The thing is me and my boyfriend are going through some things right now, and he doesn't know that I'm talking to my ex-boyfriend everyday. I'm suppose to be with my boyfriend tomorrow and Tuesday I'm suppose to be with my ex. the thing is I still love my ex and was thinking about getting back with him but I have a boyfriend but he doesn't pay me any attention. I really don't know what to do except just go out with both of them and see how it will work in a month, but i'll feel kind of bad doing that so i've change my mind. What should I do? Please I Need Help!!!
2006-10-01 16:02:02 · 17 answers · asked by Angel G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
these silly relationships mean nothing. Boink the old bf, keeping boiking the new one if you like as wel. stop considering bf to be some wonderful and lasing relationship. It is what it is, a boy friend. Not a love, husband or hopefully a relative. Get real.
2006-10-01 16:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fact from fiction, truth from diction. Lets strip it down and size up the players.
You: You have this fear of lose(the peasent b/f)vs the desire to gain what you had before(with the ex). So you are seeing the ex on the sly. But you want to have your cake and eat it too, Because to do not want the present b/f to think of you as some b**** because you dumped him for the ex. If he spontaniously dumped you, you'd be happy because you will not have to get off the fence yourself because he would shove you to the side you wanted to be on in the 1st place.
The ex: If it was so great before with him, why is he the ex? And if that issue that split you up has not been resolved isn't it like getting back into the same muddy clothes you took off last week? Does the ex want to do more with you than jump your bones? You didn't mention he wanted to go to the show, shopping, bocci balling or anything else with you. And after you take him back, once the sex got old again will there be other things to drive you apart yet again?
The b/f: Why is he inattentive? Did you always mention the ex or compare him to the ex? Because you are still in love with the ex was it YOU who made him distant because you could never get close or emotionally vested in him? Maybe you rushed a relationship with the current b/f because you could not stand to go it alone. Had seperation issues. If you have to sneak around his back, you are doing him a disservice. Would you want him doing the same with another girl to YOU? If you do not want to be with him but with the ex. Make a clean break. It will be better if he "discovers" it or hears it on the grapevine. It is messy either way it goes in these sort of things
I would say walk from them both, the ex because more of the same produces more of the same. and nothing seem to be any different from what you mentioned. and the current b/f because you have no vested feelings for him. If you can sneak around on him, you do not even have that much respect for him. And you can not even have a relationship where there is no respect.
2006-10-02 00:46:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you do ANYTHING you need to sort out your feelings. The one thing you can't do is date them both. However they may act, that's not fair to either one and it's not right. First try talking to your current boyfriend and see what he says when yoyu share your feelings. Then if things don't work out, maybe you should talk to him about ending the relationship. And then, if you feel that it's right, go back and talk to your ex-boyfriend about the situation. If you really can't sort out your feelings, then try not seing either one for a few weeks to see what happens.
2006-10-01 16:36:01 · answer #3 · answered by suburbanthrills 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating two people at one time. Hmmm. Does that sound right to you?
You need to break it off with your boyfriend because you're not ready to have a relationship right now. You need to think about what you want.
2006-10-01 16:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First is your bf the black mailing type, cus he cood use it to his advantage, if not and you think ur feelings for him r still a bit strong go for it but if ur planning not to break up with ur present boy frend then make it very clear 2 ur X very very clear that u r not getting back together
2006-10-01 16:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by kewl chiik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhmm, I used to have a girlfriend for years who starting talking to her ex as well...For the sake of your boyfriend(if you give a fuuck), pick one and stick with it, dont play around with your ex and stay in your relationship you selfish bastarrd...its not right. Either dont see you current boyfriend or dont see your ex. stop thinking about only yourself.
2006-10-01 16:06:09 · answer #6 · answered by James 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with ur ( your ) boyfriend now and get together with you ex because your boy friend now doesn't realy even pay that much attention to u
2006-10-01 20:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds to me that you need a time out from both of them until you are sure. you first have to ask yourself why it didnt work out with the ex the first time.dont cheat on anyone because what comes around,goes around.
2006-10-01 16:06:03 · answer #8 · answered by tajura001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you still have feelings for your ex, why did you even start a new relationship with someone else?? . . you're just leading him on and eventually you're gonna hurt his feelings . . . if you're still hooking up with your ex, you need to be honest with the new guy and leave him alone . .
2006-10-01 16:06:13 · answer #9 · answered by ♥LoisLane♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let your ex boyfriend have sex with you. you need more libido. After all, you can use your ex boyfriend's ******** practice to perfect your ******** skills. Your boyfriend will be very pleased after you perfect your ******** skills.
2006-10-01 16:04:31 · answer #10 · answered by Symbolic User 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋