I have seen my best friends husband coming out of a hotel twice with another woman. Do I tell my friend? If she wasnt pregnant I wouldn't be so concerned. What if telling her causes her health problems. she is only 4 months along. Do you think its best to wait? Not tell her at all? Or tell her now before she finds out I know and didnt tell?
2006-10-01 14:59:43 · 34 answers · asked by Mom 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is a very hard question because she is pregnant and this is her husband she might for give him just because of the baby. I know you don't want to tell because you don't want her to stress and lose the baby that's understandable but she is your friend and she needs to know the Truth you might need a picture of her husband and the women he probably say you are lying or you want him. He Will try to make her mad at you so y'all Friendship will end so he can keep on doing him just tell the Truth with a picture i hope every thing works out for everyone. P.S. i been in this same issue before. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-01 16:27:45 · answer #1 · answered by leeleemd1 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's your best friend right? Then you should tell her? Your friendship is built on trust and honesty. If you break that vow between you and her, what kind of friend does that make you? We are talking about her husband cheating while she's pregnant. A human being is being born into this world. I would be extremely upset if my husband was cheating and he was in the delivery room with me while I gave birth. Being a best friend means you'll always be there for her, so tell her and continue to be there for her. She doesn't deserve to be treated that way. She is pregnant and her husband is showing her disrespect. Her marriage is not based on honesty or trust. If she finds out another way but not through you, and she were to find out that you knew, that could be devastating to your friendship. This man is supposed to be loyal to her, he made a human life and is bringing a human life into this world. He doesn't deserve to have his wife or his baby in his life if he cannot respect his family. I hope you do what's best. GL to her and bless her.
2006-10-01 15:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by Emmie_katz7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough question... this actually happened to me once... I knew that my friends husband was messing around and I didn't know if I should tell her or not. I've since talked to many friends about whether or not we would want a friend to tell us or not. Most of the time my friends have said that they would resent the friend that told them even if the they were telling the truth, and would especially avoid them if they were trying to work things out with their husband. I was young when I was in this situation, and opted not to say anything... in the end she found out, and she was really hurt when I told her that I knew what was going on but was afraid to say anything. Either way I think it's going to be a strain on your friendship!
2006-10-01 15:11:14 · answer #3 · answered by deangelis88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I would have a talk with her husbamd. Let him know that you have seen what he's doing and your not happy about it. He may just be nervouse anout becoming a daddy and letting it out the wrong ways. Find out why he's doing this and smack some sense into him if need be.
If, from this conversation you realize that he is just going to hurt her more than help her, I would take the time to calmy explain the situation. Better now than her finding out on her own later in her pregnance when it can do her more harm.
2006-10-01 15:02:57 · answer #4 · answered by short n sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do unto others... right? Yes, this is a horrible time to find out your man is cheating, but there is no GOOD time, either. Unless your friend prefers to live in total denial, you owe it to her to tell her. Tell her at a time when she will have some time to digest it and when you can be there for her if/when she needs to vent. Since she cannot drink, you can help her by finding some useful way for her to deal with the stress this will bring into her life. Take her to a movie, go walking with her, feed her a healthy meal and tell her she's a phenomenal woman for taking good care of herself and her new baby in spite of the crappy circumstances.
2006-10-01 15:17:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her if I was you. If it was me I would want to know. Things will get worse if she finds out that you knew and didn't tell her. You could try talking to the husband and see what he has to say. Let him know that you know and are going to tell her. Best friends don't keep secrets. The sooner you do it the better. She will then have to decide what shes going to do. I'm sure that you'll be there to help her through it all. Please tell her she has the right to know. Good luck.
2006-10-01 15:09:36 · answer #6 · answered by Heather A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheat always a cheat. What makes you think he is cheating because she is pregnant. He may have been doing this all along, and probably will continue long after the baby is here. He will either hang himself on his own eventually, or since she is your friend, I feel you have an obligation. Just my opinion
2006-10-01 15:14:42 · answer #7 · answered by CTMEDS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from that one. I wouldn't touch that with a ten foot pole. Maybe if you still feel like you have to do something, take pictures keep them from ever being seen , then just have a talk with him and tell him he is wrong for it. The pictures are just in case you need to prove yourself and nothing more.
2006-10-01 15:04:10 · answer #8 · answered by schlongy1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am always in favor of telling a friend something that she needs to know.
She needs to know if her husband is cheating, or merely helping other women in and out of hotels.
2006-10-01 15:03:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is your friend, then you should tell her. I couldn't keep THAT a secret. Sometimes the truth hurts. Would you want your friend to tell you if YOUR husband was screwing around on YOU? Think about that one!
2006-10-01 15:04:03 · answer #10 · answered by katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋