best friend didn't call me yet...?

Question

We've been best friends for over 30 years, in the same week, a motorcycle hit my car(guy wasn't hurt)and my father who has emphysema was in the hospital, she know's about both of these incidents, and hasn't called me, it's been since last Wed, I'm both hurt and pissed.....is she really my best friend or am I just holding on to that because we've had such a history together?

what do you know? Finally called today, but needed me to pick up her daughter who missed the bus

Answer 1

I would call her and ask her whats going on and find out why she hasn't called you. Tell her exactly how you feel. See what she says and take it from there. You both might be trying to just hold on because of your history. I've been friends with my bestfriend for 18 years and something like this is happening to our friendship. I told her how I felt and then I listened to what she had to say. We are still trying to work on it but I don't know if I want to anymore(long story). If you still want to be friends then do what you have to to stay friends if thats what you both want. See what she wants and go from there. Good luck.

Answer 2

If you have been best friends for over 30 years then the friendship should be at a point you don't need to wait for her to call you. Give her a call. Your friend may think that you have a lot on your plate right now and when you have the time, you will call her. If this does not sound like something she would do, call her anyway and ask why she hasn't called. Never throw away a friendship on assumptions, find out the facts and go from there.
I hope your dad is feeling better.

Answer 3

U have every right to be upset at her not shoeing any concern( since she's been ur friend for over 30yrs)

I would hope that she has one HELL of a reason she hasn't called.

If and when she calls, see how long it takes before she ask how things are going. If she ask tell her, nothing for u to be concerned over since u haven't called or say " what are u talking about when she says the accident and ur dad" then say I gotta go talk to when I talk to ya.

If she doesn't fellow up a call after that then that will be the last nail of u wondering if she cares, because she really should have been there from the start.

Answer 4

Sometimes people do just grow apart. This could be the case, but I would say that she probably knows your history as well as you do. Is it possible that maybe she just wants to give you a little space to work out your feelings about the bad things that have happened to you. Knowing myself, I usually like to be alone when there is a crisis. Maybe she thinks you are the same way and she just wants to give you some breathing room.

Answer 5

Wait and see if she calls by this Wednesday. She could be very busy. But some people are just users and only care what you can do for them, I suggest easing out of the friendship. Or just don't call again or when she finally calls return the treatment by not calling her back for weeks.

Answer 6

you are holding, because of the history, if she really was ur best friend, well dear she isnt, i had one just like that, i mean now after 22 years, of being friends , well she was my best friend b4, but now, we only talk maybe 3-4 times a month to catch up on what has been going on in our lives, any way i hope this answer helps you toodles

Answer 7

Maybe she's just busy or waiting for you to call and discuss it. After 30 years, you shouldn't doubt her friendship. Make the first move. Maybe she had an even worse week.

Answer 8

Lexia: dont let friendships fade away because knowing deep others heart says sorry because stressing out wont help any
really " we can be great friends if you like that" says Toddk57
best to have two good ones!

Answer 9

You definitely have a right to be pissed. Let her know that you are pissed and then if the reason isn't good enough, cut your losses--she's hurt you enough.