me and my husband has not had sex in 4 months . he alsways has an excuse he is either to hot or tied or he is just out of shape or the kids just got on his neves so he was not in the mood . i dont think he is cheating i know every move he makes he dont have time to do anything so what would you think ? he is the best guy you could ever ask for his only down fall is him not wanting sex like i do . please help !!!!!
2006-10-01 12:33:25 · 9 answers · asked by suzanne s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
heya. this is actually a pretty common thing. i have read quite a few blogs and similar of late where women are all talking about the same problem.
truthfully, if you can have a relationship with your husband without sex, then i would stay with him if that is the only issue. after all, you probably didn't marry him just for the sex. realise that he might have a lower libido than your own. this might even be worth getting checked out by a doctor, if you want to, as sometimes it is issues such as a man being quite low in testosterone that lead to things like this.
otherwise, maybe try to increase your intimacy without demanding sex? i do know how you feel, as i am in the same boat with my hubby, and it can be a really hard thing. but you are not alone in going through this, so take heart from that.
one thing i would say is be careful not to let a lack of intimacy in the bedroom carry over to being a lack of intimacy in other areas of life - because that is when things get really hard.
2006-10-01 12:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by girl3blonde 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
did it ever occur to you that maybe he is tired or the kids did get on his nerves. You need to send the kids out for a whole day to grandma an aunt friend some where. Then take your husband out. He needs to know that he is special not just good for sex after a night on the town no kids or nagging. when you get home put on some lingerie give him a massage and believe me he will be in the mood. If that doesn't work he's having an affair.
2006-10-01 12:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by Htnspyc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is a tough one.There could be something physically wrong with him. He has no libido, that's what's it called. He needs to see a doctor. If it's not that, he's getting some some place else or he's gay. Whatever his problem or your problem is, you need to seek professional help. Sex is a very important part of marriage. It is the ultimate form of communication,
2006-10-01 12:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to be kidding, you haven't had sex it four months! their is definitely something wrong...Have you talked with him about you concerns? If your 100% that he's faithful { trust me their is always time to be unfaithful}...then it has to be his health, you should follow up with your primary care DR., It could be his blood pressure, diabetes, diet, alcohol,or even medications that he may be taking....He shouldn't feel this way, he should want to fix this. If everything turns out okay health wise maybe the two of you need to get away ALONE.... good luck
2006-10-01 13:25:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would throw him down & take advantage of him.. And if you are sure he is not cheating.. I would let him know that hey even though you're a woman.. You to still have needs. If you can not get him to budge.. Maybe some type of couple counseling would help.
2006-10-01 13:39:45 · answer #5 · answered by Kammaka2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see.a babysitter for the night,dinner,drinks and some quiet sensual time just the 2 of you,no pressure.If he doesn't come around then,a good long talk is in order.
2006-10-01 12:52:30 · answer #6 · answered by Tom S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COUNSELING....or jump his bones in the bed at night.
Seriously, you two need to talk and he needs to tell you what is really wrong. Be aware of his habits, he could even be depressed or sorry to say, having an affair.
2006-10-01 12:40:01 · answer #7 · answered by TheOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have him get a physical, there may be some medical problem that he is unaware of or is hiding from you ... possibly erectile disfunction(ED), or some other issue that has him stressed out at work. make a doctor's appointment for him and make sure he goes to it.
2006-10-01 12:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you look like? Is he no longer attracted to you in some way?
2006-10-01 12:43:51 · answer #9 · answered by Yahoo Con 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋