Im not sure exactly how much he does it, but I have caught him in more than one occasion. Anyways, I caught him in the act again tonight and I got mad because we have an excellent sex life almost everyday we have sex. I don't understand why he feels he needs to do that. He asked me why do I get so mad about it. He said that its not a big deal, but I feel it is. Any guys that answer this can you let me understand why or something. And females can you tell me if you would be mad too?
2006-10-01 16:08:36 · 22 answers · asked by Vennessa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I wldnt be mad bc I feel like this is a natural thing. Sometimes guys do this bc they have a high sex drive and if they masturbate then they wont attack you every moment of the day. Although u 2 may have a good sex life he may still enjoy pleasing himself.
2006-10-01 16:14:08 · answer #1 · answered by Teapot23 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't see a problem with it as long as he doesn't start shooting blanks with you because he has spent too much time alone. As long as his "habit" is not interfering with other areas of his life like getting to school or work on time, then he should be OK. If this really bothers you then you could try asking him to come looking for you when he feels the urge. Maybe you could help him out. I can't speak for women, but as a guy I know we all masturbate... not just once in a while either. If a wife runs out to the store to pick up a gallon of milk, we masturbate. If you leave for work before we have to, we masturbate... if you fall asleep at 9:00 on a Saturday night, we masturbate. So you see, there is very little chance that you could offer yourself to your man so often that he would fore go self pleasuring himself. For that to happen you would have to quit work or school and just stay at home in fishnets 24/7. Of course, that might be fun too! So just talk to him about it, I am sure he does not think of this as being selfish, just filling a need. Plus it probably helps him to last longer when he is with you. Good Luck to you!
2006-10-01 23:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do the same sometimes. It isn't a big deal, I used to do it alot because my wife didn't like sex much. So instead of me going out and looking for someone else I just kept it to myself, of course she never knew. Now we have been separated for 1 1/2 years and my girlfriend and I do it everyday sometimes three times a day. I like to masterbate once in a great while, I would say to you is that he is just a very horny guy. Be happy he isn't seeking someone to do it for him. Have you tried to give him a hand job, maybe you would like that better and he too ?
2006-10-01 23:16:05 · answer #3 · answered by schlongy1969 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't be mad, sometimes a guy just likes a little quick relief without the full effort that having sex requires. If he is spanking the monkey even though you two are going at it daily, then he just has a high sex drive. Maybe the two of you should masturbate together- that could spice things up.
2006-10-01 23:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by Trip S 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm.....well, the thing is that most guys do it as more of a stress relief than anything. I dont doubt that you have a great sex life, and I dont doubt that both of you are happy. He is probably used to masturbating, and this habit is probably something that he has been doing for years now. He most likely started in high school. This habit is probably something that gives him comfort when he is having problems in life.
I wouldnt take it personally. He most definetly probably loves you, and having sex with you, but...just allow him to masturbate. its not something that really hurts you, and eventually, it might allow you to ask something of him later.
2006-10-01 23:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by pyro_briar 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he probably is addicted to having sex or loves the feeling. People are different, u must remember this. lol. Orr, maybe he is a little too horny. There is such thing as a sex addict. You can pretty much ask the same question...why do men who have great sex lives still purchase porn? I guess women will never know. I do not think i would necessarily get upset, maybe one day u may consider joining him? lol.
2006-10-01 23:14:16 · answer #6 · answered by riley715 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be mad. If you want to have sex more often then tell him so... don't feel like you're not doing your job because he masterbates... he must have a high sex drive... nothing more than that. Let him masterbate... you can masturbate too. You guys can masturbate together then later have sex. If you upset that you don't get to watch... tell him... but really don't feel like you're not enough for him.
2006-10-01 23:11:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think I would, masturbation is a selfish act. the sex act is to be shared with the one you love and masturbating all the time makes me think he is one very selfish dude. don't get me wrong there are times when i feel like i have to but all the time is just an excuse that he can pleasure himself and not you.
2006-10-01 23:14:39 · answer #8 · answered by mo_nut53 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you shouldn't be mad. Sometimes a guy just likes to get off without "making love" and foreplay or having to think about relationship issues or any damn thing. God gave guys lots of stresses and one great stress releiver. Back off and appreciate what he gives you. Sheesh!
2006-10-01 23:12:11 · answer #9 · answered by HomeSweetSiliconValley 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
i guess i would be mad if it were me but men want sex all the time so there has to be some way to let it all out. u dont want ur man to get blue balls do u?
2006-10-01 23:12:12 · answer #10 · answered by meltedplasticbag 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋