help!!!!!?????

Question

my ex bf is soo weird he calls me and i will answer his calls. then we have like a normal conversation when all of a sudden he starts saying that we need to move on and that by talking to eachother were just hurting ourselves.....and i say ok.
Problem is: after that he calls me again and i will answer again and the same thing will happen. then he tells me that whenever he calls i should ignore him and not answer.
that just doesnt make any sense he wants me to be responsible for his actions. i dont get it thats the dumbest thing i have ever heard. what should i do? what do you think?

Answer 1

No honey ignore his calls and see what happens. How old is this guy? 12? Anyhow ignore him, he wants you to think about him and he misses you but his pride wont let him say anything. You guys are EX's for a reason. Dont bother you wont die.

Answer 2

This Person is either testing You, or is having a melt down. Both are bad. This is not normal behavior. Ask Yourself has everything been good up until now. Has He ever been controlling? Worried about where You are before? Accused You of things? I hope the answer to all those was no, but if they are yes, You need to take some steps.

Call Your Family, or Friends, and just let Someone be aware of what is going on. They will know Your relationship better than We will. See if They have concerns, or even if They have had concerns before, but haven't shared them with You. Tell Them You need for Them to be very honest. If They feel, and You feel uneasy AT ALL, then go Somewhere else, for a while.

Now if everything is o.k., and none of that applies, and please think very hard about it. Then stop answering His calls. You will be able to tell how this is working by seeing if He stops calling or continues to call over and over, and becoming harsher and harsher. Also just to be on the safe side, if You know Your Neighbor's let Them know, so that They can keep an eye out for His car, or anything unusual. If this scares You, ask Yourself, does He scare You?

May God Keep You Safe

Answer 3

Listen to Sprout's Mom...
He is your self-described EX boyfriend, right? Don't answer the phone the FIRST time, otherwise this will go on and on forever!! PLEASE - take it from experience - 30 years worth - it will never end - even when you're 40 and finally divorce the guy.
In actuality, he is abusing you. He's keeping you tied to him by means of the telephone. YOU must stop this. He'll keep it up as long as you let him.
What do you think will happen when you DON'T answer the 'phone? Wait and find out. I don't think you'll like it. Then you must tell him firmly to never call you again. Make notes of when you tell him to stop. Tell him you're doing this. If he persists - you MUST call the Sheriff. What he's doing NOW is harassment. Here it's a misdemeanor (crime) because he's using the 'phone. But, if you're encouraging him, as you are now, you don't give yourself much leverage.
DON'T ANSWER THE PHONE!!!
Good Luck...the guy is sounding like a stalker...

Answer 4

If you have caller I.D. and know it's him, don't answer the phone. ex's can do strange things sometimes. My ex once told me the reason we broke up was because I never told him I wanted him to stay home with me instead of going out with the guys. (he ended up finding another girlfriend-hence the breakup) I don't know what's in their heads. If you did, they probably wouldn't be ex's.

Answer 5

Some people are naturally dumb. Or weird.

You should just stop answering the phone. Or tell him to stop calling, then hang up before he can say anything.

Answer 6

I would tell him to stop calling and you'd both be better off, and I would probably change my number and move on

Answer 7

It sounds like he's schizophrenic, don't pick up the calls anymore.

Answer 8

Change your number so theres no way he can get in contact with you. He's playing games with your head....Ditch him and find a MAN!

Answer 9

Easy...get caller ID, and don't answer his calls.

Answer 10

get caller id and dont answer wen he calls.