my husband and i have been married for a little less than two years and we fight all the time, we also have a blended family and we also fight about my oldest son...who he claims and raises, but we fight about discipline, ideas on great discipline and perfect child rearing would be much appreciated, any advice on making a yound marriage work
2006-10-01 16:06:08 · 9 answers · asked by jes 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should set aside some time for the whole family each week. An activity that everyone will enjoy and that everyone agrees on. He'll still play video games alot, but you'll just have to put up with that. At least you'll have one time a week doing something enjoyable, though.
As far as the kid goes, you have to sit the husband down and decide on a plan for alot of different issues that have/will come up. Making a plan ahead of time and not relying on spur-of-the-moment discipline decisions would do you guys alot of good.
2006-10-01 16:15:36 · answer #1 · answered by aqua_regia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a little late to enforce discipline when the father figure acts like a child . He is already influencing your son with his own behavior . It won't get any better . Two years is a long time , but think of the rest of your life like this . .It takes two to work anything out . A man glued to video games isn't a good prospect .
2006-10-01 19:16:38 · answer #2 · answered by missmayzie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess why I am on this site? It is because my husband stole the TV for his Xbox!!!
I don't have the solution but I feel your pain.
Dr. Phil says that the biological parent is the only one who can discipline the child if the child was over 5 years old when the step-parent came into the family. The step-parent's job is to back up the biological parent (not say yes when the other parent says no).
2006-10-01 16:15:14 · answer #3 · answered by Elaura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, video game is more of an outlet for most people especially the male population. I also play video game a lot because it helps me let out all my stress, frustration and gives me fun. As for the conflict between your husband and oldest son. That is when they both act like kids struggling to get control of the game. I suggest to divert the attention of one of them while the other is playing the video game. If your husband is playing and your oldest son wanted to, just being him out for ice cream and if it's the other way around well... try to be creative. Avoid letting them argue over it. That would not be emotionally healthy and it may be a start of something not nice. Remember it all boils down to basic human emotions of wanting it. We still have a child's mind and most of us outgrows it but a lot of us still uses it as a fallback. Try to look understanding, just take a look at their faces when they are playing and if you take it away, it looks like taking a candy from a child.
2006-10-01 16:29:05 · answer #4 · answered by George S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you're fighting over discipline, is because you won't allow him to punish your kids. Are your kids somehow more special than his. Stop defending your offspring every second and let him do the job you married him to do, which is BE THE MAN OF THE HOUSE. If you don't and continue to undermind him, he WILL leave. Trust me, I did.
2006-10-01 21:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try playing video games with him, maybe you'll find there not that bad, everyone fights with me about my video game playing all the time..But one thing I tell you is don't fight with him when he's playing the video game, cause then he'll probably say something he doesn't mean, my temper is worse when i'm playing video games. For the child try talking about it when no one is upset. good luck
2006-10-01 16:18:45 · answer #6 · answered by jaylee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a step parent is the harest job ive ever had try not to let children see you disagree on disipline thats like blood to a shark work it out in private if he flys off the handle and disiplines without your consent work that out later you always change the punishment later when all has cooled down we want to resolve all these issuse now when we are all heated up the worst time
2006-10-01 16:17:30 · answer #7 · answered by dpjrocheleau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for the video game thing, in his defense, people have a high temper when they play video games, especially if they're losing. try asking him to do something else he likes that both of you like. for ur son, i have one word thats pretty hard to understand for most couples: compromise
2006-10-01 16:10:01 · answer #8 · answered by Kel Kel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried playing games with him.. my husband and i used to fight over them and i tried playing with him and now we don't fight over them we play together...
and as for the child you have to do what works for BOTH of you.
2006-10-01 16:09:02 · answer #9 · answered by Tonya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋