I am 15 5ft9in tall and 300lbs I am about to start a new school but I want to feel sure about myself and I really dont know how. Durning the summer I stay in the house. I dont even go outside for fresh air because I dont think I am pretty but my mother say beauty comes from within.
2006-10-01 12:51:47 · 16 answers · asked by oopsy 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
Your mothers right im sure your pretty girl. and has a kind heart. First things first. The heck with staying in the house my dear. this is a big world and you deserve to be in it just as much as anyone else. Beside fresh air is good for everyone. Whether its a walk to the corner store or to a park walking a pet. Get out there you'll feel better with the sun shining etc... Don't let some strangers rob you from your happiness nor be a prisoner in your own home. You don't owe them an explanation. besides if you stay in all the time and don't leave your home. More problems will arise your self esteem, you'll feel crappy. You won't have any energy to go out. and your missing alot out there. You are the size you are right now. But that doesn't mean its forever thats up to you. Big or small you can still get out there and do what interests you and makes you happy. Now on to your question how you can feel better about yourself. One i just told you get out of the house is for starters. dont' care where you go just make it a habit once a day your going to venture out for a walk or a trip to the mall what ever you do just say to yourself i'm doing this.. This is my life my world too. 2nd try some self help books I feel your lacking in self esteem maybe you have been teased or dont' feel worthy enough. You can change that. You just have to focus and believe in your self dear. Just remember rome wasnt' built in a day. Every step you take to better your self and feel good is a step in the right direction. So start small and continue each day. Make yourself a to do list . and what you are achieveing on the way. This is no race. you only have to prove this to yourself.
Tell yourself something positive every day and repeat it till you mean it. thats important if you don't believe in yourself how can someone else. You say your about to start a new school great fresh beginnings exciting. You walk in there with your head held high. AS to say to yourself I deserve to be here just as anyone else. Find some nice outfits to wear. do your hair pretty like. make up nice . Smile and be your self. People will see your beauty from within, and you'll feel better yourself.
Don't let any stranger rob you from your happiness no matter what size you are dear. And start feeling better about yourself read those books go to the library . And take a walk around the block every day every bit helps and you'll feel better too.
Good luck come back and tell us how you do.
2006-10-01 16:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings may stem from your weight. You can seek help from a therapist, or someone else you can respect, and go outside and get some exercize to feel better about your size.
Staying inside and avoiding the world is a sign that you are having some issues that need your own attention and perhaps the help of an expert. Asking your question is a first step. Now you need to follow through. Is there a counselor or teacher at your school you could talk to?
It is true that beauty comes from the inside. Having said that, you are at risk of having health problems with your size and you would be well advised to seek help. If you are able to attend to your physical and mental health, your will feel better about venturing into the big world out there.
2006-10-01 13:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by Coffeyvillian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beauty really does come from within. If your weight bothers you, you can always change it. It's your choice. If it's actually something else out of your control that causes it, no problem. There are many people in the world who see past what's on the outside and focus on your personality, what really counts. You really seem like a sweet person and your mother sounds very supportive. Just remember who you are inside. If anyone even thinks of putting you down for how you look, remember that they're the real ugly ones inside.
2006-10-01 12:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by Maakies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a pity that we live in a world where a person is judged by mere appearance.What is true today wasn't true yesterday and is not going to be true tom morrow.
Skinny people are the flavor of the week. Not too long ago if you were skinny you were considered hideous and ugly and chubbiness was synonymous with beauty and wealth.If you see older roman paintings you see all women to be heavy set.
so don't worry about this BS and go to school with your head held high.wear a smile and it will win you many a friends.
go get em tiger!
2006-10-01 13:26:35 · answer #4 · answered by Vin N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As corny as it is, if you are beautiful on the inside, it will show on the outside--I've known a number of girls your size who were very pretty. Something else that might help you would be reading magazines targeted towards BBWs (Big Beautiful Women) like yourself. That way, you can surround yourself with positive role models who have also accepted themselves.
2006-10-01 12:57:32 · answer #5 · answered by spunk113 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What your Mother meant by 'beauty comes from within' is that you have to feel and believe within yourself that you are pretty. Feeling this way will make you feel better. You don't really have to change who you are. You are who you are and nothing can change that.
2006-10-01 13:14:44 · answer #6 · answered by Ikos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does come from within. That doesn't mean that you can't be happy with the outside too. Once you start loving yourself, you'll feel better, when you feel good - you look good. Get out there! Live your life!
2006-10-01 12:53:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice, which always works is to write a list of all the good things about yourself and read them off. If that doesn't work ask your friends to write a list about you and what they think about you. They will probably say good things and you will fell better about yourself in no time.
2006-10-01 12:54:16 · answer #8 · answered by Kara R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to realise that the only opinions that matter are those of whom you respect. The herd pick on individuals. But the individuals always do better in life.
2006-10-01 12:54:38 · answer #9 · answered by Jotun 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what ppl think of you...if your being made fun of for BEING 300 lbs then maby THATS why you dont feel good about yourself...i realy cant say anything besisdes, just ignor what OTHERs think, and always think good of yourself
2006-10-01 13:00:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋