Look I'm straighter than a nail and some people say I'm a pretty boy but that doesn't make me gay, so how do I stop gay men from hitting on me. I tried to be nice but they keep flirting, I don't know what to do to get them off my back. I told them I'm straight and they reply, I can change that girlfriend. This is really freaking me out, please help. I live in the San Fransico area and it's a heavly gay community but I"M NOT GAY! Should I move?
2006-10-01 11:36:10 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Don't tell me there's no gay people where I live, I live in Castro near the Castro Theater. It's like 98% gay.
2006-10-01 12:28:04 · update #1
i guess the main reason is ur attractive. be up front and tell them hey im not that way. no if ur confident in ur sexuality theres no reason for u to move
2006-10-01 11:38:12 · answer #1 · answered by melonyd2003 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is he a guy? certain. Then he shouldn't. i do not care if he likes boys or females or both. he's a guy so HE can't hit a woman. as well, in case you've been out someplace and also you spoke of a guy hit a woman, you does no longer recognize if he became gay. you'll could invite him. So then he will be arrested. they'd see a guy, no longer a gay. properly, if the regulation says he can, than which will be tousled. a woman on female wrestle? What? human beings could no longer hit eachother firstly.
2016-11-25 21:15:31 · answer #2 · answered by akien 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, come on. Unless you live in the heart of the Castro I think your "always" is a big over statement. The Bay Area is not THAT gay. Besides, anyone confident in their sexuality can easily say, "I'm straight, but thanks" without thinking it's a big deal. Don't move, just work on your self-confidence.
PS - Ha, OK, you do live where you are apt to be hit on all the time! That's about as gay of a neighborhood as you can find. If it bugs ya, move to another part of the city. Even if the locals get to know you, there will always be out of towners coming thru, and it's probably going to continue as long as you are male (i.e. forever). Btw, takes a lot of self-confidence to be a straight guy living there. Sorry about earlier comment, but was thinking SF area meant like, idk, Alameda.... Cheers.
2006-10-01 12:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by Alex62 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had a problem with other gay guys. It can be flattering to begin with, but gets frustrating when the same person just won't get it.
The guys who seem to hit on straight dudes to the point of annoyance seem like they enjoy being the harasser of straights, rather than the harassed party for once.
So you have become a peripheral victim of homophobia, I guess...
If I was getting hit on agressively by women, I suppose I might consider moving, but that really suckks. Sorry dude.
2006-10-01 11:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't politely flirt with them. That only leads them on and makes them think they have a chance with you. Live where you are happy. If all the attention in San Francisco is making you unhappy, than leave. If you really love it there, stay. The choice is up to you. Though personally, I would try not to let it get to you.
2006-10-01 11:52:07 · answer #5 · answered by Kharm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, you may be putting out signals. No one hits on someone unless they think they have a chance (or are drunk). Sure, some people are more confident and forthcoming, but usually they wouldn't just put the moves on someone that they don't think they have the slightest chance with.
Moving is always an option. But maybe you should stick around and think over the above mentioned stuff. Not saying you are gay... but maybe, slightly bent?
2006-10-01 11:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by Suraya 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Either that or find a woman who is not afraid to speak her mind in your defense to accompany when you go out. Maybe they'll leave you alone if you aren't alone.
Me, I wouldn't live there anyway, it's too expensive, and the hills suck.
2006-10-01 11:40:16 · answer #7 · answered by water boy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't make eye contact. you men - straight or gay - think that if an attractive person makes eye contact that they're interested. you'll have to learn to do what all the pretty girls have learned to do - look at people without looking at them.
good luck
2006-10-01 11:44:25 · answer #8 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow I wish I lived where you were I can't get hit on even if I was straight.
2006-10-01 18:11:22 · answer #9 · answered by Brandon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL. Now you know how a good looking woman feels when she is hit on left and right and just isn't looking for dates! Get over yourself, laugh it off and go about your life.
2006-10-01 13:37:52 · answer #10 · answered by michael941260 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋