I need experienced opinions...
And by open, I mean sexually open...
2006-10-01 10:07:28 · 7 answers · asked by Wicked_One 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My parents have an open marriage. And they have been together for 25 years. So if both of you agree to it then yes it can work. If you can't agree to it then no it won't.
2006-10-01 10:11:08 · answer #1 · answered by Christine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a question only the two who are immediately affected and involved can answer!! Can you separate emotion from sexuality? The best sex starts in the brain and women are recognized as needing a more emotional connection to enjoy sex in a relationship.
Ask yourself some questions.
"If my husband were to ask me to buy condoms for him, but he never uses them with me, should I worry?"
"If my wife goes out on a 'date' and I can't find a 'date' and am stuck at home with the kids, will I resent her?"
"If my spouse gets involved in an emotional connection with a sexual partner, will I feel jealous?"
"If my spouse doesn't come home overnight because of a 'date', do I care?"
"What happens if one of you contracts an STD?"
"Do I expect to have a veto/approval vote on my partner's choice of whom to have sex with?"
Do you expect to take someone into you and your spouse's bed or is all the sexual play expected to happen out of sight of the other partner?
What happens when one of the partners in an open marriage decides they don't want to do it anymore but the other partner wants to continue? Who gets their way?
An sexually open marriage only work when both partners are getting the same amount of play outside the relationship AND there is no change inside of the relationship.
Go to a Swinger's Club or a Adults Only Resort and see if you feel comfortable. You do not have to do anything, just observe, then have that "open marriage" conversation with your spouse again.
2006-10-01 17:35:56 · answer #2 · answered by Fuggetaboutit_1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Open marriage typically refers to a marriage in which the partners agree that each is free to engage in extramarital sexual relationships, without regarding this as sexual infidelity.
Couples in open marriages may prefer different kinds of extramarital relationships swinging, 3some, separate relation with person do not known to their spouse etc.
Despite their distinctions, however, all open marriages share common issues: the lack of social acceptance, the need to maintain the relationship as a couple, and the need to manage jealous rivalry
2006-10-01 17:17:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open marriage usually doesn't work for very long. Sooner or later one will get jealous because the other had to good a time.
2006-10-01 17:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
marriage is supposed to be a commitment to be together as one, not just until another one comes along. Some people have open relationships and they seem very happy, personally though it wouldnt work for me
2006-10-01 17:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think,in open marriages there is no love .if you love someone,you don't need an open marriage.
2006-10-01 18:18:14 · answer #6 · answered by stella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure it can work , if both are open minded. don't dicuss the facts , there are certain respects you have to follow to make it work. and if both are willing an cool with it all , you can have a blast with it!
2006-10-01 17:20:11 · answer #7 · answered by kierstead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋