I don't know what to do I'm a stay at home mom. We just moved and my husband has a couple of friends, I don't. He never takes me out it's been almost a year. His excuse is that we don't have the money,I told him if he wouldn't buy that 30 pac of beer everyweek ,we'd have the extra money but, no he won't have that.
So I'm still here upset,sad, and lonely. There have been a couple of times he's gone out and stayed out late without me, and I'm left at home alone with the kids. I know where he's at, at the time but just the fact that hes out late drinking and enjoying himself with what he likes to do upsets me. There is just so much more to this story of my boring life it seems .. Need some advice if any , thanks!
2006-10-01 13:59:29 · 6 answers · asked by coco1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
can you say... door mat..,
Time for you to make your house a home and that means your man takes on responsibilites for his family.. that includes you and the kids...... He needs to understand what a man is suppose to do and running off and drinking is WRONG... and your the woman that is going to make the change... he is a spoiled kid and you are just letting him play... and remember if he ever gets sassie with you just remind him that some time, some day he will close his eyes too sleep and what ever he does to you will hit him 10x harder when he shuts his eyes....
Now, you have your work cut out for you. If your not attending church.. guess what... you and the kids are going to church... and him.... pressure baby... pressure... make him squirm.... you are going to get a burning case of the respectibilities and things are going to change....
Time for you to grow a backbone and protect your family..... I don't mean grow mean and bitchy either... Ghandie brought down the British rule without weapons... so remember... I am talking non-violent, love enduced change....
each time you talk too your husband... state this... Dear, I love you... but;
Remember, I love you so I need your support...
If you want to show us that you love us, you will support us by......
good luck...
2006-10-01 14:32:14 · answer #1 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be some things you can do that don't cost any money.
You could go to a church, lot of nice people there, or to parks with the kids. Find what other mothers are doing with their kids. Ask someone at the grocery store, who has kids the same age as yours. Just say I'm new around here what kind of things are there to do? Try walmart of any big store during the day when other stay at home moms are out.
Be inventive. People will love to help you if they know what you need. step up and step out. You will find that your kids can be a connection with a lot of other people just like you who are wishing for good things to do.
Make this an adventure and let your kids in on it. Have fun
2006-10-01 21:23:36 · answer #2 · answered by David AKA Dr Reason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If staying at home is making you crazy, get out of the house! I wouldn't suggest you staying out all night, but you should get out and make some friends of your own. If your children are school age, get out and socialize with the other mothers during the day.
Stop waiting for him to entertain you, entertain yourself. Is there something you did before you got married? If so, get back into it. If your children are not school age, take them to the park and chat up another mother there. Take them to the library and get involved in a reading group.
Line up things to do by yourself and with your children for the next 30 days, and let him wonder where you are for a change.
2006-10-01 21:15:19 · answer #3 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hit up some chat rooms, I have found two good friends in the past 8 years, also I hang out on Webmd checking out some of the sites and offering suggestions,
sorry to hear your husband wont give up a 30 pack for a nice night out with his wife
2006-10-01 21:09:56 · answer #4 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to find a way to meet people so you don't go insane. if you're upset, sad, and lonely, you're not going to be able to be as good a mom as you would be if you feel connected to the world. what about getting a part-time job, even if your paycheck is only enough to pay for the child care while you work? it will get you out of the house and around real live grown-ups that can have actual conversations about things other than cartoons and crayons. you need to find a way to meet people, and you need to stop depending on your husband to do it.
good luck!
2006-10-01 21:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok babes stop being a stay at home mum right now xxx get to the gym or what you like doing and make some friends ok ... get yourself some girlie nights out .. text him while he,s out telling him you are dressed sexy and waiting see how long he takes to respond to that xxx and cheer up babe ok
2006-10-01 21:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by robcostabrava@yahoo.com 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋