We dealt with one back in April, now we're 6 weeks in (we were about 5 weeks last time) and he's worried because I'm getting 'into' the idea of being pregnant again.
I think he's worried about how I'll react (it was baaad last time...) if I think about this kiddo this time around. Particularly if something goes wrong.
I have a very good feeling about this. Good (if they can be called that ;P) symptoms, TWO positive HPTs, and a general more positive feeling.
Any of you had this problem before? Having a partner more worried about a possible miscarriage than yourself? And YOU'RE the one carrying? Sheesh!
2006-10-01 13:40:03 · 6 answers · asked by teabunny 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I had a miscarriage and it was the hardest thing in the world to go through. Just do a lot of praying and if it is meant to be then it will be. My doctor told me that sometimes our bodies will reject the fetus if there is something wrong and I truly believe that there may have been more wrong with that baby than God knew that I could deal with, so he took that baby back to be with him.
2006-10-01 13:45:02 · answer #1 · answered by stacy196922 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He cares very much for you. He cares very much for the child. You are his wife. It is normal for him to be concerned. If you reacted badly last time, he only has that as a reference point. He has little hope. That is the big difference. How much hope is there? I know that I was scared with our second attempt. I was constantly studying and telling myself that I had no reason for doubt. I was constantly bugging my wife telling her also that we had no reason to doubt. BUT, the doubt was still there lingering under the surface. It was tough. Women don't seem to understand that men go through this stuff too. It is definitely different, but we go through it too. We mourn differently. We rejoice differently. We're men. But we still do mourn and rejoice. If you follow what we did, then you will study everything you can about having a healthy attitude and pregnancy. You will share it with each other. You will find every opportunity to rejoice and enjoy the development of your child. You will constantly watch each other and comfort each other in love. Give each other hope. Encourage each other. Love each other. In the end, that is what will make a difference. He wants to be strong for you. You should let him. You can be strong for him also. He needs you too.
2006-10-01 15:16:34 · answer #2 · answered by Jack 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I got pregnant after my first miscarriage, my husband was very worried about me. He didn't want me getting too excited about the baby because he was so afraid I would lose another one. He hated to see me hurting when I miscarried the first time, and in his love for me, he did not want me to be hurt, disappointed, and angry if I lost another baby. My husband was still dealing with his grief over the loss of our first baby when I got pregnant again. It was a very difficult time for both of us. Hope that you and your husband are able to find time to talk, listen, and really understand what you each are feeling during this time. I wish you the best with your pregnancy.
2006-10-01 14:38:11 · answer #3 · answered by Faith 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust God and all will be fine. His will is perfect and He cares for us inspite of what may happen.
Jesus is waiting to welcome us to Heaven. Devil is waiting to torture us in Hell. Make a good choice for yourself whom to follow. Jesus loves us and died to save us humans. And whoever believes in Him will be saved. To-day is the day for salvation. Best wishes! (Please visit: www.spiritlessons.com)
2006-10-01 13:52:09 · answer #4 · answered by tmthyh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to see things from his perspective - he's concerned about YOU! I hope everything goes well - God bless!
2006-10-01 13:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any advice, but best wishes for you and your new baby!
2006-10-01 13:47:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋