my gf was rapped a year ago and iv been with her since. I dont pressure her or anything but i am a guy and i want to get some action. Isnt she spose to be done with this she isnt talking or laughing or anything and when i go to touch her she freaks like im going to rape her. Why the hell isnt she over this? ? ? How much more time does she need?!?! Should i just move on or am i gona look like a asshole who bailed when it got rough.
2006-10-01 15:55:00 · 8 answers · asked by TiM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
wow dude this sucks,i would encourage her to find some professional help and maybe go with her to understand a little of what she is going thru..as far as the time,it will take all she needs..sounds like she is depressed bad with the no talking and when the smile has left her face ,that is your first clue..as far as moving on this is your decision,but bailing on someone in thee time of need no matter what isn't cool..good luck~alann~
2006-10-01 16:06:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, your gf was raped a year ago and you can't wrap your head around why she's having trouble being intimate with you?!?!
It might take her years to get over it, if she even can get over it, some people don't. The important thing is to be there for her emotionally and to get her some help dealing with this. If you bail, you might look like an asshole, but dude, right now you're sounding like one - and I don't think you are, otherwise you would have left her by now and you wouldn't be wondering what's up.
Take your time, get her help and eventually you'll be intamate again, and probably closer than you can imagine.
Good Luck!
Aloha!!
2006-10-01 23:02:08 · answer #2 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your going to look like an asshole who bailed when it got rough...She's been through something extremely dramatic and terrifying, is it any wonder she's still afraid? Try placing yourself in her shoes and then you may understand. If you really loved and cared for her, this shouldnt be an issue, and all you should be thinking of doing is ways of helping her cope with this. Stop being a jackass.
2006-10-01 23:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Damn thats a REALLY tough situation. You gotta try to talk to her and tell her you support her but she is putting you in an awkward position and your starting to feel like the relationship is dimishing..shhit like that. GOOD LUCK man, i mean that. Just talk to her about it, without sounding too selfish though(or at least try not to)
2006-10-01 23:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by James 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait for her. if u really love her, wait until she is ready and she can handle. maybe she wants to wait til marriage or maybe she is just a bit frightened. tell her to see a therapist and help her mind calm down and so she doesn't fear anymore. and talk to her first. tell her to bring out emotions, to tell you why she won't touch you. just help her through times, do some romantic and fun things, and make her feel comfortable and happy with you. ur relationship should heal in no time.
2006-10-02 09:37:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if someone raped her she might never get over it. maybe you're doings oemthing in the same way as the person who raped her did and it freaked her out
2006-10-01 23:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by justasking 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
delicate situation friend, but you need to give her love and as much affection as possible. she needs to trust again, and you have to prove that you love her, and that this isnt a sex thing only with you. she needs her barriers to be brought down slowly and gently, so be patient it will be worth it.
2006-10-02 10:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by bekir b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
rapped.... I guess she knows how to rap. That's good. I wish I can get a girlfriend who know how to rap well.
Unless you mean rape, then I suggest that you should move on to another girl.
2006-10-01 23:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by Symbolic User 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋