2006-10-01 12:54:06 · 28 answers · asked by jules 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OK I was trying to keep it short and simple, but now realize I should explain in more detail.
I was a size 4 when we married. I am a model and actor. I have three grown children. He was glad to find a woman in her early forties who was slim.
He does love me and is not normally cruel. He said is own weight gain has bothered him. I still love him, still find him attractive. I am 5’5 and weigh 138. I now wear between an 8 and a 10 depending on designer. I went through menopause and my only symtom was weight gain. But my breasts are still youthful with no drooping, he tells me they look like a twenty year olds, my butt is still in the same place. I have clear soft skin, nice teeth and long red hair. I often act in parts playing the 30-40 year old. I do want to loose the extra weight put on through menopause. He won't make love to me until I loose weight.
Would all men feel this way? It seems as though other men still find me attractive but I want my husband to desire me as I do him.
2006-10-01 15:26:12 · update #1
I'd tell your husband where he can go.
2006-10-01 12:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by goodbye 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does he look like? Does he treat you well or could he be concerned he has not treated you well enough and is afraid of you finding someone else where?
Something is not right, or he would not be so quick to criticize you. Anyone who criticizes is usually insecure for some reason... Above all do not let it absorb into your mind and make you actually think it is true... I am sure you are very lovely and he should not be doing that to you. In the mean time I would talk to him about it casually and find out why he feels the need to say this... I am sure you will be able to read into what it is... Best wishes... â¥
2006-10-01 13:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by goodbye♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to sound harsh, but it sounds like he married you because he confused love with lust. If he is only interested in how you look, that is not love. You need to get rid and find a real man who will treat you right. This is not normal behaviour and you could do so much better. You sound beautiful on the outside and on the inside, so what are you waiting for! Take care : )
2006-10-04 14:19:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh, but how tall are you and what is your weight?
We all know that dresses are off by several sizes. That's a fact! Clothing manufacturers do that to make you 'feel good' about yourselves.
If I'm not sadly mistaken, my wife is a size "2". She's 5'4" and weighs around 120, age - 44.
Now smoke on that!
2006-10-01 13:53:52 · answer #4 · answered by Larry F 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Anything that we may say in the form of an answer will be speculation. Have you asked him that question? If you do...and you open the lines of communication, he may let you know what would cause him to say something that insensitive. Let him know that it hurts you. For what it's worth, I don't think a size 10 is anywhere near what society calls "fat." (hug)
2006-10-01 13:04:19 · answer #5 · answered by DinahLynne 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignorance. Plain and simple.
I'm sure he has all the great physical attributes he had when you married. Tell him you'll be glad to diet when he gains some basic consideration for your feelings.
2006-10-01 14:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound good to me. What size is he? that is probably a good question. if he's in good shape, then he's judging you against the hot honey's he sees at the mall or on the street. If he doesn't appreciate you, then I will tell you there are plenty of guys out there that will. Good Luck.
2006-10-01 12:59:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he's insecure about how he looks, and wants you to feel crappy too. You know the saying Misery loves company.
The next same he says that, just say, "So?" It will piss him off that you're not reacting to his barbs. No matter what he says, just say, "So?" with a bored expression on your face.
Let us know what happens.
2006-10-01 13:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably because he's not happy with himself. Usually when someone has some type of insecurity, they tend to attack someone else to make them feel the same.
2006-10-01 12:56:56 · answer #9 · answered by Leaving on a jetplane 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he cant see too well. Call him an old fart and dont worry about what he says. If you are happy with how you look, then thats all that really matters.
2006-10-01 13:02:36 · answer #10 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're husband calls you fat for one reason : HE IS AN IDIOT!
Of course my Psychological analysis would be more lengthy but the bottom line is HE'S AN IDIOT !
2006-10-01 13:30:09 · answer #11 · answered by Brains & Beauty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋