I really try not to show my annoyance because I dont want to be seen as a grumpy old man(I'm 36)I try to live and let live but some of the things that people say and do leave me bewildered. Then I feel guilt because I feel superior to them because I put their actions down to ignorance.I feel responsible for my socially inept friends and end up embarrassed by peoples reactions to them.Then I'm accused of being a snob when nothing could be further from the truth Is this a common thing because nobody I know seems to understand? They cant see it.
2006-10-01 12:24:40 · 16 answers · asked by returnofkarlos 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you feel superior, it probably means you are. Don't surround yourself with people who you don't have at least a little bit of respect or admiration for.
As for being a snob, I'm often accused of being one, but I just see it as standards! If you don't come up to mine, then I don't want to know! Life's too short to spend your time with people who aren't on your wave length.
Remember, equality is a lie! We are not all equal, don't waste your time with people who are less than your equal!
2006-10-02 04:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a controlling personality. I have similar problems I'm working on.
"The tendency to criticize is deeply embedded in the controlling person's character. Basically, he projects his self-criticism onto others...
He takes criticism badly and never forgets or forgives it, especially if it is made in public. He perceives revealing his imperfections as a weakening of his power base, setting him up as an object of ridicule.
Still he finds it second nature to criticize others. Even though he is often pointed and blunt, he always sees his criticism as being necessary, helpful, and instructive, an act of love. After all, where would others be without him? He doesn't understand why people aren't grateful for his constant constructive criticism, he drives everyone to distraction...
He knows the right way to do everything and comments on everything that falls short of the ideal.
His criticism is just another form of projection as he tries to deal with his own imperfections. Try not to take it seriously."
Quoted from "Emotional Resilience" by David Viscott, MD.
2006-10-01 19:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I do believe that I know exactly what you mean. People around me tend do things in a matter that is not consistant with logic at all. I only say something about it on occasion to help me to not explode. Unfortunately, the fact that I mentioned it makes me a b*tc*. But why, oh it's because I am surrounded by people who do not use their mind to think things out.
I do however think that I am overly judging so a lot of times I dismiss my complaint chalking it up to the fact that I am very analitical, so maybe I am just being overly b*tc*y. Glad to know that I am not the only one.
2006-10-01 19:46:29 · answer #3 · answered by girlnoladrea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When other people raise strong emotions in us, it is usually a sign that we are having an issue about ourself rather than them. Try to work out why they make you feel the way you do. What exactly is it that makes you feel uncomfortable. Perhaps you are really feeling guilty for believing yourself to be superior.
2006-10-01 19:28:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. The key is to just have friends that are on your level and then you won't have the socially inept annoyances.
2006-10-01 19:26:32 · answer #5 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It Is Not Your Fault When Other People Act Up. It is Their Choice.
2006-10-01 19:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by waterfalls 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its both, the world is full of weirdos for one, and second we are around people that sometimes are stupid and we probably wish we were friends with the normal cooler people, but since were not we feel like everyone we are around is stupid and why are we with them?
lol
i am kinda like this at times and i think that may be the underlying reason.
sometimes even nice people annoy me, then i think about it and think " why am i such a *****"? im never mean to anyone but i still think it!
2006-10-01 19:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
and you have friends? how can you call yourself a friend when you are embarrased by their actions? why did you become friends with them in the first place? was there something you had in common? has something changed? Just my opinion but I think you need to take a look around, if your friends are friends then I think you owe them an apology!
2006-10-01 19:30:21 · answer #8 · answered by what? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yup, it's your fault. You have a chemical imbalance. Seek counsel.
2006-10-01 20:51:26 · answer #9 · answered by aQTinMVny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man chill out and accept that everyone has faults.you seem to have a big fault so shouldn't criticise anyone!
2006-10-01 19:31:57 · answer #10 · answered by steveo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋