I joined the military and had clean health records before and after basic. About 6 months into my first base i get tested and have Chlamydia. I havent cheated on my wife but we were both sexually active while single. We married 1 month before i left for basic. Could I have caught something from her or another girl and it not shown up on the first test but did on the second, or did she mess around on me while I was gone? She also got pregnant around the time I left. Thats then, this is now. Recently, she has lost all interest in the bedroom and has been going out with girlfriends alot. Coming home extremely late and extremely drunk. She admits that guys buy her drinks at the clubs but she says she tells them she is married and has kids. I also found a guy on her myspace profile that is from the local city. We don't kiss anymore, rarely hug, and she hates when i touch her. If i rub her, grab her butt, anything. Our lives have been pretty stressful lately also. Is she ??
2006-10-01 16:15:21 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you know i really dont know weather or not she is but me and my husband are almost the same way...i dont go out or anything without him (and as far as that you are the husband tell her she cant go) but im the same way...i dont like sex or kissing really anything like that and i know im not, so in her defense (i guess) that might not have anyting to do with being unfaithful, but my advice, if youre in the military i would get somebody whos in with you that she doesnt know to just "be there" to see what shes up too, maybe you could even put them up to trying to pick her up see what happens, but most of all i would talk to her, it sounds like you really love her and youre hurting over the situation, just tell her, maybe shell fess up to something, i know how a quick marriage goes me and my husband were the same way, we got married and 3 mos later he was deployed to iraq and i got pregnant right before he left now hes back and we fight all the time, so i would say bear with her try to get her to stop going out and try to get to the root of the problem...and dont be too proud to seek help...good luck...and by the way dont let any of these answers tell you yes she is or is not unless its someone that knows her first hand, dont be discouraged, talk through it and if you find out shes cheated, you dont have to give up on her, you dont have to stay either, but its true what they say time heals all wounds, it might take 10 years but it all comes down to...is she worth it, is your marriage worth it
2006-10-01 16:24:39 · answer #1 · answered by jes 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The touching thing is a big sign. I thinks she's cheating on you. You know that!!! C'mon man. Everything is right in front of you. If she's out at the clubs, she's lookin for game. You being away serving your country doesn't help. Don't let her do you like that.
2006-10-01 16:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by ima_jabronee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lord .. it seems like you really love this girl. well it sounds like to me that she is cheating on you. do something really special for her then tell her nicely that you want to talk to her. Tell her all the things you just told me and explain to her why you feel this way. Tell her that you love her and you are scared for yaw's relationship. But yes I do think that you caught that because she was cheating on you. And if she doesn't really want you in the bedroom then just be like baby I want to try something new tonight and then maybe do something different in the bedroom. If you are too romantic in bed, then try being rougher. If you are too rough, then try taking it easy for once. LOL good luck :)
2006-10-01 16:25:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, she's not being faithful to you.....those are sure signs that an affair, or many affairs have taken place.
I've been through an affair years ago and I can tell you from experience, the stuff that is going on in your marriage sounds way to familiar and close to home. And from I experienced, it will never happen again.....it was hell!
2006-10-01 16:25:36 · answer #4 · answered by jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry man but the way you tell it 95% chance she is screwing other men or women... Get a test on the kids and leave her... If they are not yours then she will have to deal with it on her own because chances are she has no idea who the father is!
2006-10-01 16:25:55 · answer #5 · answered by sooners83 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say this but I think she is cheating. Start fresh with a new life new relationship whatever, because it sounds like your marriage is on the rocks
2006-10-01 16:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry bro, but she has been about as faithful as Bill Clinton. In all seriousness mate, you need to end this now - your relationship has no future.
Make sure you get in first so you get the upper hand and dont look like a pussy!!!
2006-10-01 16:18:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
time for the marriage councillor thing.This doesn't sound good, Chlamydia is a std, and if you haven't been with some one then I am pretty sure she has.This marriage is in serious trouble, best you get it sorted out asap. for your sake, and get a paternity test as well.
2006-10-01 16:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but it sounds like it. I don't think that particular STD has a large incubation period like HIV where it wouldn't show up on tests. You might think of hiring a PI to be sure.
2006-10-01 16:18:31 · answer #9 · answered by aqua_regia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she may have, sorry hun bc u don't deserve that,. i'm a military brat and i know that most men can't find a women strong enuf to handle the tdys and stuff they are weak and that sux for you and them =(
2006-10-01 16:18:04 · answer #10 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋