I was wondering how you woman feel about getting into a relationship with another woman that has kids. Is it a turn off or what are your thoughts.
I will explain. I am intrested in a woman but I am affred to say something because I am not sure on how she would feel about being with me knowing I have kids. I know she dosn't want kids just from lissioning to her tell others. Please help.
2006-10-01 13:21:32 · 14 answers · asked by ladyjamie 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Just tell her how you feel. If it was meant to be, then things will work out. Also if she truly has feelings for you, then she won't care that you have kids. Just follow your heart
2006-10-01 14:04:15 · answer #1 · answered by Suzie 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I personally would not date someone who had kids for a number of reasons. First of all I do not want kids and I would hate feeling like I'd have to play the other mother role. Second I wouldn't feel comfortable if the father of the kids are still in her life. Everyone is different though and maybe if she really likes you she can get past the fact that you have children
2006-10-02 13:14:14 · answer #2 · answered by Scully 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have kids but would enjoy being with someone who does. Just be honest about your kids up front. They are the central focus of you life and getting involved with someone who doesn't want them around isn't going to work for you in the long run. Btw, thinking you don't want kids, especially when you are young, is different than not wanting to be around children. So, give it a shot and see how it goes. Good luck.
2006-10-01 20:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by Alex62 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know that when I met my fiancee, she didn't care that I had a daughter. She's always been a lesbian, and had no interest in having children, but she had no problem with my child. As our relationship grew, she told me that my daughter would always be welcome into our home (we live in a different state) for as long as she wanted to stay. She also later told me that if we someday wanted to have children, she would be open to discussion. So, even if the woman doesn't want children, she may just change her mind. Especially if you two are meant to be together. Let her know how you feel.
2006-10-01 21:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by Mistress Antigone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i am with another woman that has 6 kids,and i don't have any kids of my own.It can get rather stressful at times,but if there is love kids won't matter. We have a couple of kids that gives us fits all the time,keep us stressed all the time,cause she left their dad,and got with me.But all in all it is good!
2006-10-01 21:52:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a personal point of veiw kids arn't an issue for me, no i don't want any of my own buts thats for completley different reasons. If i met someone i cared about who had kids, it wouldn't make a blind bit of difference because her children would be a massive part of who she was. Good luck.
2006-10-02 03:01:28 · answer #6 · answered by kitpoodle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience there are simply dozens of same sex couples caring for the children of one or the other (or of both) of the partners. It's really not an unusual situation at all and you have absolutely no reason to be worried about it.
2006-10-01 20:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not wanting to have kids of her own doesn't mean she would reject you out of hand because you have them already. I think you should get to know her, see what happens and let her decide. Make sure your kids are really sweet to her so she can't resist them!
: )
Good luck!
2006-10-01 22:13:38 · answer #8 · answered by Chickyn in a Handbasket 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, my partner has a son, it was not a turn off at all. If she really cares about you, then having a child comes with the package.
2006-10-01 21:20:43 · answer #9 · answered by noodlenmac0329 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be afraid. I've been introduced to kids' moms & their "other moms" many times. That's gotta tell you that some women are not afraid of being with mothers.
Good luck dear.
2006-10-01 20:31:04 · answer #10 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋