He told me when we were datinng that his ex was beautiful and he had no other word to descibe her.She's got light blond hair,blue green eyes,thin lips,and very white skin.I am the exact opposite!When I said,"what about me?', his reply was,"youre aalright.."In an "it's o.k."tone.He cheated on me with her a few weeks before we wed.He's never called me beautiful,rarely calls me pretty,and gets quiet or makes a funny face whenever me or anyone else complements my looks. He gawks at anything with breasts right in front of me(which makes me feel hideous!I hate going out in public with him 'cause of this).His mother doesn't find me attractive either and is always dropping hints about it.This puts a damper on our relationship and causes me to practically "fall in love" with anyone who treats me like I'm beautiful(or even pretty).Why did he marry me if he feels that way?
2006-10-01 11:29:53 · 16 answers · asked by Direktor 5 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
My sister said to me,"you look really good when you're at the right weight" I repeated this to him and he replied,"you don't look THAT good!"he tried to cover it up and say he meant I look just as good with the extra weight but I know by his facial expression what he meant!
2006-10-01 11:31:59 · update #1
i wish i could (hug) you you deserve much better athe truebeauty of anyone is on the inside ..not the outside..when you get a divorce that is what you ned to look for a man who is going to treat you like a lady...
2006-10-01 11:39:08 · answer #1 · answered by nas88car300 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No offense hun, but you should have never married him! You need to leave now or have marital couseling arranged, RIGHT NOW!! First, he's still obsessed with a girl, wether it be his ex or anyone who looks like her. Second, HELLO!!! he cheated on you!! Get out of there!!! Thrid, he is a controling bastard. Sorry, I know that might sound harsh, but I bet I'm right. He makes you feel bad about your weight and appearence all the time, doesn't he? He compares you to the things he wants or think he can have, doesn't he? When was the last time he complimented you? I bet it's been a long while, huh? Is he always on time when he comes home to you, or is he "out with the friends" or "having dinner with a client/ boss"? If any of this sounds familiar, leave now. If you honestly believe there is a fight chance here, seek counseling, but I would try to talk to him first to see his reaction. If he gets defensive and doesn't want to listen, then leave. If he actually wants to work on the problem, seek counseling. Trust me on this girl. For me, I stayed with a man that did these same things and it eventually led to physical abuse. Luckily, I wasn't married to him. I now have a man whom I love and treats me like I'm the most beautiful woman on the face of this earth. We are expecting our second child in February. I hope, reguardless of what you decide, that all turns out well for you. Good Luck hun!!!
2006-10-01 18:49:30 · answer #2 · answered by Autumn_Anne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better divorce with him, Who does he think he is. He should love you for who you are not for your looks. Tell him to a get a life. If he wants looks then he'd better grow up. What in the world is he thinking. You shouldn't get all mad, Don't even take the words he said to you. He doesn't know any better. Tell him your over. No true love treats people like that.
2006-10-01 18:40:26 · answer #3 · answered by Kira e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys that feel you are a competition to them, as in looks, brains, success, tend to make u feel ugly or something so they can feel better than u. This is an insecurity problem (for him) and u don;t deserve it. If he married u, he does like ur looks but there are 100000000 reasons why he wouldn;t want u to know about it.
2006-10-01 18:36:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl my heart is aching for you. Have you considered a divorce? He doesn't sound like hes the right one for you. Tell him if his ex is SO pretty to go get her! You can do better and he knows that and he knows that he has to keep your self esteem low in order to keep you with him. Drop him on his head girl!
2006-10-01 18:36:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Reading what you said makes me feel so sad. I hope one day you find the strength to leave this shallow man and allow yourself to be loved in the way that you deserve.
2006-10-01 18:39:28 · answer #6 · answered by miss_ruby_topaz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun you need to divorce this idiot. He does not deserve you at all if he is making you feel that way. I dont know how or why you put up with him or his mother's ****. Your BEAUTIFUL, inside and out! Never forget that!!
2006-10-01 18:39:39 · answer #7 · answered by hott_n_furious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband's behavior toward you is abusive.
You sound like you have a beautiful personality and deserve to be treated like a queen. You deserve better than you have.
2006-10-01 18:38:36 · answer #8 · answered by m15 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you know that mine treats me almost the same but because i see and people see that i am pretty i don't care about what he says and how many times does he repeat it , and if you think that you are over weight work on it and i am sure that your self confidence level will rise
2006-10-01 18:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by anahona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't want to hurt your feelings sweety...but he is a bastard...leave him...tell him...you found a handsom guy....why sugar coat it...he doesn't for you....you must take care of him hand and foot....he knows he can do these things to you....if my boo never told me i was beautiful...or for that matter...make WTF faces when someone else does....and plus him MOM...i kick that bytches ***...get out of there....you are goin to loose all the self esteem you have left...if any....and you are going to forget who you are....if he cheated on you...why did you mary him....remember.....you can do bad by yourself...and you can do good...just as well by yourself...i really have never told anyone to leave their spouse...but I want you to leave....erase him from your mind....look at it as a bump in the road...a lesson learned...his lost.....even if the other was beautiful....he doesn't have her....he must not be that great after all....get rid of him...now.....
2006-10-01 18:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by Chocolate_Bunny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋