I know this guy for about 7 years, I trust him and I fill very comfortable when I m with him. I like him and he likes me. I just want to know if he’s the right guy, because I have been a virgin for so long just waiting for the right guy.
2006-10-01 14:49:52 · 28 answers · asked by Gorjust 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Im 18, ni know him for 7 years, just as friends.
2006-10-01 15:09:49 · update #1
Well if you find this guy attractive and feel you can be yourself around him and not be uncomfortable, i think you've got a good crack at it. As long as you feel you're mature and wise about it (IE: taking precautions and such), then go for it: if it doesn't work out, at least he was a nice guy and you felt comfortable at the time.
2006-10-01 14:52:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're asking this question, than you're not ready. Well, you say you've know this guy for 7 yrs., but you didn't say you were committed to him in a relationship. Don't be sleazy. Be with someone that you truly feel in love with. Sex for the first time to some is meant to be special and intimate. You should want to be in love. My advice to you is be committed with your partner. The right guy will love you and wait till you feel comfortable. Don't tell yourself you've been a virgin for so long and you just want to experience sex for the first time, just because it's a fad with everyone else. Be smart and not sleazy. Sex is meant for the right moment with the right person.
2006-10-01 15:05:55 · answer #2 · answered by Emmie_katz7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not predict when you will be ready to have sex for the first time. It is just something that feels right at that moment. Just knowing a guy for so long doesn't make it right to have sex with him. You should be completely in love with him and he should feel the same way about you. Think about it this way, if you are ready to spend the rest of your life with this guy and have a child with him then you are probably ready to have sex with him. If you aren't ready to have a child then you aren't ready to have sex. Accidents happen, condoms don't always work.
2006-10-01 14:55:27 · answer #3 · answered by LadyD1019 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide what makes you ready ahead of time. You need to know ahead of time what criteria must be true or false in order to answer that question. Decide now.
REASON:
If you do not make the decision now, then the circumstances will make the decision for you. If you do not want to forfeit your virginity before marriage and you engage in stimulating activity, then in the heat of the moment you will face indecision and have no determination in your mind to hold you back. It will be all hormones. If you make up your mind now, then when the time comes you will not act in the heat of the moment, but in accordance with the decision you made first. Don't let hormones rule your life. Make choices now.
2006-10-01 15:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by Jack 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First are you of legal age of consent if not then answer is no don't do it! If you are then I would worry as you seem unsure. If unsure then no again. Here are some things I wondered when I read your question
.You "like" him no mention of love even false love. Even if its not real love one should always give it up to someone special and this guy dosen't seem special to you!
.7 years and no mention of marriage? Heck you don't even call him a BF in your post
Being a virgin is not a bad thing and there is no time frame in which you should give it up. However it should be special and your relationship with this guy and everything about does not seem special! My vote is no and I would Even go as far as to suggest you leave him.
2006-10-01 14:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did u marry him? not that marriage means anything now a days but i slept around before i found who i really want to be with , and im still not sure who that is im 23 idk what's going to happen to me, but i know if would have kept it in my pants i woulnd't have a beautiful 2 year old girl with a person im goign through a divorce with right now, so ur answer is really u dont ever know those things, but if u decide to get it on, there will be a repercussion to a major decision, one being about the wild thing ok? if u love a person, or really like a person wanting to have sex is horomones rem. when u were a kid, u didnt think about boys like that sex could bring complications in a good friendship established...im rambling so let me just say that i wish i would have waited longer...stop waiting for the right guy to have sex with and start looking for the right guy to spend ur life with, sex will be sex with anyone u find it comes natural in time, think of this, idk how old u are but im taking a wild shot and saying u are about 17-19, if im way off then sorry. but u shd try not to think about sex so much do other things, do ur homework get good rest excersize rock out to good music hanging out will be ur best times with this person not sex, sex is sex. can u feel me?
2006-10-01 15:01:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you're ready when if you become a single mother because you had sex with this guy and he left you, if that happens, you'll be ok because you are married to him, he has a good job, or you have a good income.
If you won't be ok as a single mother, wait.
2006-10-01 14:54:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are waiting for the right guy you will continue to wait forever. Life is about risk. If you love him, do it. If you just trust him, go date someone else and find out what else is out there. Also, use a condom.
2006-10-01 14:54:15 · answer #8 · answered by bcdestroya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to scare you or anything, but you probably shouldn't have sex until you can handle getting pregnant... If not, you aren't ready to lose your virginity yet. condoms only work 97% of the time!! Three times out of every hundred you could get pregnant!
2006-10-01 14:53:38 · answer #9 · answered by jfross77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he fully committed to you? How old are you? Are you planning on marrying him?
I wouldn't give up your virginity just because you feel like you've been a virgin for too long!
2006-10-01 14:51:19 · answer #10 · answered by I ♥ AUG 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋