me and my boyfriend been together for about a year now and ever since we been together we have been fighting he always gets mad about everything and he always put me down and doesnt even say sorry about it most of the time,and when we fight i always say sorry and ask for fogiveness even when i know it was his fault he never says sorry even after we are dude fight well this is it l8tly i been thinking about other guys and how they can treat me good, and not bad i do want to be with my boyfriend for the rest of my life but at the same time i want someone to make me fill good about myself ever since i been with him i fill so ugly and i have never felt like that in my life so i dont know what to do im way scared to leave him cuz would if i make a misstake i dont know im so confused
2006-10-01 11:08:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He doesn't respect you sweetie. Leave.
2006-10-01 11:11:19 · answer #1 · answered by Faith In The House 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what redeeming qualities does this guy have? it doesn't seem like much by the way you describe him....but i know relationships are much more complicated than what you can write in 1000 letters. first off stop apoligising. if anything, let the subject drop, but dont apoligze or else you will be doing so for the rest of your life. An important relationship value is respect, so no matter how much you love him or how he can make you feel sometimes, if he does not respect you, you should break it off with him get a huge box of chocolates and get ready for many nights out with the girls. if you need help leaving him, ask your friends for support maybe even some other guy friends.
if you want to try to make this work, you have to sit down with him and have a very serious talk and lay everything out on the table for him tell him what you wont accept from him. if nothing changes, well there is nothing you can do about that...there are guys out there that treat women nicely and never think otherwise
2006-10-01 11:16:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume that he was a sweet, kind, and loving guy before you both made the commitment. It seems like to me that if this guy keep up this routine and you let him, all this verbal abuse is going to turn into physical abuse and god knows what will happen. He really needs help. I know you love him, but it only hurts you and brings you down when you allow this guy to do you like this. I noted that you said that the way he treats you begin to make you feel ugly. That is because emotionally all this stuff is getting to you. Soon you will be in a position where you will start carrying yourself in a non attractive way and no other guy will look at you. Honey get a life. You have to move on. You can not keep being with someone who doesn't respect you enough to treat you like the queen that you are. ( smile ).
2006-10-01 12:39:04 · answer #3 · answered by chocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has no respect for you, if he hurts you and can't say sorry, that simply means you are not on his mind, hurting you comes easy to him. When a man loves you, sorry is something he wants to say, because he wants to make it right, respect works both ways, but if he is in the wrong it must be something he should say and mean it. When a man puts you down that is the worst thing he can do, all of us need aproval, especially from someone we love and respect, I say this now and I don't know you, but walk away, be on your own for a while and love and find yourself, you don't need a man to make you a women, and you don't need this man making you feel less, no one should put up with that. I know this by experience, if someone is in your life and they make you feel bad about you, then it's time to move on. I'm on my own at the moment and at the begining its hard but I will not stand for a man to make me feel bad, putting me down, so that he feels better or does he, maybe he has a problem that you are unable to fix and his way of handling is by making you feel less, walk away! Good Luck
2006-10-01 11:20:32 · answer #4 · answered by Precious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave him because he does not seem to respect you at all. And usually its not a good sign. Why would you want to be with someone who does not make you feel good about yourself and who always put you down? Do you know that's abuse bu itself? Leave cause you deserve better
2006-10-01 11:16:26 · answer #5 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See the answer to the question, why do women do this?
You have a very low sense of self-worth.
In other words, you think you a re trash, and he's a good trash collector.
He collects doormats, and he got YOU. Now he's wiping his dirty filthy @$$ feet all over you, and you're taking it.
Get the hell out, and get a life!
2006-10-01 11:17:39 · answer #6 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need someone who makes you feel beautiful. He also has no respect towards you, so I guess you need to leave him and let him see whats it like with out you. If he really loves and misses you, he will come running back.
2006-10-01 11:16:59 · answer #7 · answered by Hayla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need someone to talk to about this send me a msg. I have been going through something like this with my fiance long story but he is going to anger management sessions now.
2006-10-02 18:55:03 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's being a jerk. go ahead and find someone else.
2006-10-01 11:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by sweety 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE IS A PIG-DROP HIM
2006-10-01 11:13:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋