My sisters attorney has told me this and my sisters ex hubby is trying to and my parents threaten they will. Her attorney told me and him that as long as i say no, no charges will be pressed. I KNOW i will be with this man forever. How can i marry him without needing parental consent or How do I get emancipated??? I heard that if i get emancipated my rents can't tell me where i have to live..its up to me. Is that also true??
2006-10-01 13:28:33 · 21 answers · asked by BabyQ 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
You are so lame. No it is not true. You are a minor, your parents can press charges, or even the state with or without your consent. You can get yourself emancipated by paying a lawyer out of your own money, but he can still be prosecuted and jailed for having sex with a minor by the state. Psst, you will be with him about another 9 months when he dumps you for someone with a little more brains and a larger chest.
2006-10-01 13:33:22 · answer #1 · answered by Colorado 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If you are sexually active he's commiting a felony and can be prosecuted without your consent. For that matter, at 15 pretty much anything legally can be done without your consent. You cannot be emancipated without your partents consent.
On to an unpleasant thing that you need to hear. If he's 20 and with you at 15 it's because people his own age see him as a loser, or because he's a pervert who gets off on being with little girls. If the first one is true you're going to out grow him just like all the other 20 year olds have, and if the second one is true he's going to out grow you. Give yourself 3 years to do what you should, and when you're 18 your parents can't legally stop you from doing what you want. If you "KNOW" you're going to be together forever 3 years isn't a big deal. The only reason to get in a hurry is because you know it isn't going to last.
2006-10-01 20:42:41 · answer #2 · answered by awakeatdawn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you are under the age of consent, some states have laws saying the decision to press charges are up to your parents. You dont know this will be the one forever...you simply believe it. Believing you can fly doesnt make it so.
You're better off not doing anything with him until you're married anyway. If you get pregnant and he leaves, you're stuck with him in your life for 18 years at the least. Someone removed a question talking about choice...I was going to answer it but gone is gone. Let me share some of it with you: If you choose to share yourself with him, you are choosing to risk getting pregnant. He's 20. Probably doesnt have a steady job. How is he going to support you? and a child?
Wait until you are old enough to take that responsibility yourself and if he is "the one", you'll have the rest of your lives to do whatever you want. 3 years is a long time to wait, but 18 years or more is far longer. You may not regret it now, but if you're in such a hurry, you may later on.
2006-10-01 21:06:05 · answer #3 · answered by paradigm_thinker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the people here have forgotten two basic principles.
Principle one is that it all depends on what state you live in. Each state has different laws. In Texas, your parents are the ones who would get to say if charges are filed or not. No one else, outside of the criminal justice system, gets to say. Of course, realistically, the District Attorney can decline to prosecute and the police could decline to investigate. One of the quirks of Texas law is that the police or D.A. can also decide to file the charges against your parents wishes, but it rarely happens in cases like this.
The second principle that people seem to have forgotten is the elements of the crime must be proven. They have all decided that you are having sex with the man already. This is not necessarily true (though I agree that it seems like a good assumption to me) and it must be proven in court. Your bouyfriend may be arrested and charged, but if you do not testify that you and he had sex, how is the charge going to be proven? It is not, as a general rule, illegal for you to date a man that age, jsut for you to have sex with him.
As for marrying him or being emancipated, I think both are bad decisions. You really are too young to make these decisions at this time. If the man really does love you, and you relaly do love him, there is nothing wrong with waiting. As a test, try dating him and not having sex with him for an extended period of time. Tell him you want to wait until you are married for this activity from now on. Tell him you want to marry him when you are over 18 (which is still young in reality). If he really loves you, he will still be there in three years and will not have dated or had sex with anyone else. He will agree. If he does not, then it means this is not a strong relationship on which to base your future.
After that, check with your state laws. In Texas, you cannot be emancipated until you are at least 16 and can show you are self sufficient. That means YOU making a living, not relying on someone else, like your boyfriend. You can also be married without your parents approval at your age if you can convince a judge to agree with you. Take an honest look at your situation and ask yourself if a judge would agree with you that this is the best thing for you. If you think the judge would agree, file a petition and ask for permission to get married. If not, think about why not and what you really want.
I think your parents just have your best interests in mind, and you might agree if you took a good hard look at the situation. Waiting a while will be the real test to see who is right.
2006-10-01 21:00:04 · answer #4 · answered by Steve R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't need your consent or your cooperation in order to press charges if you are under the age of consent.
Why isn't your wonderful boyfriend hiring a lawyer to advise you both on the best way to proceed and to handle your emancipation since he loves you so much and all that?
Surely if he can afford to support himself AND a 15 year old, a few hundred bucks for a lawyer to handle such an urgent matter shouldn't be a big deal.
2006-10-02 08:14:15 · answer #5 · answered by BoomChikkaBoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is any kind of evidence whatsoever concerning you two having sex, the State will GLADLY pick up the charges regardless of you or your parents, and it sounds like your parents would be all over him. Think about it: If you keep going the way you seem to be, there will be plenty of chances over the next 3 years for the cops or your parents to bust his behind. At your age things seem so ideal....SLOW DOWN....like many others have written, wait until you're legal unless you want to see him do time, because he will. Besides that, he should be responsible to himself and respect you and your situation. If he claims he's too in love to wait...he's full of it. To truly show respect he should honor your parents and spend the next three years making himself successful and worthy of their approval. So many things will happen between now and then anyway. You both are playing with serious fire.
2006-10-01 21:01:53 · answer #6 · answered by dingbat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 15, you don't know your head from your ASSS. Ok?
As for you being with this man forever.........that is a dream that every 15 year old has. but rarely ever comes true.
Trust me, you guys will split ways one day. Also, if you have to discuss "pressing charges" then your relationship is messed up. I am 34, and have never had to even think about "pressing charges" against anyone I have dated, or married.
2006-10-01 20:38:28 · answer #7 · answered by stolibabe2003 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are a minor. If your parents want charges pressed, they get to make that decision. Hope he looks good in a jump suit. I won't even get started on what you know or don't know at age 15. If you emancipate yourself, how are you going to support yourself? Go to the mall and buy some shoes or something.
2006-10-01 20:38:03 · answer #8 · answered by therego2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wrong, kiddo. It's statutory rape whether you consent or not. You're a minor child and as such not considered competent to make a decision like that.
And what in the hell is a 15-year-old doing with a 20-year-old, and what's wrong with him that he thinks he can get away with this? You need to get away and live your life. You marry someone at 15 and your life is ruined. Your parents are trying to save you from the stupidest thing you'll ever do in your life. I hope they succeed and put your child-molesting boyfriend away. Grow a brain, girl!
2006-10-01 20:40:51 · answer #9 · answered by Nightlight 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't press charges -- the STATE or your parents would more likely be the ones to press charges. This MAN is molesting you. Even if you don't see it, know it, understand it or believe it. The lawyer (?) isn't being quite honest with you. Also, no state will emancipate you to go be with a man your parents don't want you to be with.
2006-10-01 20:40:21 · answer #10 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋