Why Do Married Couples Cheat?

Answer 1

Only certain individuals cheat. Don't accept their excuses or give them a second chance.

Answer 2

Because they feel that their needs aren't being met, then a sympathetic ear ofen turns into an affair. It's actually a selfish act, done by a spouse who would rather not work through all the tough stuff that goes with their marriage relationship. Instead of telling their spouse about their feelings, they find someone else to whine to, and get their sympathy. I've seen it happen, over and over again. Seldom is there a situation where the spouse actually discusses their feelings and makes it known that they are very unhappy. Mostly, they take the cowards way out, and go behind their spouses back, secretly hoping that it will be found out so that they can make the break. It would be more honest if the unhappy spouse just tell their mate that they want out. Ideally, it would be better for them to both communicate their feelings to each other, compromise and work through their issues, coming together once again, as a happy couple. I've also seen that happen, over and over again, so I know it's do-able. We humans can do anything we set our minds to. Cheating is just wrong, no matter what the reason. <*)))><

Answer 3

The most common answer to why spouses cheat is that something is wrong in the marriage and the affair is a bi-product of those problems, even when most other aspects of the relationship are working well. “The problem” is often one that the faithful spouse who would never think of cheating does not see or has elected to ignore for one reason or another. Other times, the marriage has changed and evolved in a way that leaves the cheating husband or cheating wife feeling left out or somehow empty. Those changes may include a shift in attitudes toward one another and the problems ensue. When a spouse feels that his or her needs are not being met, some turn to their work, others to drugs or alcohol and many to the arms of another man or woman. Although this appears to be the most common cause, there are others who engage in an affair or infidelity purely for the sex. They do not want their relationship to end, they simply seek the thrill that being with someone else brings. Either way, the pain, humiliation and betrayal are the same.

Answer 4

There are many reasons why people cheat. One can never know the REAL reason why any one individual would do such a thing. I know several people who have experienced this. I can only specualate why this happened looking from the outside in. In one case, the woman almost forced the man into the church and to live holy. After 10 years of marriage and her constant control issues, it appeared that he couldn't take it any more. Yes, he was wrong for cheating, but one will never know why he left. I had another friend who married her husband when they were 18 years old. She loved that man and did EVERYTHING for him. After 10 years of marriage, he was ready to be young again and started sleeping with girls who were 17, 18 and 19 years old. One other girl that I knew had been married to her husband for many years and he was basically SEDUCED by another woman. I watched it happen, I even told her that she needed to leave him alone but he was so good looking and she was so confident that she could take him from his not-so-good looking wife, that she constantly pursued him until she ended up sleeping with him. As I stated, one can only assume what happened in these marriages. You will never know the mind of a cheater unless he/she tells you....

Answer 5

I think it has to do alot with self esteem. Married couples often have to have the security that they can still reel someone in. Or it might be that the other partner might be boring and not well maintenanced. They might have taken marriage to seriously and feel that once they tied the know that they had to grow up. They tend to lose the excitment that once got the other persons attention. I think in every relationship there should be some risk taking an unexpected excitement whenever and where ever. A simple slap in the *** is okay..

Answer 6

Because not one person can possibly fill 100 % of the needs of the other person 100 % of the time. Why must everyone assume its always for sex.And wait till all you young people are married 20 years or more , then maybe we;ll see if you are the cheating pig you call everyone else. Why don't you all grow up! The fricken world isn't perfect, and neither is marriage.

Answer 7

They cheat because- "everybody cheats", because they lack the maturity to commit to an adult relationship like marriage, and because cheating is accepted in the world today. Sadly, our world excuses just about anything, as long as you dress it up and express it in some drivel out of phych 101 like"stressed", or having "issues", or "feeling unfulfilled", or "unappreciated". Heck, we even slide "Made a mistake" through. Like being unfaithful is the same as misplacing the car keys or denting a fender. It would be laughable, if it wasn't so sad and tragic.

Answer 8

There are many reasons. Cheating in a family with children may be less common then cheating where there are not children.
But ask this why don't more people 'cheat" or do you presume we are biologically programmed for monogamy and fidelity? I sometimes wonder if we would all cheat -if it was possible.

Answer 9

too young
money problems
not wanting the same thing out of life sexually and in general
not talking and being truthful with each other
just wanting a piece of strange
the exitement of the whole ordeal
people changing their looks or personality
loss of conection (you feel like to stranges spilting the rent)

everyone has awesome points... but keep in mind.. cheating is just plain hurtful..

and their are no excues(SP) for it..

if you want to be feel to sleep around simply say so..

your partner may just agree with you..

Answer 10

I wonder why you ask this, are you part of a married couple and thinking of cheating???