I'm a junior in college and have been slightly depressed lately. I have been seriously considering leaving college to work with my family's business. After long conversations and crying with my mom she says that she will support me no matter what i do so long as it makes me happy. Only problem is that i have no clue what makes me happy. The last time i truly remember being happy was when i was 7 and living in Machias with my mom and 3 sisters and having the rest of my family living on my street. (we were really close). Now I find myself completely disappointed with my life. Everyone has grown and moved including myself. I am so unhappy with what i'm doing right now But college is something that you need to do if you want to do anything with my life...which is my family's basic view. I just don't know what to do. I was wondering if anyone had any thoughts on my current problem. Thank you so much for your responses.
2006-10-01 14:15:04 · 10 answers · asked by kitti kitti 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Hi Kitty,
First a big hug for good measure.
It is truly difficult, especially when
you come from a close family
to separate. Nothing anybody
told one about it could have
prepared you, right? You
are depressed (nothing wrong
with that) and I would seek
counsel, to see you through
this difficult period. As you
mention, a college degree
is important in this world,
but most importantly you've
already started and if you
stop, you won't ever go back.
And then, it will be 'what if'
for the rest of your life.
Kitty, first get counsel,
somebody you can speak
with freely and will professionally
be able to help you through
this stage. Then, take it a
day a time, don´t put additional
pressure on yourself, and you
will see that alone will help.
Start finding out about yourself,
your 'individual likes, dislikes,
and praise yourself all the time
for anything you accomplish,
including a smile. I think you
are on the path to discovery
and recovery just by having
shared your thoughts with us.
So, now time for a little work
on yourself, and then, a little
a time life will provide you
with the answers.
Trust yourself!
You've already come a along
way, Kitty. Congrats and all
the best!
2006-10-01 14:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by vim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm... I'm in college right now too. I have been suffering from depression as well. I don't know what makes me happy. I still live at home and I really really need to move out but I can't. It seems as if you are having problems seeing what makes you happy, I have the same problems (But while I'm in the house I will never find happiness).
Your life,
Ask yourself what do you see yourself doing in the future? Think about why you were happy in the past. But remember that you will be happy again. If you choose to stick with college, you will be happier later on. If you choose not to continue college you will also be happier later on, but you might have regrets. If you are becoming too depressed to concentrate on school work, I think it is best that you take a break from college. You could always go back, but keep in mind that sometimes it’s hard to go back. Especially if you leave for a long time.
2006-10-01 14:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by BrokenTrust 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, there's alot of choices available to you, perhaps you just need to take a moment to sort through them. Why not take out a piece of paper and jot some of them down. For example, if you miss being near family, why not invite them to come visit you on the weekends. If that's not enough, why not go to school closer to home? Are there other colleges you could attend, that would allow you more contact with family? Why not commute from home to school, many kids do that nowadays. Or, you could always take a leave of absence - but first try to stick it out the rest of the semester, afterall, you just paid the tuition. Try working in the family business for the next semester and see how it feels. See if that's what was missing. You can always finish your degree later. It's good that you recognize that you aren't happy now, and that you're wanting to make changes to find "happy" again. I wish you well!
2006-10-01 14:20:58 · answer #3 · answered by amuse4you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one is ever 100% happy, but they can be generally happy. that would be normal. you have good and bad moments, but if the good doesn't out weigh the bad, then perhaps it is time to make a change. plus, things change a lot from being a care-free 7 year old to an adult in college.
it depends on what is making you so depressed.
if it is college, then you might not be in the right area of study for you, or perhaps you are just frustrated with how long it takes.
do you look forward to what you are planning on doing with your degree? if no, then you aren't in the right area.
it might actually be that you have depression that needs counseling and/or medication. this is very common, and don't feel weird about talking to someone about it. it doesn[t mean that you are crazy, but perhaps your body isn't producing the right amounts of certain things you need to be happy.
good luck.
2006-10-01 14:25:48 · answer #4 · answered by christy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happiness is our innate longings since birth. If we are happy our brain is in order, it is peaceful and creative. We are basically happy if we are doing interesting activities that we think important for us. If you are observant you will find out that the object of interest are always changing with the movement of time. You will see that the happiness that we are aspiring from a certain object are usually short lived and has the corresponding opposite, pain or loneliness. I think happiness can be discovered from simplicity of desire. We have to understand our desires to the core. Usually short lived happiness is born of copying. We have to find out what we really want and go for it. I think the first step is to be interested to find out what are the short lived happiness, you can see these in our environment. If you can see the pictures of limited happiness then the unlimited is at hand.
2006-10-01 16:35:40 · answer #5 · answered by ol's one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy, or unhappy. Its all in your perspective. Unless there is something wrong with your hormone level, then you might need anti-depressants.
College made me feel the same way because my life was on its way to starting but I still hadn't got there yet. Plus, in college - you're poor.
Keep your chin up
2006-10-01 14:18:35 · answer #6 · answered by misjes2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To answer your general question....I'm a person & I'm happy 90% of the time. I've gotten rid of or come to terms with my emotional junk and for the past 10 years I've been happy.
2006-10-01 15:29:44 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is happy. Occasionally, we feel satisfied, but even that is momentary. Your disatifaction with school is normal; necessary drudgery to acquire what you need. The same for dating, marriage, work, etc. Its what you have to go through to get what you think you want and need. Enjoy something you want to do every day.
2006-10-02 03:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by Bobby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to go through valleys of depression to reach the mountains of happiness, spoken by someone unknown to me, but the point is that nothing is ever always happy without sacrifice, and that you feel with opositions and similies, the more pain you feel the more happiness you'll realize
2006-10-01 14:45:49 · answer #9 · answered by her half dead lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a boyfriend.
2006-10-01 14:29:21 · answer #10 · answered by iBrooke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋