Question for men...?

Question

There was a guy on the Today show who was selling a book about men and relationships, and he said that most men would prefer to marry their "soulmates" rather than have hundreds of sex partners.
He also said that men don't care about women's looks as much as women think they do. He had done a survey, and claimed that men valued qualities like honesty and intelligence over good looks.

There was also a woman on the show, who said that those surveys are misleading because men will just say what they think they're supposed to say, and that most men don't care about qualities like honesty until they get involved with a woman who doesn't have them.

Tell me what you think.

Answer 1

In the same way that there are different personality types in women, so too men. I think as we grow older we like to settle down. I do think that we need to be credited with just a little more intelligence than "saying what we're supposed to say" and I personally find that woman's comments offensive.

My wife is attractive and I do like that fact. But earlier on I had some very attractive girlfriends who turned out to be complete B$%&#@S. So by far the best things about my wife are her even temperament and her steadfast love for me.

The one criticism I would agre with is that we do tend to judge on how attractive a woman is to us until we get to know her, but there is a great deal of truth to the fact that what we think is attractive can be a LOT different to what women thing is attractive. A good example is large breasts. Large breasts do absolutely nothing for me, I like to be able to hold a girl very close to me!

Hope this gives some insight and brings our planets slightly closer together ;-)

Answer 2

While I would probably wind up in the minority if there was ever an ACCURATE poll done, I do care about women more as people than as sex objects and would prefer to marry my "soulmate".
Now on the other hand, I am also 44 years old too.
I think that if that survey is ever done correctly, you will find that men lean more towards the personal qualities and soulmates the older they get.
There are probably a lot more of us "sensitive"/mature types out here in their 40s than in their 30s, and we're probably one in a million within the out-of-high school to 20s age group.
But on the other hand, you will probably find more of the "sensitive"/mature type in their 50s than there are in their 40s.
As for what women are looking for...
That's another subject entirely!

Answer 3

We want it all, we want looks, then lots of sex partners. Once that gets old, we're ready for soulmates and after having been with a lot of women, looks won't be that important because we will have learned from all the women, and things like honesty and trust will be number one in our book.

I think it's just a process, and you will get different answers depending on where men are in their lives.

Answer 4

We'll I think it is a matter of opinion for all men. I don't always say the best answer. I look for a girl with the total package, but if she is missing one thing, I wont rule her out. Most men DO DO DO care about womens looks. The woman on the show is full of it.

-Taylor

Answer 5

My wife is honest and intelligence and also good looking to me.
You have heard it said before that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I disagree with what the woman said about men. Not saying that the guy is right either.

Answer 6

i'm not a man but my husband is reading over my shoulder and he says that most men at first are just looking for someone with good looks but there are some that look deeper. they look for looks to show off to others. he thinks that 75% of men will date a non attractive woman if she has a really good personallity and keeps him guessing. but there are men out there that only want good looks he think the guy had it about right in his book

Answer 7

There is going to be an age gap. The ones answering that looks are important and all that are going to tend to be younger, inexperienced and single. The ones that answer other qualities will older, experienced and married or in a serious relationship.

Answer 8

men like comfort and familiarity
that's why they stay in a long-term relationship
--woman may call them soulmates, if they want

men like to get off
w/out any...fuss;
and, they have a particular look they prefer in a woman (usually their gf/wife doesn't match it);
and, they liked their egos stroked.
--that's why they look around & f*ck around.
it's not the big deal to them that it is to women


men don't like their short-term girls/women
to talk.
period.
they don't want to hear about the girl's/woman's life
and,
they CERTAINLY don't want to tell the girl/woman about THEIR life!

a man likes his main woman/gf/wife
to look good and act well.
his female "partner" is a reflection on him

men are sensitive
and appreciate a good woman
they recognize
when a woman cares about them
they try not to betray her emotional investment
in their relationship

men are as honorable as women, innately
but, all to often
society leeches it
out of them

Answer 9

He's full of crap and probably a touchy-feely liberal. Looks are important. The woman was correct about that being an answer they think they're supposed to say, although any sensible man would value honesty.

Answer 10

it all depends on the guys and what they want out of life. sure if they want a real steady lifelong relationship, they will value trust and intelligence more, but if they are just looking for something short term, then its the looks that matters. everyone is different, so its hard to generalize it. But i think that everyone, even if they dont wanna admit it, ultimatly are searching for their soulmate, its human nature. nobody wants to be alone for the rest of their life, atleast nobody normal.