i kinda wanna have kids and my boyfriend too
2006-10-01 11:18:00 · 16 answers · asked by QUIRINO S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Just be patient. My wife would tell you that I am the one who always says how much I hate it when people say that someone is too young to have kids. I will make an exception in your case. If you are asking if 17 is too young then age is not the issue here, maturity is. I think that you should be asking what is involved in having a kid. You will need to be able to provide for this life. Food, clothing, shelter, education, safety, entertainment. You must remember that it is every parents wish that their child lives life easier than they did. This means working hard up front instead of playing catch-up. If you miss out on your diploma or delay your degree to feed your child then you have just missed important opportunities that you may never get back. Unless you or your boyfriend, no scratch that, unless you AND you boy friend are Doogie Howser (or the real life Balamurali Ambati) then you need to really plan out every aspect of both your and your childs life. And when you think you have it all figured out you need to see your parent, see you spiritual advisor, and visit your counsolor. You are making a very responsible move by asking a open commuity like this for advise.
Be strong
2006-10-01 11:35:24 · answer #1 · answered by elephantman12004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my first son when I was 17. Definitely not planned.
It worked out, but it's not an ideal situation.
We stayed married for 6 years, then divorced. Don't have a baby with him unless you're prepared to raise it by yourself. Chances are very good that is what will happen no matter what you think.
You have to prepare for the worse case scenario. You'll definitely be broke. No partying (don't even consider having a baby and having your parents be your babysitter when you want to go get your groove on). There is no 'groove' with babies. Most likely you'll end up in Splittsville with that Dad.
Just make sure to be realistic. You can think you'll be one big happy family but chances are very good that you won't.
2006-10-01 12:04:52 · answer #2 · answered by CattGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok but I would recommend waiting a little while longer just to make sure that you two really are ready for that kind of commitment. You two may be in love now but you never know what may happen in the future, and you dont want a baby split between two feuding parents so just give it a little more consideration.
2006-10-01 11:28:20 · answer #3 · answered by Live.Laugh.Love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah if you have money to take care of it i got pregnant at 17 and i just turned 18 in september but if you cant afford it then dont have any kids and if your boyfriend dont have a job then ya'll are both SOL cause nobody else is gonna take care of it for you and once you have a kid you can't go out and do what you wan't to anymore you have to stay at home and take care of your baby so think before you act most young teenages have babie's anyways and try to throw it of on somebody else just so they can go party if your not ready i advise you to wait on having kids expecting first baby in March
2006-10-01 11:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by CountryGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young. Wait until you are done wiht high school and have some college. If you both still want children then go for it. 17 is just too young. You are still a kid yourself. Enjoy your life first before bringing a child into it.
2006-10-01 11:23:43 · answer #5 · answered by mktk401 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
"Kinda" isn't good enough. Besides, you need to be married. If your boyfriend isn't committed enough to marry you then he definitely isn't committed enough to have and raise a child with you. Graduate high school, go to college, get a good job, enjoy being young, get married, wait a few years, and THEN have a baby. You won't be able to enjoy having a baby to it's full potential if you don't have the rest of your life figured out and on track.
2006-10-01 11:20:44 · answer #6 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
whoop dee doo. having kids is great i would definitely suggest having them. BUT and this is a big BUT, you do not have sufficient financial status to support having kids. i don't think you're truly thinking about them. if you were you would agree because having children would mean taking care of them and i would not suggest having them to put up for adoption. i think this is just an excuse for both of you. wait until you have a way to make them into the best people in the world and you aren't going to do that living in your parents house. and your parents are definitely not going to support you the entire way through this because your kids are your responsibility. think about this don't be stupid.
2006-10-01 11:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by Valhalla * 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im 17 and 5 months pregnant..and im happy im having a baby... as long as you and your boyfriend have the money and are mature about this than you should have kids...good luck
2006-10-01 12:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by qnzprincess4689 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think you can handle it and have a good support system then I think I'd be alright. (the support system doesn't have to be the father). my sister just turned 17 in august and had her baby on September 13, 2006(it wasn't planned)
2006-10-01 12:11:39 · answer #9 · answered by ~redneck~sweetheart~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is only a boyfriend ...NO
if your still in school and plan on going to college....NO
if you still live at home with your parents....NO
if your still trying to figure out what you wanna do and be in your life .....NO
if you wanna travel and spend alone time with your hubby when you do get married....NO
i could go on and on.. 17 is extremely young..
their are girls who do it everyday raise a child at a young age..
but ask them all..
they would have rather waited and been better off and more prepared
2006-10-01 11:23:05 · answer #10 · answered by chrissy30753 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋