i was close to her and kept in contact. for some strange reason im not sad or crying or anything and im very very sensitive. its confusing to me when the people i love around me are crying and upset and im very numb. this is not the first death of someone i love. im strangely just going on with life but feeling nothing. i dont like this at all. whats wrong with me?
2006-10-01 16:31:04 · 20 answers · asked by tiffany m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your grieving your way, you still may cry...If she was sick, you may feel relieved, so why cry...There is nothing wrong with you...
2006-10-01 16:46:09 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. different people mourn at different rates. You may be fine for awhile and then all of a sudden think of her and breakdown and cry. You are not disrespecting her memory by not crying. Mourning someone close is a process that can take up to a year or maybe longer. Give yourself time life will return to normal a little at a time. Death is hard it happens and there is nothing you can do to stop it. It knocks the wind out of us but life all around us goes on like nothing happened. We are left feeling empty but the world goes on and there are daily tasks we must get through so we go on. I'm so sorry you are going through this.
2006-10-01 16:37:59 · answer #2 · answered by bramblerock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you... you had a closeness with your grandma that is comforting you at the moment you need her most... at some point in the future you will see something that reminds you of how much you miss your grandma and you will probably cry... but I think the good relationship you had with her is what is keeping you sane right now. Maybe she passed on to you her comfort and understanding of death through the other death of someone you loved that you've already experienced... why don't you take this peace that you are feeling and use it to bring comfort to those who are crying. Maybe by telling stories of your grandma will help them see her through you!!
2006-10-01 16:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People mostly cry when their loved ones die , with 3 reasons.
1. They worry for their future's difficulties without the deseased's supports.
2. They regret and feel remorseful bcoz they did not treat well to the deseased when he/she was alive.
3. They really miss their attachment and love to deseased./ shoked to encounter the big love string was cut.
For those who have no regret or worry for reason 1 and 2, they will not cry/mourn too much and they will cry only for reason 3.
You might be under reason 3 only.
2006-10-01 16:40:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
many people do this when they have lost someone they love. for a little while the wont feel anything because eithr 1: it hasnt sank in yet. or 2: you are in denial. or 3: you just dont react to loss they way the other people do. maybe you just arent one to break down and cry. but if thats not the case, hopefully it will sink in soon. its not healthy to keep it inside. it just builds up stress.
2006-10-01 16:35:01 · answer #5 · answered by lucia m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your loss. What it sound like you are experiencing are the steps of grieving that people go through, numb, anger, crying and sadness, maybe guilt....Nothings wrong with you this is normal.
2006-10-01 16:35:42 · answer #6 · answered by nene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I am very sorry to hear about your Grandmother, But not to worry sound to me like you are just going through the grief process in your own way, you will cry when you are ready. and when that happens lean of your family and friends for support. what you are feeling is very normal. Again I am very sorry !
2006-10-01 16:36:25 · answer #7 · answered by stormyjoem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, my dear, and I am so sorry that your grandma passed away.......Eventually you will grieve, but maybe now isn't the right time for you.......If you never cry over it, obviously you have found that she is in a much better place and are happy for her.......I feel the same way sometimes when people pass.......When we grieve the loss of someone, we are not crying for them, we are grieving for ourselves......Take care, honey........
2006-10-01 16:34:15 · answer #8 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The greavance cycle:
1) Shock
2) Denial
3) Mourning
4) What If?'s
5) Acceptance
You are most likely still in the shock or denial stage.
2006-10-01 16:42:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened when my great-grandmother died. I am not a girl so I am probably not as emotional, but I did not feel very sad, even though I had been around her my whole life. I don't know what it was, but it worked.
2006-10-01 16:34:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a thing in the world. You are just in shock. I'm sure once things settle down you'll have yourself a good cry over your beloved grandma. I'm sorry for you and your family.
2006-10-01 16:39:17 · answer #11 · answered by JaneDivided 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋