I met a guy. He's half white half black. I have no problem with it. But my mom does not like the fact that he is half black. She has a stereotypical attitude about and does not approve of the relationship. I can talk about him to her about it whatsoever. Also he has been married, divorced and has two kids. I have been engaged and split before we got married. If these issues don't bother me, why am I so worried about my mom's approval on this. I'm a grown-woman and feel I can't talk to my parents about my bf.
2006-10-01 12:07:09 · 13 answers · asked by jovy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I meant to say I can't talk about him to them whatsoever.
2006-10-01 12:08:45 · update #1
That is the rub, isn't it? It is natural to want the blessing of your parents(at least for most people). All your life your parents are usually your biggest and most loyal supporters.
But, you have to live your life too. that is why one leaves the nest. So, you have to pit loyalty of family against happiness with mate, spouse or whatever.
So it is kind of like a game of "chicken". Who blinks 1st? You or your mom? If you go with what you feel your heart is, and the key to your happiness. You might have to resign the fact that the holidays will be with your immediate family and step kids(his family if they are cool with it). Or be miserable and alone but eating turkey at your parent's house. You mother is always your mother. No matter what. If you went with this guy, and he was not as true as you say, and was not there for life(as he wasn't)for his 1st wife. You mother may be pissed for a long, long while. But she may get over it or get pass it to a point. And grand kids can many times soften the hardest of hearts. So roll the die on happiness with this guy at the moment. Just make sure he is all the way worth it.
2006-10-02 01:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can say or do that's gonna change the way your parents think. You sound like you've got a pretty good head on your shoulders, so you do what you think is right and what will make you happy. You'll be surprised how the world just seems to fall into place.
2006-10-01 12:11:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just dating the guy, right? I wouldn't worry too much about what mom and dad think at this point. If you are a grown woman and you are self-sufficient, let your parents know that you have the right to date who you want. Your parents racial prejudice is their problem, don't make it yours!
2006-10-01 12:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by solstice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It became meant to be this type we are all human - races are actually not something extra desirable than distinctive advantageous properties -bodily and culturally it is all i'm gald we are all different -if we looked allthe comparable and have been culturally a similar i might have in no way stumbled on the affection of my existence and gave delivery to my eye-catching "different" daughter she is a mix of White (Norweigan,Holland,French descent (i'm a pink head) and of Black (French-Creole,American Indian,and White descent( her daddy) She is a georgous 2 month old with a complexion in comparison to something i've got ever considered -she is rather trouble-free ( some human beings thinks she is Arabic or hispanic )and has a rosey-plummy tone to her epidermis (I easily have purple undertones in my epidermis -he has pink undertones in his) her epidermis is ver luminous and that i consistently get advised how eye-catching she is and how somewhat her complexion is and he or she is a quite clever infant and is already doing component way earlier to time -!!! we adore her and love one yet another very lots and function been mutually for 4 years he's via a ways the final dating I easily have ever had in my existence inclusive of friends & kinfolk - He treats me the way i desire to be dealt with and so do I to him -We the two fee the "GOLDEN RULE" final analysis is you will desire to be with who you adore and treats you like gold no remember what they seem to be its all in regards to the guy on the interior and that makes them much extra eye-catching on the outdoors !!!!
2016-10-18 07:57:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't talk to them about you bf that's a bad sign. You're not free! You gotta be free from what people think about you. Be they your parents or whomever. Let THEM worry.
Be happy!
2006-10-01 12:12:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy makes you happy then go for it. Your family can not live your life for you. Even though I am sure you respect your family, you have to be real to yourself. Talk with him about your situation. I honestly think he needs to know what he is up against when it comes to our family.
2006-10-01 12:12:07 · answer #6 · answered by tsij 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not like to disappoint my mother are the age of 42, so I understand your dilemma. I suggest you search your heart for the right answer.
God Bless
2006-10-01 12:11:17 · answer #7 · answered by BetsyF 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like the guy...as soon as your mom sees that she will look past her stereotypical views and just be happy that your happy
2006-10-01 12:10:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that. My daughter married into an interracial marriage and I feel as long as she is happy and they love one another who am I to say what is right and what is wrong. I am just happy that she is happy.
2006-10-01 12:29:50 · answer #9 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents don't have to live with your partner. You do. Pick a good one. Doesn't really matter what color he/she is, or even what they look like.
2006-10-01 12:09:39 · answer #10 · answered by Cattlemanbob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋