Ok so since i got divorced i tried every way to get over my ex. I started a great path of frivolous sex by being absolutely honest and telling women i don't want any kind of boyfriendship at all. We do our thing but a couple DAYS go by and most of them get attatched despite already being told the outcome. That got old so i tried actual dating first before sex, kinda like trying to get to know the ladies. But every SINGLE time, at the end of the first night i end up in someones bed. So! do women really think they're less of a "slut" if the word "boyfriend" is involved when they give it up easy? I mean, i love sex, i don't care about lables, why aren't there any women that can just be honest about what they want?
2006-10-01 11:20:30 · 9 answers · asked by Slosh 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Ok so since i got divorced i tried every way to get over my ex. I started a great path of frivolous sex by being absolutely honest and telling women i don't want any kind of boyfriendship at all. We do our thing but a couple DAYS go by and most of them get attatched despite already being told the outcome. That got old so i tried actual dating first before sex, kinda like trying to get to know the ladies. But every SINGLE time, at the end of the first night i end up in someones bed. So! do women really think they're less of a "****" if the word "boyfriend" is involved when they give it up easy? I mean, i love sex, i don't care about lables, why aren't there any women that can just be honest about what they want?
P.S. For the person who turned it back on me... I make my intentions clear right off the bat. I'm a man, i won't turn down sex when it's offered but i do think it's kind of sad that there's hardly ever any work involved anymore.
2006-10-01 11:49:43 · update #1
lol tobias. Seems like a stupid question that you answered. Give yourself a hand.
2006-10-01 14:00:14 · update #2
Seems to me you people are missing the point. Sex is not a tool for women to use to snare men. Most men, myself included, will take it where they can get it. I'm not the one calling anyone a slut, that's a label the ignorant use to put down someone who enjoys promiscuity. Maybe the question was phrased wrong, but i'm getting the notion that people EXPECT to be lied to and thus work around it by using their own expectations to justify their actions.
I'm NOT looking for promiscuous sex, i'm actually trying to find a woman that DOESNT put out on the first date, go figure i'm the dick because im simply relating my experiences. And yes, i'm a Sl*t too for going to bed with them, my hypocracy is not up for debate here, i know how i work already, the question is why WOMEN act the way they act. FFS!
2006-10-01 16:17:42 · update #3
HAHAHAHAHAHA...
Did the ladies loose track of their mission in life, or
did you loose track of yours?
I thought you said you wanted to get to know them
before sex, going steady, or marriage? Am I right?
If so, how did you wind up in bed, or in the back
seat of a car, and who is it exactly that doesn't know
what they want?
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Wow... We have to pin this problem on someone right?
2006-10-01 11:32:40 · answer #1 · answered by zahbudar 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How does a woman developing an attachment from sex have anything to do with not knowing what she wants?
Have you ever developed feelings for someone when you knew you shouldn't? Attraction and feelings aren't something men and women can control. You can control how you act upon them but not their existance.
Seems like a stupid question to me with the sole purpose of insulting women. Do you feel good about yourself now?
2006-10-01 20:30:02 · answer #2 · answered by Tobias F 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there are some women who understand almost as little about men as men do about women. May I suggest you read a book written by a male/female couple called 'Men are from Mars and women are from Venus' I think this may help clarify some of your misconceptions...I do think it's great that you show a need for some answers and are really trying...good luck.
2006-10-01 18:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by pol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want casual sexual relationships, but when you get what you want (laid), you are upset it was so easy? Dude, I don't think it's the ladies that don't know what they want.
Another thought: perhaps your sexist attitude is the problem. The liberal, sexually free women are going to be more than a little offput to be labelled something that Yahoo doesn't even let you write out just for enjoying casual sex.
2006-10-01 23:07:35 · answer #4 · answered by random6x7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you did wrong was that you were there a couple of days. See, women tend to feel that the closeness of sex is emotional not physical. We have physical reactions but it is our emotional self that gets attached. If you want the unemotional attachment then I suggest you pay for sex from a professional and believe me they won't get attached. You can't have it both ways. Good luck.
2006-10-01 18:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by sideways 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what I want. What I want is the opposite of what you seem to want. If you're being up front with the fact that all you want is sex then they're being foolish for wanting more, for even sleeping with you really, but mostly for thinking that you'd change your mind.
2006-10-02 23:16:00 · answer #6 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey - try adultfriendfinder.com
To answer your question I think about %18 of women actually know what they want. (and when we do know what we want then it's to late to find it.)
Women must be very attracted to what you have going on; if they like you enough they'll risk it and then hope you like them as much. Or maybe even assume you will. Then when reality sets in...
2006-10-01 18:45:29 · answer #7 · answered by Feather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are such teases, that's why I switched to men.
2006-10-01 18:28:34 · answer #8 · answered by waxingtheturtle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DON'T THINK ANYBODY KNOW WHAT EXACTLY THEY WANT. WE ALL HAVE A THOUGHT OF WHAT WE WANT. YOU DID THE RITE THING BY TELLING THEM WHAT YOUR INTENTIONS WERE. THEY PROBABLY THOUGHT SEXING YOU WOULD MAKE YOU FALL 4 THEM
2006-10-01 20:26:06 · answer #9 · answered by eviljeanius76 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋