2006-10-01 15:53:24 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
just tell her. there is no easy way to tell a person what they dont wont to hear.
2006-10-01 15:56:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you tell your spouse that you had an affair to me is irrelevant at this time ,the questions that you should be asking yourself is if you want to make your relationship work and really mean it,Since the dawn of time men and women alike are fighting the never ending battle of fidelity ,since there are always better and better than better ,you fulfill your life when you are contented with what you have and cleave to it like it is the last thing that you own,you have taken your spouse for granted ,now you have to dance on hot coals,if you did not have the feelings that you deserve better you would have never done it ,my suggestion to you is if you are not sincere in giving her the respect that she deserves you should not say anything at all, just pack your bags and leave,but there,s a downside ,you may never be able to live with yourself be you a man or a woman,pray that your heart is in the right place for true love is hard to find,god bless.
2006-10-01 16:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by delmy d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question....But, how to tell your spouse you had an affair is a difficult answer. The truth will set you free, but you might get killed in the process. All I can say is good luck.
2006-10-01 15:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by Emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My honest suggestion is counseling - to help you sort it out and find the best way to tell her IF you feel you must (if you think the marriage is over - don't hurt her any further by telling her - just END it!). If you want the marriage to work - it might be best if you suggested marriage counseling BEFORE telling her. You could arrange with the counselor to tell her while in his/her office so that those initial reactions can be dealt with easier. Either way - you have to live with what you did and know there will be consequences. I am married to my second husband now for 8 years and wouldn't dream of cheating - HOWEVER, I did it during my first marriage - and counseling helped me realize I did it because I wasn't happy - and I never told him I did it, but I did end the marriage. Bottom line - figure out what you want out of your current marriage.
2006-10-01 16:02:17 · answer #4 · answered by Kristen G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you plan on doing it again, or getting a divorce, or the other women has threatened to tell your wife, I wouldn't say anything to her. You're the one that screwed up so why are you dumping it on her? As far as she knows she is the love of your life, why shatter that? Confession is good for the soul I guess. But I think you should live with the guilt so you remember to never cheat again.
2006-10-01 16:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you do not tell-sometimes telling is only unloading the problem and making more people miserable. Before telling consider how much good it will do to how many people and how much harm to how many people. May be better to tell a therapist or other professional.
2006-10-01 15:59:34 · answer #6 · answered by Elizabethfrny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say a word and go to your grave with your secret. I had an affair and I will never tell my husband. Girl what are you thinking. DON"T DO IT!!!! You live with your conscience which is really overrated. Men do it all the time.
2006-10-01 15:56:48 · answer #7 · answered by cufflinkro 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
that's a difficult question..for the record i didn't have any affair but if this will happen to me..goodlord i cannot forgive myself...but i will make sure he's on a good mood before explaining to him what happened, what's the reason behind that affair and why it happened...then i will ask for his forgiveness and i will understand if he will not accept it and ask for a separation..but i hope it will not happen to me
2006-10-01 15:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by harukashin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good on you for being a man and confessing. It takes a lot of guts to do what your about to. Honesty is the best policy, explain to her why and if she wants to hear every detail, you better be prepared to spill. She will be devastated. Why would you do this anyway?
2006-10-01 15:58:37 · answer #9 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
on the phone or in a letter otherwise it gets physical and the man always go to jail but why would you want to tell do you know shes gonna find out and you dont want to lose if not then move on tell her its over why hurt her anymore
2006-10-01 15:58:42 · answer #10 · answered by dpjrocheleau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What possible reason might you have? is it guilt? remember you can not undo anything especially words that have been spoken. If there is a possibility she will find out from others then you will have to fess up other wise keep your lip and fly zippered
2006-10-01 15:57:52 · answer #11 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋