My wife went out last night and came home late and a little drunk.She was quiet when she came in kissed me and went to sleep.I was doing laundry today and her panties that she wore last night had a lot of dry white substance in them,I asked her about it and she said she didn't know what it was and quicky cahnged the subject.I am concerned that she cheated on me , but she won't talk about it.What do you think,should I be concerned?
2006-10-01 10:35:14 · 25 answers · asked by Tom S 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Has this happened before? Why would you think she was cheating? It sounds to me that your being suspicious with no valid reason. Women have bodily functions just as men. You wake up in the morning with an erection? Does this mean you are thinking of cheating? Without any valid reason to suspect her cheating you need to relax and give her the benefit of the doubt. Other wise you are going to make a big issue out of something that was never anything to begin with and it will just drive her to cheating or leaving anyway. Be patient and give her love and support until she gives you a reason no to.
2006-10-02 04:09:12 · answer #1 · answered by Hollli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be concerned that you distrust her so much that you had to look at her undergarments. That sounds paranoid obsessive. I mean, what's next? Are you going to smell her or make her give a breakdown of every minute of her trips to the grocery store? I may sound harsh but I mean this in the nicest way really. You may have your reasons to distrust her but the spying should be kept to a minimum or you will change the way she sees you and then even if she is not cheating your relationship could be over anyway. Communication works best for men and women in your situation. Just in case you didn't hear me- Communication, communication, communication.
2006-10-01 17:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by - 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your heart is telling you that she cheating then in most cases it's true.
What's really dishearting is that she has been having an affair on you for awhile now. See the thing about cheating is. The cheater will only be caught when it becomes an emotional affair. If it was only a sex thing, then you victim (husband/wife) would never know or suspect anthing. If everything was on physical, then you wife would be able to come right in the house and give no indication that something was going on.
But she couldn't, because her mind was in other places. Most likely thinking about how she can break it off with you to be with this other man or woman. She's having an emotional and physical affair my friend.
2006-10-01 17:41:10 · answer #3 · answered by Nika 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you really think that your wife is cheating on you and you want to save your marriage then you need to sit her down and have a good long heart to heart talk with her.
Express to her your concerns in a calm manner,don't raise your voice.Let her know that you love her and that maybe you all need some counseling to help work out any problems you guys may have.
2006-10-01 17:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of women have white discharge--or it is clear and dries white especially when ovulating. If you think your wife is cheating, you better hope that she used a condom. At any rate you already know because your gut always knows. The next time she goes out just bi a PI and follow her without her knowing. Make sure you have a video camera etc...
2006-10-01 17:42:05 · answer #5 · answered by kim j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she came home late one time, she was a little tipsy and she had some discharge in her underwear, but you cannot without a doubt say that she was cheating. I would only be concerned if her behavior continued to change. Stay alert, but don't get obsessive and don't let this one night overcloud your best judgement.
2006-10-01 18:27:39 · answer #6 · answered by Faith In The House 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief, just cause u saw that it doesn't mean she cheated. She changed the subject cause she was embarrassed about it. It could be just her natural discharge so stop jumping to conclusions until u have more to go by. If u have a problem with her going out by herself then next time why don't u go with her?
2006-10-01 17:56:13 · answer #7 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because she quickly changed the subject would be why I would be concerned about it guess you need to talk to her and communicate I think somethings up seeing she didn't give you a answer. Then decide if the marriage is worth saving cuz if you can forgive and work it out do it cuz so many people r unfaithful out there now a days. good luck
2006-10-01 18:11:17 · answer #8 · answered by wildrose 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, Id be very concerned especially since she was a little drunk, she might not actually remembered what really happened last night. That in itself may actually scare her too as if she cant remember she may have been forced into something she didnt want to. And its that very fact that would scare the hell out of me if it was my wife. Changing the subject may have been her way of saying I dont actually remember what happened. If she wont talk you may never know what happened.
2006-10-01 17:58:38 · answer #9 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you should totally be concerned. It could just be discharge but I'm having a feeling that it's not. You are her husband and you have a right to question her. If you are going to be trusting enough to give her the freedom to go out then if you have questions you should be able to ask them. Don't attack, just be inquisitive. Ask her how her night was, who she was with, what she did. Be assertive. I'm sorry, you must be crawling up the walls. Good luck and I hope everything works out.
2006-10-01 17:48:50 · answer #10 · answered by Sara Lee 23 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋