I have been making eye contact with a nice guy at work. We meet each others glance, and both look away, then half a second later both look back and hold it for a bit longer.... He is nice, but I don't want to make a move in case he isn't gay...
2006-10-01 11:21:03 · 8 answers · asked by paule 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Sometimes the direct approach is best, just ask. But if that seems too bold for your liking, look for the following signs. Pay attention to your conversations with the person in question.
1) Does this person show a special interest in having a conversation with you and, once started, make an effort to keep that conversation going?
2) Has this person taken a sudden interest in your life and hobbies? This is a sure sign that he or she is interested in something.
3) Other elements of body language include frequent eye contact, holding your gaze and looking down before looking away.
4) Does the person you're wondering about just plain smile at you a lot?
Just remember, take each moment like it will be the last. This I feel will be a good start for you in knowing. Good Luck!!!!!!!
2006-10-01 22:07:20 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My theory has always been the straight men don't maintain eye contact with other men. Oh, and gay men who are afraid you might like them, when they don't like you don't do it either. But I wouldn't go grabbing his butt in the elevator just based on that. Try a smile next time your glances lock. If he smiles back, go for, "Hey wanna grab a cup of coffee?" It could be a beer or a martini rather than coffee if you're about to get off work.
2006-10-01 13:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by michael941260 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im immediately, and what you say has abit of floor to it, what I recommend through that is that I very not often seem a guy in the eyes. It’s extra women individuals, why? It’s to strengthen an unstated connection with them, like a sense of acceptance that you understand them. i believe it could be a similar with gays, so definite, i position self assurance in my opinion that if a guy can grant various eye contact that they are maximum likely in touch
2016-12-04 02:49:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect he already knows you are gay. Leave the rest up to him...he either moves on it or he doesn't . Just because he is gay doesn't mean that he will move on you...relax, give it time and see what happens...BUT I will tell you it is NEVER wise to mess around in the same area as you work. good luck
2006-10-01 11:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Flirting with co-workers??? A definite no-no (not unless you ran into him at a bar/club). I tell you from experience, you'll waste too much time / risk exposing yourself too much...
What if he's just f*cking with you?
What if he gets scared of your advances and tells others?
What if other people notice this?
Like GOLDWING said in other words, "let HIM take the risk".
2006-10-01 11:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know... go out for a drink and ask him...? *shrugs* If he's as nice as you say he is, then he's most likely pretty secure, so he won't care if you ask him such a question. Just make sure he's not Republican...
2006-10-01 11:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is, but if you aren't ready to be outted, then don't make a move. Strategy: Mildly flirt with him until you drive him crazy with desire. Then move in on him.
Also, try watching him when you can. See what else, besides you, catches his attention.
2006-10-01 11:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
ask him is he seeing anyone that way you give him an opening to let you in
2006-10-01 11:23:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋