If you've read my other questions, you've heard that I'm overweight, which is stressful to me. Now a recent thing; I was looking on the internet last night for dresses to wear to dances at my highschool, which I am attending next year (my mom was sitting next to me.) All of a sudden she turns to me and says, "You are not going to homecoming, prom, or any other dance. School is very you education, not socialization." And another,"You can't have a boyfriend until you have a car, insurance, and $9,000 put aside." Which is even more stressful to me, how can she say something like that? How will I ever make any friends (who she says are "good in the beginning".) And just a few minutes ago, my dad yelled at me for not doing my homework, which I could do tommorow. I try to talk to my parents together and seperate, but they always come up with excuses. I just don't know what to do anymore, I'm thinking of leaving by bus after school and live with my friend from college. Any help with this?????
2006-10-01 16:55:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just for you to know I am 13.
2006-10-01 16:57:53 · update #1
I am 85% certain that I'm leaving tommorow, I'd better start packing now.
2006-10-01 17:03:54 · update #2
do your homework when you are supposed to, be obedient to your parents. Life at home will be easier if you do what your parents want. If you have to have money put aside you might look into getting a part time job, it will give you a safe place to socialize as well.
2006-10-01 16:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by LatterDaySaint and loving it 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry sweetie. Are your mum and dad financially strapped for money so that's why so many money issues come up?
No one can know this far in advance if you're going to be asked to a prom or homecoming. It's nice to be able to dream. Perhaps your parents didn't have very good experiences in hs and in their own way are trying to prepare you for the 'hurts' they think you'll have in hs.
Since I don't know if you're parents are recent emigrees or what your cultural background is , it's hard to answer your questions except to say , you will make friends. And yes some of them will not stay your friends, but some of them might. No one knows. Your mum sounds like she has a few trust issues of her own, does she have many friends outside of family?
Right now you're too young to run away, the police will just come and get you and bring you back home.
Can you get an aunt or uncle or a family friend to talk to your parents on your behalf? Explaining to them that being a teenager is stressful enough without them talking mean to you , even though they think they're just setting standards.
Work on losing your weight all this year. If you know how to sew , find the latest fashions and make them yourself. If not save your money and look for classic clothes that will last you a few seasons.
Realize your parents probably have as many anxieties for you as they do about themselves. They're human they make silly statements every so often, out of love and guidance.
Make friends , join clubs and socialize as that is as important as just getting good grades. You're able to use those experiences you have in clubs etc in your work so you'll be a well rounded person. Four years will go faster than you realize and then you'll be applying for colleges. If the situation is still as untollerable then you can apply to go to school elsewhere from where you live.
Good luck sweetie , it will come out fine.
2006-10-02 00:09:42 · answer #2 · answered by Lizzy-tish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your parents obviousy have issues - perhaps they dont want you to get hurt - or maybe there is something deeper than what you think is going on.
you need to sit down and have a chat with your parents - maybe individually - and discuss the problems your having.
If your weight is an issue - try doing something about it - start a fitness regime / exercise class - great way to meet new people.
As for the car / dance issue - the car - well it is ultimatley your chhoice once you are of legal age however if you still live with your parents there is a possibility they will object and may cause problems
the dance - they can obviously stop you from going - but if you talk to them, things might be resolved within a few hours and you and your parents can get along better
2006-10-01 23:59:46 · answer #3 · answered by schmushe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will be under aged and that is going to cause more stress if they have little to finance fun now there will be even less if thing go bad and you'll be brought back home if the courts fallow up a parents complaint that your under aged and you'll be back and it start all over again. you have to be 15 and working to be in Florida on your own get a better plan
2006-10-02 00:49:34 · answer #4 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave! Your parents are saying those things because they care about you. Stay on the down-low for a while and be good. Then see what happens..... Good Luck!!
2006-10-01 23:58:35 · answer #5 · answered by pinkpearl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its got to be way worse than that to make you leave leaving is a last resort you've got a normal parent problem
2006-10-02 00:06:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋