My daughter is 16 months old and her father has not seen her. I had to force child support on him. Now I just want him to terminate his parental rights. I have been very good about trying to get him to visit but something always comes up. I really just want to be done with the whole situation. It's time to move on. Can you help me?
2006-10-01 13:21:22 · 11 answers · asked by MommaMia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Child support should not be a factor in your decision. I believe God steps in when father's step out, if we let Him. I also believe child support is the biological father's duty and the honorable thing. Though it is best when the father offers it with a cheerful heart, Sometimes the cheerful heart comes later, with maturity and the reality of the should-haves sets into the father.
It is a decision that could be a good thing for you, removing obstacles that may deter a future husband. Keeping in mind the father could wake up and mature simply because the situation was presented. If the biological father is agreeable to terminate his rights, even then you should pray until you have peace over your decision. This is not an easy decision.
Good luck to you.
2006-10-01 16:48:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the way that I understand the whole court system.. is there is no such thing as terminating parental rights.. Unless the parent whom the child resides with has a significant other & wants to adopt the child. They do not want the child to go without a parent.. I know it sounds messed up.. but thats the
way they see it in the courts eyes. Not for nothing.. you should not have to bend over backwards for your childs father.. He should follow his court order for his visitation.. and if he does not follow it, make sure you have a journal & document it all & whatever excuses he is giving you.. Then at some point and time you pursue the court system, you have documention.. Make sure u have dates, times, etc. Hope all works out for you.
2006-10-01 20:31:13 · answer #2 · answered by Kammaka2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it that always comes up that prevents him from visiting? Is it you? Do you give him any problems? Try to set certain rules or restrictions on him? If not, then ask him if he would be willing to terminate his rights? However keep in mind if you do this, no more child support. The fact you took him to court to get it tells me you must need the money? So weigh out the pros and cons. Also keep in mind, as much as you "really want to be done with the whole situation" your daughter never will be. Thats her father. It will do alot of damage to her self esteem to grow up without him. It will do just as much though if he isnt a consistent father. Either way youve got it rough. Just keep in mind its about your daughter. Not you or him. Ive spent 10 years biting my tongue so my daughter's father would be around for her at his convenience. And I'm glad I did. She is a very self confident girl with a positive self image. As well as really loving both of her parents. He isnt worthy of that love. But who am I to take that from her? Try talking to him in a non threatening way. Explain to him the importance of his being there. Whether or not he wanted the child tell him sometimes things happen we wish didnt and its a human being youre talking about. Try and make him get that she has feelings and why would he ever want to hurt her feelings? I pointed at a little 3 year old girl one day and said isnt she adorable? My x said yes. I then told him to walk over to her and tell her he didnt think she was very pretty or smart and who would want to be her freind. When he asked why, I explained thats how kids must feel when one or both of their parents dont want to be in their life. They think there must be something wrong with them. That he day he finally got it. Looking at that little girl smiling and laughing I told him thats how his little girl should feel. Good luck to you. And whatever you do, dont stand in the way of their relationship for any reason. Unless shes in danger. It doesnt matter if you dont like a girlfeind or his mother or anyone else. Its none of your business what he does when hes taking care of her. And he doesnt have to visit her with you present. When mothers and fathers do that it shows it has nothing to do with the child. Its all about control. If shes 16 mo. old she is old enough to go with her dad. And you have to trust that he will care for her. The day it is clear he isnt, then take away that right. Your daughter will love you for being the best parent you can be.
2006-10-01 21:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by aperfectpeach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what the laws are in your state, but I think termination means he is no longer under obligation to provide support.
I don't think that having no interest in the child should free him from the obligation to help support her, unless you are financially independent. He may also "grow up" later and begin to show a genuine interest. I would wait if I were you, you can still "move on" with your life with or without him seeing the child. Best of luck to you, in whatever you decide to do.
2006-10-01 20:37:05 · answer #4 · answered by Squirrley Temple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,as long as he has paid his support he has rights the court will apply in his favor..If he chooses not to see the child this is his choice to abandon the child..keep all of your correspondence to the father for later in your daughters life to show you have done everything to encourage his relationship with her..Later you wont hear from your daughter you forced my father out of my life..And the father will never be able to contradict what you have said to use it against you..As far as being done with it all,the only person you will be cheating is your daughter..she deserves support even if it is only financial.. GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-01 20:31:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Terminating his visitation rights may or may not have anything to do with child support payments. You should ask an attorney in your state. If he is the father he should make support payments regardless of whether he bothers to visit the child.
2006-10-01 20:29:55 · answer #6 · answered by taurus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you terminate his parental rights you will not get the child support that you are entitled to so just let him cancel all the visits that you schedule for him eventually your daughter will not have any interests in him anyways trust me i have a 16 yr old daughter whose father lives in the same city as us and the same thing happened to me and even if he doesnt want to keep up on the vistitation im going to get the child support i deserve for her even though it isnt much
2006-10-01 20:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL i understand how you feel, if he wanted to be a father then he would be there to see her without being pressured, you could really do with having a talk with him & asking him if he is really bothered or not, that way you could explain to him it would be easier for you both that way, you could both go your own way then without looking over your shoulder & in the case that you meet a new man & settle down he could then adopt your child, so you could be a proper family, without your ex calling to see your child, i have got you a couple of interesting sites to look at i hope you like them, good luck,
2006-10-01 20:37:59 · answer #8 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if his rights are terminated it means no more child support. Don't just do it out of spite.
2006-10-01 20:23:33 · answer #9 · answered by parental unit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ONLY a family court judge can terminate his rights
2006-10-02 08:34:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋