My family's a really traditional white conservative family and I'm pregnant by a black man. I'm also only 16 and I'm not sure who the father is. How can I tell my family without them freaking out???
2006-10-01 12:28:27 · 25 answers · asked by Hope 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
over the pgone an stear clear for awhile theyll eventually calm down an itll be over they will come around
2006-10-01 14:29:32 · answer #1 · answered by misty w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope first of all I would like to say congradulations. You my dear friend are a child and to be that promiscuous is a crime. Not only did you not take precaution for yourself you have just hurt your family and most of all your child.Taking a child on the Maury show is not considered a family vacation to find out who the dad is. If you are not sure who the dad how will you have support for your child? FYI being a baby having a baby is not fun. Believe me. I had a baby when I was 16 and delivered when I was 17 it was no fun it was hard work and sacrifice. If you are planning to have this child do what is right and tell your parents so that the child has a chance. The baby did not ask to be here and your foolish decisions should not embark on the child. Get prenatal care and take care of yourself. Remember that your family loves you no matter what dumb *** mistakes you make. Also this is the new century, your family is going to love that child no matter what race it is, if not get the **** away from them...
Take care!
2006-10-01 12:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't. They are going to freak out no matter how you tell them. After the initial shock wears off, they will calm down and come around.
I think the thing that is going to be the hardest on them is the fact that you have been sleeping around so much that now you don't know who the father is.
Just sit them both down and tell them that you had sex and now you are pregnant. Take them somewhere public if you are worried about the reaction. Although, I must say that may not even help them keep their anger and disappointment in check.
Good Luck!
2006-10-01 12:35:53 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was going to tell you to just get it over with and tell them. My family is not the close lovey dovey family that my husband has, and I just told them and they really had no opinions on it.
But, the part that you don't know who the father is and it's a black man would probably freak your family out the most by how you describe them.
You can only hide it for so long though.
2006-10-01 12:33:48 · answer #4 · answered by Lori M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's no way you can tell them without freaking them out. That's pretty obvious. Of course, it was pretty obvious that you shouldn't have sex with multiple partners at the age of 16, and you missed that somehow.
The best thing you can do is tell them in a calm manner and hope for the best. It will be YOUR baby, and regardless of the color of its skin, only a heartless monster wouldn't love him/her. Just because your parents are traditional conservative white people doesn't make them heartless monsters. I wish you the best of luck!
2006-10-01 13:42:17 · answer #5 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to tell them sooner rather than later. Your family WILL freak out but there is not a lot that you can do about that now. Maybe you can see a counselor that specializes in teen pregnancy. I'm sure that will help. Good Luck To You.
2006-10-01 12:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by kim j 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. You are a big girl and need to hear this: there is no delicate way to tell your parents what you just told THE WHOLE WORLD!!! \
But I guess if you have the confidence to tell the millions of people who use the internet, then you should be able to tell your family..
ABOVE ALL: Your family will be even more pissed off if you try to hide it with an abortion. DO NOT TAKE THAT ROAD.
2006-10-01 12:36:38 · answer #7 · answered by unitedf1rst 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are going to freak out no matter how you tell them. However, the longer you wait the worse the "freak out" is going to be. You are going to need emotional as well as financial support. The sooner you tell them, the faster the freak out will end and you get the support you will need. HOPEFULLY! Good luck.
ps. Figure out who the father is...and for gosh sakes start using your head for something besides a hat rack!
2006-10-01 12:34:49 · answer #8 · answered by w_a_v_e_d_a_n_c_e_r 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest dont try to hide it. They will naturally get upset and hurt but they will get over it. Your a brave person for being honest and telling them b/c its hard especially when your family is traditional. My advice is try to back track who the father might be and then get to the doctor for your check up and talk to your family. Dont take too long to do it either you owe it to your unborn child. Good luck.
2006-10-01 12:40:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way to tell them and be prepared for them freaking out, especially since you don't know who the father is. Best thing to do is get it out in the open and be honest with them because you need to see a doctor and get the proper prenatal care.
2006-10-01 12:36:24 · answer #10 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. The will freak out, but then eventually calm down. The disturbing part of this question is I'm not sure who the father is. You have a major problem and you need MAJOR help.
2006-10-01 12:31:08 · answer #11 · answered by snddupree 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋