i am in a situation that i cannot resolve....my brother who i adore so much is with my bestest of all friends whom i love dearly, they have a son of 9 years old who i love too ...we are very close, well! tonight i was driving home and saw my best friend with my brothers life long best mate, they were kissing and holding hands, not like a friendly peck either, it was a full on snog, they looked comfortable together, like they'd been together for years, thing is i love her and i love my brother, i am seriously thinking about getting her and asking her what she was doing with this man, i dont want to tell my bro because i know this will finish him off, but in the back of my mind something tells me that he should know...should i have words with her and see what she's playing at, should i tell him or should i just pretend i didn't see it, it will be difficult but this is upsetting me alot, because i think the world of them so much, it's a bad situation to be in...help!!
2006-10-01 10:43:06 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell her to tell him within 2 days, or you break the news for her.
That should tip the scales one way or the other.
Look at it this way, after you saw that you and your best friend are best friends no longer.it's just a matter of time. If you sit on it and your brother finds out you knew, you'll lose that relationship, too. Might as well be on his side, she's been on her way out of the relationship for a while before either one of you knew... :) Good luck, stay close with your little nephew, and keep the conflict down to a dull roar for his sake.
2006-10-01 10:49:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normally this would be a situation I would tell you to stay out of but since it is your brother and best friend it is a very difficult situation. I wouldn't say anything to your brother yet. First I would give your friend a chance to explain herself and if she is no longer in love with your brother I would insist that she tell him immediately or you will. Cheating is cruel and with a child involved is heartless.
2006-10-01 10:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by winter715 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay here is what i have to say about this, Family is family threw thick and thin!Your brother does need to know what is going on but that is for them to talk to each other about and your brothers friend needs to be part of this too! Your a good sister for worring about this but you just need to tell her that if she does not talk to him you will! I know she is your best friend and it might be really hard to let her go but stick with your family there the ones that will be with you no matter what! It may be tempting to take her side but put yourself in your brothers shoes wouldnt you like to know???
2006-10-01 10:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG!! What a position to be in. This is a difficult one and I feel for you. I think you need to speak to your friend, tell her what you saw and if she values your friendship she has to tell you the truth. If there is something going on with your brothers mate then she either has to end it or tell your brother or you'll tell him. Blood's thicker than water!
This is only my opinion, you have to do what you think is right.
Good luck.
2006-10-01 10:56:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats an awful situation ur in. talk to her first. tell her to finish it wiv this guy or u`ll tell ur brother. ur brother deserves better than that. hopefully that will resolve the situation but u`ll never see ur friend in the same light again. i`m so sorry for u. the very best of luck
2006-10-01 11:44:02 · answer #5 · answered by graham f 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should confront you friend and ask her to explain her behavior. Should it be a sexual relation, you should ask her to end it right away. Not doing anything it will not help the problem as a matter of fact you will be on the way to loose both of them your brother and your friend.
2006-10-01 10:48:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
prob not what you want to hear but stay out of it, if you love them both then be a friend to both of them. One or both of them may well need you in the future. Other peoples relationships are their own to deal with, by getting involved you risk being seen to take a side and I don't get the impression you want to do that.
2006-10-01 10:51:01 · answer #7 · answered by care bear 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can get a new best friend but not a new brother. its a very difficult situation but in my oppinion if it was me id be putting my brother first, speak to ur friend before doing anything hasty. also bear in mind ur bro may already have his suspicions... or he could also resent you and think your trying to cause trouble (even thogh you arent) be very careful... maybe ask your parents for support. best of luck
2006-10-01 10:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by lilbex87 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her first to find out what's happening. Let her know (as you have the rest of the Yahoo community) that this bothers you and that if she doesn't tell your brother, you will.
You may have to decide which relationship you value more--your friend's or your brother's.
2006-10-01 11:40:39 · answer #9 · answered by Rex 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
talk to the friend first and see what she was up to. If it is a ongoing cheating thing definately tell your brother. Blood is thicker then water.
2006-10-01 10:47:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋