Can people change really? Also do people deserve a second chance? Even for serious misakes and offenses?
2006-10-01 15:39:04 · 17 answers · asked by hoondong92 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Can change, but not 100%. We are who we are. Some people do deserve a second chance, but will they be given the 2nd chance is a different story altogether. This is a stereotype society. One mistake is enough to let people forget the good deeds that you have done previously.
2006-10-01 15:47:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes they can if they are sincere enough. Depending on the seriousness of said mistakes and offenses would determine what retribution must occur for a second chance. A second chance may not be deserved but is necessary, and in good order, if a person is truly willing to work toward making a positive change. It's a tough choice to make as it involves changing human nature (sometimes referred to as "the nature of the beast"). It requires perseverance to avoid regressing back into that former state which initially brought on the need for a change.
Mankind's fate is now hanging in the balance. Never before has annihilation become so prevalent in determining our future existence. Nations are composed of people. If people desire to change themselves for the greater good then it is possible for entire nations to do the same. Not only should we want to change but we surly need to change for our second chance may very well be our last chance.
2006-10-01 21:30:25 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I kind of agree when they say people can change, but only if THEY want to, no one can make them change. People are who they are, whether it's good or bad as my dad tells me. I don't know what you mean by people change when they get older, because if that's the case, what happened to me? I am still the same as I was as a child and it hasn't given me much happiness. Anyway, about the second chance, i'd have to say it depends on what they've done. Cheating, hell no, no 2nd chance. I guess it just depends on the communication and the amount of love you have for one another to be able to allow a second chance. Now, if they've lost your trust, it would have to take some time to earn that trust again.
2006-10-01 16:07:13 · answer #3 · answered by Rebel6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, and yes.
Let me tell you a story...I used to be into drugs and alcohol. I lied to my parents and completely ruined my life. That started when I was 14.
Now Im 19, have a job, am in college, and have been clean for a year...I still live at home because I am close to my family now.
How did this happen? I got sent to a wilderness rehab program. Now Im not saying that whoever you are talking about needs to be sent away...but different things work for different people but anyone can change.
I am living proof that people can change. No one in the world had a reason to ever trust me again yet, when they gave me a chance, I wanted to prove myself trustworthy. It's hard to trust someone after they've made a serious mistake but forgiveness is a key in helping you both heal.
Good luck!!!
2006-10-01 16:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by suzanne g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know I have, thank God. And I am also aware that I have been given more than " a second chance", more like 7 or 8 of them through my life. I finally became willing to change my behavior and attitude and things started to improve very quickly. But it took a while for me to see the consequences of my thoughtless behavior and actions. And now I literally thank God every day.
If people are aware that their behavior has harmed others and they are WILLING to become better then, yes, they "deserve" a second chance. If their behavior is still harmful and they are NOT willing to change, then I feel that they have sort of "blown it".
I have an older sister who continually "pushes the envelope" and has been given quite a few chances to change but she doesn't think her behavior hurts anyone else.
Does any of this help or make sense?
All will be well...if you WANT it to be.
2006-10-01 15:57:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think ppl can change because coz life never stays the same so does the ppl and you can always be forgiving depending on the mistakes and offenses ppl made if they have hurt ur family then no second chance otherwise give them one more chance
2006-10-01 15:51:56 · answer #6 · answered by mrdeeds_1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure people can change but mostly and only if they want to. People naturally change as they grow older and their life experiences change their views. But if someone disses you on basic human courtesy it's tough to forgive and forget. Your decision is based on how bad the offense was.
2006-10-01 15:43:33 · answer #7 · answered by Janet lw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes people can change. just look at me! :) ok so you cant really, but i use to have an eating disorder, and i changed and got my life back on track. also, everyone deserves a second chance, but not a third
2006-10-01 15:45:11 · answer #8 · answered by kiss the cook 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well....ask yourself those questions....are you capable of change? would you want a second chance even if you made a serious mistake? i would venture to guess your answer would be yes. and i think that it should be yes. we all change constantly....that is the beauty of being human. we have the ability to correct our weaknesses and downfalls and hopefully turn them into strengths.
best wishes.....
2006-10-01 17:33:59 · answer #9 · answered by echolily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What serious mistakes u talking about here? Generally, 9 out of 10 ppl who say they change, havent change. Do u notice they change ? or do that nasty ppl self declare they change?
2006-10-01 15:51:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋