2006-10-01 14:37:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, and I am friends with my fiances ex. They have 3 daughters together (all teens now) so they have had to stay in contact/close. He is good to them, just doesn't spend quite enough time with them like he should. Since I have come in the picture and have been guiding him, etc, he has been seeing them more and actually spending time with them and doing things with them more. :)
I think it depends on many factors if you can be a friend with your partner's ex: maturity of both people; how your partner and the ex are with each other when the kids are and aren't around; the 'rules' that the two of them have set up for the kids, the two of them, etc; how willing you are to keep the same rules in your home that the ex and your partner have set up with the kids; the personalities of everyone involved; etc. My fiance's ex and I have very similar personalities and get along great. We talk almost daily (she and the kids live about 10 blocks away from us; we just moved here about a month ago) about the kids and about everything else. She knows that I am the one in charge of the money, so she comes to me about things that the kids need. She also knows that I will let my fiance know what she has said, what they kids have said and or are doing, what I am doing with the money, what she and I have discussed about money for the kids or their birthday and Christmas presents, etc. So, my fiance trusts me to go ahead and discuss all of the money things with his ex and figure it out (he makes the money, puts it in the account, I figure out all of the bills, etc.).
From experience, I know it CAN be done, it just takes a lot of work on everyone's part. I have noticed that the kids are happier (esp since their dad is around more and doing more things with them and talking with them more), their mom seems to have calmed down since I first met her, etc. Things just seem to be going well all around. Most people think it's strange that my fiances ex and I are friends, but I think it's great--for the kids sakes and for our sakes. It is much easier than fighting with the ex all the time!
2006-10-01 14:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say friends but we tolerate each other lol. We have to she is a part of her children's lives(When she wants to be there) I do this for our kid's sake. She has the children 1% of the year. I have put up with a lot of head aches from my husband's x - from her trying to make advances to my husband in front of me to her returning her youngest son home with a broken foot. Note: she didn't realize it was broken. Well, we took him to the doctor and he's fine. I Love these kids and because they love their mother I tolerate a lot of things. I however, do voice my opinion and let my husband know I will not tolerate her acting a certain way. Anyway life goes on
2006-10-01 21:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 9 months now. We usually go out every week-end with a group of his freinds. One of the girls said that she had to let me know that she used to date my ex. At first I kinda didn't like her, but she really isn't taht bad. We get along just fine now.
2006-10-01 21:40:58 · answer #3 · answered by collegebusygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no,why would you want to be friend with your partner ex
2006-10-01 21:45:11 · answer #4 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can,depending on how much you trust them and how much strength you have. try to remember why they are not together and why you two are. It could be beneficial for you to be friends but at the same time he may be very uncomfortable to be put in that situation.
2006-10-01 21:42:40 · answer #5 · answered by peachy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, grow up and face the fact that he is with you and not her.There is the best reason to get along (your winning girlfriend)Its the way you look at it. Happiness is a state of mind.
2006-10-01 21:47:34 · answer #6 · answered by quiltsandpearls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you're both mature adults. I think it's rare, but definitely possible. It probably depends on how/why their relationship ended and what type of terms they are on.
2006-10-01 21:40:29 · answer #7 · answered by abbya11111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible. It really depends on how the breakup was between them. If they split on good terms, and you are all mature, it's very possible.
2006-10-01 21:45:56 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, and why try?
2006-10-01 21:55:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋