is he cheating ?

Question

My husband's behavior has totally changed - he's always angry at me, picks fights, says i should be more sexy, is buying new clothes, and as we are long distance we usually chat on internet but for a long time now he doesn't come to the net until very late everyday. I asked him many times and he says no he has no woman but today when i asked him he answered by asking me Why would i think this about him ? he is also obsessed with kinky sex and asked if we could have a threesome a few months ago. This made me a total paranoid.

Answer 1

cheatin!

Answer 2

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. In my experience, most women who are not crazy can usually tell when the guy is cheating. It's just a gut feeling that almost always turns out to be right.

Asking for a threesome in a relationship that's on the rocks is usually a HUGE hint that one of the partners is either already with someone else or seriously tempted to do step out. In a healthy, fun relationship when both partners want to 'spice it up' it's different. But that doesn't sound like your situation.

If I were you, I'd be asking myself if the relationship is worth fighting for. Maybe the easiest way to find that out is to determine if HE is willing to fight for it. But the sad truth is that if someone cheats, they'll probably do it again. It's usually better to move on.

Answer 3

You completely have the right to be paranoid. First of all, he shouldn't EVER ask you to "be more sexy." He sounds like one of those guys that is obsessed with kinky sex and doesnt think much about the person he's doing it with. Also, he's away from home; a sex craved man deprived of sex.... definate cheating material.

You didn't mention if you have any children... if you don't- WONDERFUL. Because if you need to ever get out of this, you don't want to drag children into the picture.

But sweetheart you need to be firm. This is your husband here, and you have the right to know what he's doing. Do everything to your power to find out what he's up to... even if it means sticking your nose into his business. Because the truth is: His business is YOUR business, and can affect you in every way.

Good luck!

Answer 4

He might not be, but however he is on his way,, he might of found a freaky freak on the net and wants to try new things, am not sure why your married but living seperate but that might be half the problem . If he is there is really nothing you can do about it unless your both are sharing the same roof!! Men have needs and woman make there selves available and you keep asking when he tell you the truth then what! Your heart already knows the answer..

You have to make up your mind what are you going to do about it since your not living together

Answer 5

He may not be cheating, but he's really angry at you. That is very hostile behavior. Stop asking him if he's cheating cause he's not going to tell you anyway. If he wants something you aren't comfortable with and won't relent on it, there's no reason you have to put up with that. If the tables were turned and you acted that way with him and wanted him to do something distasteful, would he do it? I'm a firm believer in giving what you get. If you don't get what you want, get out. Are the two of you not living together??? Why are you talking online???

Answer 6

first of all iam not married and i never have been but what ur telling sounds like something is definitely going on the fact that he asked to have a threesome is proof enough if he loved you and really respected you he would have never asked you to do something like that hes asking you to violate your bedroom and body with a complete stranger yes i know ppl do that nowadays but i don't think married couples do that the fact that Ur married to someone means Ur content with ur partner in every way including sexual of course doing the same thing gets boring but that's when you get creative in other ways bottom line somethings up and u need to find out what that is.

Answer 7

I THINK YOU ALREADY KNEW THE ANSWER BEFORE YOU CAME ON HERE. I GUESS A PART OF YOU WAS HOPING THAT AT LEAST SOMEONE WOULD SAY NO.

THE FACT THAT THE RELATIONSHIP IS LONG DISTANCE,DOES NOT HELP. HE IS MORE THEN LIKELY PICKING UP GIRLS ONLINE.

TWO WRONGS DO NOT MAKE A RIGHT, BUT YOU SHOULD MEET UP WITH A MAN AND SEE WHERE IT GOES. YOU ARE A WOMEN WHO GETS LONELY ALSO.

Answer 8

BIG F*CKING SIGN!if youir bf is changing sexual habbits, that means he is not satisfied with you so he's finding it somewhere else, also the buying clothes thing. if you nothice he starts wearing better clothes of if he grooms himself better, wears nicer calogne etc... that is also a big sign, because he is trying to look good for other chicks or his other partner. you should maybe take him a suprise lunch to work once a week and see what happens. snoop arround a little more. i know i would!

Answer 9

i would have to say yes i have been there and thats almost the same thing and when we would talk on the phone he was short sometimes like someone was around and would be like i will call you in a min i am really busy and i would be the one calling him back for the 3some that is his way of inviting her into your bed get out now

Answer 10

When a man picks a fight it is so he has a reason to get out of the house when, there is no other reason. Most likely he is cheating.

Answer 11

Yup. You're done.
Why in the hel1 do you have a long distance relationship with your husband? I don't care if you both have the most fabulous jobs in the world, you're asking for it.