How would you feel if your boyfriend said his best friend (who is a female) needed to get out of her town and needed somewhere to stay, but needs to stay with him in his second bedroom? I would like to hear the responses from guys as well as girls. Should this be an issue or should it be cool?
2006-10-01 10:01:29 · 22 answers · asked by cshunnikutt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
P.S. She has family here.
2006-10-01 10:01:44 · update #1
That means that they are more than just friends, and I would dump him fast. He must think that you are a fool. You deserve better than that.
2006-10-01 10:03:42 · answer #1 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is a tough one. And since I do not know him or her I am just shooting in the dark here, but here is how I would feel. On one hand I would want to trust him and allow him to support a friend, as I would hope he would support me in a time of need. But on the other hand it is easy to get jealous and wonder if it will cause troubles in the relationship.
I guess this is where your trust comes in. In your heart of hearts do you feel like you can trust him? If you do then it would be a grand statement to support him in this. I believe that guys and girls can be just friends, but on the other hand I think it is way easy to get lost in that friendship and let things happen even when you didn't really expect it too or want it too. Sometimes the best way to avoid that is to not be so close to that person, (such as having them living with you)
Maybe you could and should set down with your man and kindly voice your concerns and fears and see how he reacts. Maybe if he really respects you and wants you to be confident in your relationship with him he will not allow her to stay. Maybe he could think of other ways to help her out. Like let her stay with her family but invite her out to dinner or over for a movie, with you there of course. How could he go wrong that way? He is showing her and you that he loves you and still wants to do what he can to help her.
2006-10-01 10:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by M C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there some problem with her family? I know there has been with mine. She might be going through a tough time, and the family would make it worse.
I've stayed at a friends house before that was a girl, nothing happened. I've even slept in the same BED with an ex, nothing happened. Oh, and another friend, same bed, nothing happened.
2006-10-01 12:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think it would be a big issue because apparently it makes you uncomfortable. If this young lady has family she should stay with them out of respect for her best friend's relationship. This is an issue and it's not cool!
2006-10-01 10:08:19 · answer #4 · answered by Magica! Star 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
About all I can offer you is my personal experience. I have several girls (women now) with whom I been friends for a long time and have had stay with me from time to time, as well as having stayed with them. But, ours being a purely platonic relationship, there has never been anything of a sexual nature between us. Again, that's what's happened with me. I don't know enough about your situation to suggest whether you should be upset or not.
2006-10-01 10:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOST of the time, I'd be worried about this. Even if he has no eyes for her anymore, she may still have eyes for him.
However, if there are extenuating circumstances it MIGHT be OK- is there bad blood between her and her family, or some good reason she can't live with relatives?
2006-10-01 10:07:08 · answer #6 · answered by Madkins007 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That wouldn't be acceptable to me....She could stay in your room, or on the couch. OR she could call her family? If not, get her the number to Best Western.
2006-10-01 10:04:14 · answer #7 · answered by Sam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the relationship you have with this guy and how much trust you have in him. if one of my Really good relationship boyfriends asked if he could take care of her i would let him as long as he can control himslef in what he does. If he cant handle him slef and get into tempations, that is were i would call it off and if he didnt like it i would have to seperate!
2006-10-01 10:05:42 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah V 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hell yeah it should be an issue. i dont care how long they have been friends. my fiance knows better than to invite her over or let her in if im not there let alone let her stay in the extra room. dont stand for it
2006-10-01 11:26:38 · answer #9 · answered by ladybug_78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to break the news, sweetie, but if this chick is his "best" friend, then you're what? , his second best? Go ahead, let it fly, though I hope she is a woffer, for your sake. (why can't there be more like you out there, right,guys?)
2006-10-01 10:08:43 · answer #10 · answered by Raptor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋