Im TERRIFIED of a male gyno?

Question

Im a first time prego and made my first appt with a Dr. I made sure that the Dr. I made my appt was female. When i got into the room I was waiting to meet my new Doctor and in walks this MAN. I litteralty started shaking and asked what happened to the woman, he told me that the Dr I was suppose to see was his wife, and she was busy so he would take over.. my heart rate sky rocketed and I started crying because i didnt want him touching me.. now did i over react , or is it normal to not want to see a male Dr?

Answer 1

I don't think you over-reacted. I refuse to go to a male gyno. If I use an obgyn that's in w/ another group of doctors, I make sure there are NO males in the group. I just don't feel comfortable w/ a male gyno- because, #1- only my husband should get that personal...lol #2- females know what hurts!

Answer 2

I don't think it's an abnormal way to react. But remember that these are doctors. When they examine you, it's not sexual, it's about providing the best prenatal care to you and your baby.

My Ob/Gyn was male and his OB nurse was female. I far prefered dealing with him when it came to exams. His nurse was much less "careful" when poking around. She seemed to have the "I'm a woman and have to go through these things" kinda attitude. But my doctor was always really nice and was aware of the physical discomfort of exams so he was extra careful and asked if there was discomfort. The nurse treated it as routine each time and just went through the motions of the exam.

You should feel comfortable with your doctor. Meet them first. Just remember that a man can be just as good a obstetrician as a woman can, sometimes better.

Also, keep in mind this obstetritian will be responsible for your unborn baby's life. You should do a little research and find the best possible doctor possible. It would be better to find a male doctor that has more knowledge of high risk pregnancies and other potential complications than simply a female that has far less experience.

Answer 3

Your feelings are your feelings, honey, and you don't have to justify them. However, it might be difficult for you if you can't come to terms with male doctors. They aren't perverts or predators, and to them an exam is probably very dull, not at all a turn-on. The problem in some cases is that you don't know who will be on call when you go into labor. My doctor's office was four men and two women and unless you had a planned C-section, you got whomever you got. There was no way to rig it to get the women doctors. I know it's the case where I live, and I assume it's nationwide--when my male doctors do any sort of naked stuff (pelvic exam, pap smear, etc.), there HAS to be a female in the room. By law. So whenever my doctors did any sort of internal check, they had to drag in one of the nurses, sort of to stand guard and make sure nothing inappropriate happened. Good luck feeling better or finding an all female practice!

Answer 4

It's normal for you to feel this way especially if it's your first time to see one. A lot of women prefer women gynecologist to male ones. I personally feel more comfortable having a female doctor in this case because I will be able to ask questions that will help me.

But don't get me wrong cos there are a lot of very good male gynecologists out there as well. If he is recommended by a relative or someone who knows him personally, then I guess it would be okay. If not, you can ask the hospitals near your area for recommendations or referrals for female doctors.

Your doctor should have advised you before hand that she was not going to be available to see you rather than shock you with the presence of her husband instead. I think it's time you switched doctors.

Answer 5

In the beginning I preferred a female..I didn't react as much as you but eventually I got over it. Simply because there's always someone down there now..lol I have four doc. at my hospital and I have been like 4 times already for them to stop labor. I would rather have everything be okay than not have anything done until there is a female to do it. It will get better. Congrats on being pregnant and hope that everything works out well for you.

Answer 6

In the practice that I went to, there was 1 female and 2 males. My primary doc was the female, but I had to see both males at least once in case one of them was on call when I went into labor. At first, I was nervous, but soon got over it. I went back for all 3 of my pregnancies. I ended up liking one of the men the best and saw him the most. When my daughter was born with severe problems, his quick thinking saved her life. And trust me, you will have so many check ups through this pregnancy, that by the end, you won't care who's down ther lookin'! And after you give birth with a doc and a team of nurses in the room, all modesty will fly out the window. Just try to be calm, yours is not the first he's ever seen and there is nothing special about it to him. He's in the business of who haas and has seen a bunch. If you are still scared, request that a female nurse be present in the room for all procedures. They are there most of the time anyway. Good luck with your new baby!!!!

Answer 7

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Answer 8

yikes...what did he do?
anyway, i was in the same boat as you. i even put of my first gyne appt for several years because i didn't want to go to a male dr. when i got pg, i found a woman dr, and then she told me that they rotate drs during the pregancy so that i would get a chance to know the other drs in the practice in case i went in labor on a day she was off. my first appt with one of the male drs was ok...no internal or anything, but then i had another appt with a different male dr that wanted to do an internal for whatever reason...and i was soooo freaked out. anyway, i got thru it. in fact, that's nothing---wait til you deliver your baby---all modesty goes out the window. i had my daughter in an emergency C--and was like this huge NAKED beached whale in a room full of 15 people...most men...augh. anyway, i have 3 children now. before my last, we moved and i had to find a new dr. i picked a woman again, but due to a an emergency--in walked this young guy. i ended up staying with him thru the whole pregnancy--and liked him so much, i borrowed his first name (a name i already loved) to name my son! and to make you feel better, my mom cried at her first appt too. i think you are fine!!

Answer 9

Lots of women only want females to look at them. I am one. I don't like the idea of a man looking at things my husband hasn't seen.
I had to see a male gyno a few months ago and my B/P went through the roof!

I don't think they are allowed to up and change Dr's on you wihtout your permission. Call the medical board in your area.

And you don't HAVE to go through with any exam that bothers you. Wether the Dr be male or female. If you don't like/ trust the Dr then don't let that person examine you. If the Dr doesn't take it well, that proves YOUR point!

Answer 10

I don't feel ypu over reacted at all, but, a male dr can be just as good as a female, why don't you look in your local phone book and call another Dr. if you are not comfortable seeing this Dr. good luck to you.. and congrads on the new baby.. what ever you decide just make sure you do a back growund check on your dr...