 29yrs old, Dev will always be my love, and that's the way it is.
But, my father actually seems to be depressed that he couldn't walk me down the isle. Not that he talks about it, but he's like a popped balloon. all the thrill and dreams are gone.
So the question is is he mourning the dream of walking me down the isle?
Or something else?
2006-10-01 16:57:17 · 7 answers · asked by The Chronicler 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Everyone is different. My daughter just got married. I can't say that it was a dream to walk her down the aisle, but I certainly enjoyed it. I suspect that your dad is more depressed that you lost your fiance. Parents often feel worse than the child when something bad happens to the child. It was/is certainly my wish that my children be happy.
2006-10-01 17:02:07 · answer #1 · answered by ChazS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's more than just "walking down the aisle." It's the feeling that you have passed on your life to a new generation. We want to see our daughters and sons go on to become new families.
I imagine he wants you to move on with your life. You feel that, at 29, you have gone beyond that ability to start a new life. At his age, he doesn't see it that way. We all want our children to have a happy and fulfilled life. He just doesn't feel that you are fulfilled, and is having a hard time dealing with such disappointment for you.
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2006-10-02 00:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not that long ago. I walked my daughter down the aisle. It was wonderful, But, I wouldn't go hooking up w/someone just to walk down the aisle. Ask you dad specifically whats bothering him. Good Luck
2006-10-02 00:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by thrag 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's mourning quite a bit...
He was looking forward to his part in the rite of passage.
He didn't have the chance before, so now was HIS ONE chance.
He is mourning the loss of what was to be.
And mourning the loss of his going to be family member.
When my fiance died, my mom went through something very similar.
2006-10-02 00:00:17 · answer #4 · answered by FavoredbyU 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
your father is devestated for you,he doesnt want to see you heartbroken,it could still happen someday their is still someone out there for you,the man you love will bring an angel for you to marry ,who knows maybe it will br him reincarnated.i belive your father is going to be ok too,as long as you get bettter.good luck and god bless.
2006-10-02 00:00:52 · answer #5 · answered by †Fakey McFakerson♥ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He could be feeling sadness for you as well as his loss of not having your happiness to share in. I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you do find someone to love you.
2006-10-07 16:50:14 · answer #6 · answered by greylady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant take one answer as gospel. It differs for each person.
2006-10-01 23:59:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋