Peggy started coming around and hanging out for no reason. She didn't talk to me she would go to the garage. My husband works as a mechanic and tow truck driver. He spends at least 15 hours a day in there. He usually works for about 2 weeks like this and then gets burned out and then sleeps for 2 days. One night about 12:30 p.m. his cell phone was ringing I picked it up and looked at the log and text messages they were from Peggy. They were talking dirty and many times she would ask him to pick her up and he would. I beat her up and he was chasing me trying to make me quit. Recently he has been texting Denice-Peggys sister. He would say I can't sleep, I am still working I can't quit thinking about you at 5:00 a.m. I feel dazed and confused. 5:45 am I got this feeling all over that something is going on that I don't know about and started crying! My husband came in afterand asked me what was wrong, he didn't know what to do? He tried to hold me and it felt so wrong and ugly.
2006-10-01 14:19:41 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can let him know that you know about his cheating and that unless he is willing to seek counseling with you, you will be seeking a divorce attorney and then go. He can give you STD's that will make your life bad and you will always be miserable wondering what he is doing. You deserve better than this.
2006-10-01 14:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course hun it feels wrong and ugly, you were BETRAYED ! Marraige is about trust and living your wedding vows.
WHAT are you scared of being ALONE? Wouldn't that be better than living in misery?
First get his cell phone and throw it in the commode.
Second put all his belongings in the garage and lock the doors.
Third call Peggy and Denice and tell them to come and pick him up they can Have him !
You can DO this. Not the first word in your post does it say you still loved him and would forgive him- so best just to FORGET HIM! ( Do you think he is actually crying over YOU right now?)
2006-10-01 14:29:07 · answer #2 · answered by debi_0712 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You caught him texting suggestive messages and it wasn't to you???!!!! Girlfriend, leave. Stop checking his phone, you'll drive yourself crazy. Don't even ask about it, you already know the answer. He'll treat you the way you let him. Preserve your dignity, hold your head up high and leave him now. You don't deserve a man who'll disrespect you this way. It may hurt for a while, but look at it this way, the next woman will get the same treatment. He may even have the tables turned on him for a change! Leave Leave Leave!!!!!
2006-10-01 14:25:45 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, it seems you have a cheat on your hands. Either get him to admit it, or remove yourself from the equation. There are too many people here on earth, too many people who would probably line up to be with you. Instead you are wasting your time on someone who is treating you like trash. It will hurt at first, but time heals all wounds and if your man isn't willing to rectify your situation, it's time to start down that road alone so your healing can begin.
2006-10-01 14:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by G D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short answer: Divorce him. You've got evidence.
Real answer: If you've got children, you may want to tread lightly before calling an attorney. The emotional toll can/will be severe. If you don't work or can't work, it may be difficult to gain custody (not totally sure about this though, just a hunch).
2006-10-01 14:24:06 · answer #5 · answered by atomicfrog81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you need to get a divorce. You know he is cheating on you with 1 possibly 2 females, that you know about. Who knows how many more he has on the side. If you are scared of him, yeah don't live with him.
2006-10-01 14:22:25 · answer #6 · answered by collegebusygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it waddles like a duck, quacks like a duck, looks like a duck, it's likely a duck.if it looks like your hubby is messing around with everyone it's likely true. see a lawyer he can better advise how much your x will be able to pay you from his income while he's screwing around. it's always fun for a cheat to have to pay for a mortgage, and a wife and a girlfriend when all three are past due.alimony and child support is the screwing the state will give him for the screwing he gave you.
2006-10-01 15:35:56 · answer #7 · answered by whodad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know what to do now,leave him,start over and have a life free of this cheating man.What gos around comes around and he will get his one day.For you fine someone that really cares for you.
2006-10-01 14:24:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, if this is for real, get the heck out of there -- and fast. You don't need this. Put a restraining order on him if you need to.
Seek counseling for yourself to help you get over this ordeal.
2006-10-01 14:26:16 · answer #9 · answered by Beth M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men can be so decieving, and show u love also. just tell him what u know. and ask him what he wants, he cant have his cake and eat it to. he has to choose who he wants, and put ur foot down and what ever u say stick by it. if he dont stop, then u need to get out of the relationship.
2006-10-01 14:28:37 · answer #10 · answered by spades_intimidator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋