ok i am a gay teen, and i'm not out or anything but just hearing what ppl say about gays. and i'm "out" online like to online friends, but that's all.
anyways, like last night at chili's i was talking to my ma, and she goes "oh isn't that girl bi" and i go "yeah, what does that have to do with anything" and then she makes some eww noise and i go "what" and she goes "that is soo nasty and it's accepted but it shouldn't be" and it just hurt because i am gay.
and today a muslim man told me "thank god for aids and for gays being killed" and going on to say "stone all gays" and it was just horrible.
and then in this section.. ppl are so predjudice.
and what is being done about it? NOTHING. they are banning gay marriage in states. hate crimes is on the rise. muslims are growing, and these ppl want to kill gays, and ugh.
how do i overcome this discrimination? i am on the verge of suicide and i'm sick of being hated for being gay.
2006-10-01 16:54:34 · 28 answers · asked by Me lol 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i don't choose it!! i have battled being gay for 2 years.. crying every night. writing suicide notes. and finally i accepted myself.. so why can't you guys??
2006-10-01 17:03:22 · update #1
Gays and lesbians are no different from anyone else, except in the choice of areas for the quest. Like everyone, we have inadequacies and imperfections, so to state, it doesn't make us less of a person. We, like everyone else, are normal.
Sometimes, it's hard to be honest or be open about it because some people DOESN'T WANT TO HEAR THE TRUTH and the truth is different for everyone.
2006-10-01 19:28:15 · answer #1 · answered by alien_philosophies 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well all you have to do is fight, I've accepted myself for almost a year now. I've battled to stay strong, I've cried many times. What you need is a friend to help you through this. Suicide isn't the answer, plus its good to try to find a place a website where people can relate. This website yeah it is full of bigots and people who love to talk crap about gays, its totally wrong and they are the ones that will be bad paid in the end, karma will bite them in the ***.
People need to understand that its not just gays that get aids its anyone it can even be straight men that have aids. That Muslim is a straight out bigot, ignore all the discrimination going on in this world and just do what you feel is right.
2006-10-01 17:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by Brandon 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off man, suicide is NEVER the answer. I would imagine all gay teens have the thought of suicide cross their minds (hell knows I did) but it never proves anything, never does any good, and only causes hurt and anguish to those left behind.
If you feel that the prejudice against gays, both teenaged or adult, do something about it... come out of the closet and be proud of who you are. The more we segregate ourselves and stay in the closet, the more difficult it becomes for us to be treated as equals. Join or start a Gay/Straight alliance group at your school, look up local teen gay groups in your area.
It won't be easy, and the reality of the situation os that you will probably have to nedure prejudice from both your friends and family. But it will be your mission to educate these people, and show them that being gay is not an abnormality or a disease... it's just who you are.
Good luck, be safe.
2006-10-02 06:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by pceej 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Babydoll,
If you kill yourself, you've let them win... and your death would justify everything that they say. So instead of committing such a selfish act, turn that angst into something creative for our community. Let everyone know that you are gay, and then act in a responsible way. Do NOT play into their misguided stereotypes... do not indiscriminately have sex with every cute guy that you see.. do not get aids,... do not be the butt of the joke. Do join a Growing American Youth program, and meet some other young people that can educate those biggots that discriminate against us all. If there isn't such a group in your area, start one. Everyone there does not have to be gay, but they do have to be gay-friendly... like PFLAG. I think you can find them online and find your local chapter....
Now that I've preached at you, let me arm you with some of our ammunition.... AIDS is spreading and infecting more straights than gays, currently. Not all Muslims are as prejusticed as the man that you overheard...There are just as many "christian" fundamentalists that would see us all burn in hell, too. If hate crimes are truly on the rise, they are on the rise across the board, not just gay-bashing.... As for the gay marriage issue, I am confident that someday it will go before the Supreme Court, and someone will remember the words of our forefathers, " All men are created equal", and those state laws will be repealed, and everyone will have equal marriage rights. I wish that my crystal ball would allow me to see how soon this might happen, but as for now, I have to keep hold of my blind faith in God, and the democrats... The sooner that we get the democrats back in office, the sooner this will all happen. I'm sorry if that sounded a bit preachy, too... but remember that God created us all, and we all have a purpose here. He will end you life on his time, so for now, sit back and make the best of it. It has not been a pleasant road for any of us, but we are still here, and still queer, and still get up each day and go to school, or work, and still face our oppressors..... besides that if we all died, who would they have to hate?
2006-10-01 17:17:31 · answer #4 · answered by taterliquor 3 · 10⤊ 0⤋
first of all, to ms. button21, if you're going to misquote the Bible do it on your own time and not while trying to kick someone while he's down. The verse you were referring to, Romans 6:23, says "For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord". Ya know, there's this new thing that just came out...it's called CONTEXT!
more importantly, to the poster:
if you are really to the point of suicide please talk to someone you can trust, a close friend, your school councelor, or find a local resource through outproud.org or queeramerica.com, there is a lot of hate in the world, but there's also a lot of love and people who want to help you.
A lot of times people say stupid things out of ignorance or misunderstanding, and sometimes out of hate and maybe your mom says thing sometimes because she just doesn't know any better, especially if she doesn't think you're gay. My mom knows I'm gay and even still she says some things that are hurtful.
Please don't hate yourself for being gay, don't think that being gay is some disease that can be overcome or reconciled through enough prejudice. You are a wonderful beautiful person with so much to offer and so much to look forward to. We both know that you don't want to become just another statistic and let the people that are hateful and prejudice win through their deviousness.
Even if you find it hard to love yourself, as we all do at times, know that other people love you, your mother loves you, and people are there to help you.
I know you will make the right decision.
2006-10-01 17:41:37 · answer #5 · answered by bellringerslactate 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I know... I cried almost every night for that issue too... I know my parents will not accept it or whatsoever, so I am not gonna tell them for sure.
Just a few days ago, I am on the verge of suicide too, because I am afraid that I will not be accepted or being made fun of. There is one time that I just want to jump onto the railway and die. But I just didnt have the courage to do it.
But, if my friends or my parents dont accept it, that's ok. I know I have other friends that will support it. Just ignore those stupid homophobics.
Just today, I am thinking what is the purpose of me being alive... and I finally get to the answer... to be happy, to be who you are, and dont let others make you upset.
2006-10-01 18:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by Travis 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear Sweetie:
Please do everything in your power to lift up your spirits. You have to be your own best friend, especially until you find the friends you haven't met yet, from the LGBT community.
Please don't dwell on the thought of taking your life away from we who haven't yet met you. Absolutely do not take to heart the negative things people speak from ignorance or meanness.
Look at these wonderful responses from your empathetic supporters. You see the ratings they got? Each point is like another person stating, "I agree with this". What a great deal of support and love is coming your way. Never, ever, ever give up the fight for your right to express that which is in your heart. Best wishes for your strength and upbuilding.
2006-10-01 19:34:23 · answer #7 · answered by Zeera 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a teenager sucks, and being a gay teenager well I can only imagine how tough that must be for you. Death will come in it's own sweet time, no need to give it any help. First you need to step back and think about all the great things the future potentially has to offer to you. Next try to think up constructive ways to respond when somebody comments negatively about a subject that you care about. And remember that you can't make a difference if you're dead. Who knows maybe the reason you're here is to change peoples minds regarding gay marrage.
2006-10-01 17:24:36 · answer #8 · answered by lifhapnz 3 · 8⤊ 0⤋
YOU are not hated for being Gay..stop listening to sick statements of a few here who have nothing to do but sit at a computer and be evil..their time is coming, and Karma is a very bad thing when you cross it. Trust that each homophobe here will reap the whirlwind in life. Live an honest life filled with joy and BE SUCCESSFUL . Money is always the best revenge, leaving the homophobes to work for us, or at McDonalds. Take heart , there are Millions upon millions of very successful gays...the homophobes are frightend to death of us, and are certainly jealous as hell of us. Rub it in their faces with money and success as they grovel on the doorstep of poverty. Good luck
2006-10-02 05:42:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there guy. The world has come a long way and will go a long way further.
People with attitudes like the ones you described are just slow to develope.
One of the best things I did was to imagine I could go back to when I was a teenager. I told myself that no matter how bad it seemed them things did work out.
Things will work out for you and be better and far happier than you can even imagine now.
Just hang in there. A lot of people are pulling for you.
2006-10-01 18:00:06 · answer #10 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋