I have never kissed a girl and I don't think about them nude. I'm only 13 and I haven't had a boyfriend yet, but I feel happy around guys and I like hanging around them but when my best friend asked me if she was pretty I said yea your pretty and I didn't even mean anything by it I just repiled. I have a friend who's mother is a lesbo and I have a very big fear of liking woman! I don't think theres anything wrong with getting married to the same sex if you really love them but its not for me. I 'm very confused please help!!!!
2006-10-01 10:20:16 · 15 answers · asked by alchemydragon92 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think it is normal to feel an attraction towards other women. Simply thinking another woman is pretty or even beautiful does not mean you are gay or bi. It just means you have a normal, open mind. I'm 29 and I've heard women openly talk about other women regarding how pretty they are but men almost never talk about other men in this way. It is just the way things are.
So how do you know? The best way I can describe this is, you know that feeling you get when you are madly crushing on someone? Where your heart beat goes crazy, your stomach feels a little queasy and maybe you go a little crazy in general? Do you get that feeling around boys or girls? Your answer should lie there.
When I was 13 I went to a Girl Scout camp. After 2 weeks of being around no one but girls, I started really bonding with this one counselor. I remember staring at her butt thinking it was nice one day and I was so afraid that I was turning gay. That little thought always stuck with me until I had my first boyfriend. I had that light-headed, crazy in love feeling and realized that a girl never made me feel that way - not even a little bit. That's how I knew I was straight BUT even today I can appreciate pretty women though it is just on a platonic, superficial level.
2006-10-01 10:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by gowanstl24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's to be confused about? You're a girl. You'll become a women. Of course you can think a female friend is pretty. That doesn't make you a lesbian. I think owls are beautiful but that doesn't make me a bird. I am glad you have a healthy fear of "liking" women. Honey, there is something very wrong with getting married to someone of the same sex. IT'S AGAINST THE LAW! IT'S AGAINST THE LAWS OF NATURE! IT'S AGAINST THE WORD OF GOD!!!!! Please just grow up a beautiful girl who becomes a beautiful woman and find a great guy to love you and you'll be just fine. Anything else will run your life into a very deep ditch!
2006-10-01 17:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear girl, you are very young. Relax. You shouldn't even think about stuff like that at your age yet, although I know all kids do. Just because you haven't felt things for a boy yet doesn't mean that you are a lesbian. In time you will mature into those types of feelings. Relax and have fun, enjoy your youth, it will be gone before you know it.
2006-10-01 17:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by miss_fred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 13 you are still young,Enjoy your youth ,don't worry about sex etc..you have a lot of time to deal with sex and the other sex(boys).Hollywood has been trying for years to make us think that homosexuality is mainstream,but if you look at the numbers it is not.Don't worry about whether or not you are a lesbian or not and just enjoy your time as a young lady.
2006-10-01 17:26:47 · answer #4 · answered by Tom S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i agree with you on there,,no there nothing wrong with some liking the same sex n married if that for them,,i believe everyone on earth should be them selves,,, life to short not to,,,,but for you sweetie that 13,,, your young yet,,,saying a friend pretty,,, n be a lesbian,,,, is different, you said you enjoy being around boys,,,then that the first hint,,,your not a lesbian,,
2006-10-01 17:28:05 · answer #5 · answered by yellowstar61 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only 13. Your not a lesbian if you have no desire to be with a female. You have plenty of time to start getting boys attention.Your best friend ask you how does she look women do that all the time.
2006-10-01 17:25:40 · answer #6 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are some things you can try, your probably bi sexual, that is the most attractive aspect that men will just adore you for, so dont be worried about it, but all you really have to do is to be with a couple, a guy and a girl, at the same time and just experiment sexually and see what your desires turn out to be.....but you should wait until you are older to try this...and find a nice older couple that can help you find this out...you got a couple years to find them so no hurry,....good luck
2006-10-01 17:25:48 · answer #7 · answered by manque 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing wrong in saying girls are pretty or being jealous of them. I'm 13 too. marrying the same sex person isn't wrong if you love them like many do, it's not like you think girls are sexy or anything. and you also like guys right?
2006-10-01 17:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by priya 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
worry about school right now... whether or not you are a lesbian does not matter..you are too young to be in a sexual relationship..period. get an education.... give yourself time to grow up. how u think now may be totally different next week, next month, next year. take care of the important things first,
2006-10-01 17:24:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are only 13 -- you dont have to figure it out just yet. Things will become clear as you get older.
2006-10-01 17:35:58 · answer #10 · answered by kim j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋