I am fifteen years old. I have a huge load of homework to do over the weekend. I have friends that I like to hang out with. My father is breathing down my throat about organization, time management, getting all my homework that will be due on Monday and Tuesday. Is this reasonable that my dad expects me to get everything done in one weekend. I can accept getting all my homework done and I really am working on organization and time management. But unless I stay in the house the entire weekend and sacrifice my friendships, by the way this has already started to occur so I have to work hard at keeping my friendships in tact, there is no possible way to get everything done including all the other chores I am required to do. Is this a reasonable thing to ask a fifteen year old to do?
2006-10-01 09:55:55 · 19 answers · asked by mimi 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
By the way- I happily get my homework done and help out around the house. All I am saying is that I need some down time. To chill out. I can't keep up with everything if I am not allowed a break.
2006-10-01 10:06:10 · update #1
Im in tenth grade actually so I have a heavier load then most freshman
2006-10-01 10:10:49 · update #2
even though I have been working really hard on my homework all day he won't even let me watch my favorite tv show. And I am all done with all of my homework
2006-10-01 12:46:59 · update #3
I think a couple of chores and getting your homework done is reasonable. Don't worry I'm in the same boat as you. 15, 10th grade and a a butt load of homework to do and I clean the whole house by myself. Its annoying but we need to get it done so we can get good grades go to college and be successful. Seriously our parents need to remember we are kids and have lives to besides school. Time management and organization comes along naturally. You are being organized by getting everything done and you are meeting the deadlines which is time management. Sometimes we need to chill which is something parents need to understand.
2006-10-01 10:03:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your work is due at school..obviously that should be your first priority. It's your future...trust me I know...I'm 24 and I really wish I'd shot a little higher (I got my work done, but it was really half effort- although I still did pretty dang good concidering:). My friends and guys always came first...this is going to bite you in the but in about 3 years when college hits. Then even your friends are going to mature, and realize a future is worth the sacrifice, and buckle down, too. So, IF your work has been done to the best of your ability...THEN plan to go out with friends. I usually went out FRI and SAT night, but stayed home saturday- day to do homework (and LATE Sunday nights!!!) I got chores done (a few on sat, and a few on sunday)- but my parents were always pretty linient as long as my work was done, and grades weren't suffering. If parents are overly unreasonable, make out a detailed, but easily comprehended schedule or calendar for weekends. Spend time on this...really thinking it through. Organize your work, with chores, then time with friends. (Say....friday after shcool, do half of the work that's due, then do a few chores, then friend time. Get up sat morning (make a point to come home if you stayed away that friday night)-and do some of your chores--this way your parents will SEE that you're making changes and WANT to please them, but know your making time for yourself later, at the same time. Spread the other half of your homework over Sat and Sun if you can....try the same with your chores....This should please the parents and get you some quality time with friends. If your friends can't sacrafice a few hours a weekend, so that you can do things your parents need, and to do your school work, then I'd suggest getting some not-so- self centered friends. The truer the friend, the more understanding. I PROMISE.
2006-10-01 17:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by pwg4077 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a freshman. I haven't been out doing what I want to do in months. I have no friends. My parents hate me. I'm expected to do everything. I'm loaded under homework and practice. That's all I can do. I can't go to church. I can't use the phone. I'm not allowed to be on the computer for anything but homework. I have to lie to parents all the time so I can be on this and Myspace. Consider yourself lucky. The computer is the only thing that connects me to the real world because high school is drama and therefore is not considered the real world.
2006-10-01 17:32:54 · answer #3 · answered by Sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's completely reasonable.Your primary job in life at the moment is to make sure you have school under control and that you have marks to prove it. The compromise my husband and I struck with our kids is that they stay in Fri. nights and get all the homework for the weekend done. They can stay up as late as they need to and with the proper breaks get all of it done. (and sometimes a little extra) Then they have Sat.morning to get any chores done they need to and the rest of the weekend is theirs. It works for us. You probably don't want to hear it but your friendships are definitely not the most important thing in life now.It's reasonable for you to be expected to do chores, and it's expected and reacquired that you do your absolute best in school. Hope this helps.
2006-10-01 17:10:03 · answer #4 · answered by kealey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the adult world if you don't get your work done, you get fired. He is probably trying to show you that good work habits are going to serve you well through your whole life. Why not get your home work done for Monday and the other house chores you need to do and then ask him for a couple hours to socialize? Most parents will meet you half way if you show them you are really trying. At least I did with my kids.
2006-10-01 16:59:29 · answer #5 · answered by pleeks 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are over-reacting a little. Theres got to be a way that you can get things done, seriously...you're only in 9th..i know b/c i am a freshman too. Its really not that difficult. and then again too...writing your question on here...isnt helping any as far as getting anything done, the truth hurts. And as far as your friends go, you need to priortize, big time..I've lost several friends already, and you know what, if they arent patient enough..then they really should be your friends...
2006-10-01 17:07:14 · answer #6 · answered by CrAsH62605 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad needs to back off! Yes you do need to get your homework done but you also need downtime. You can't just work work work. You will get too stressed out and you will loose interest and stop doing your homework. It is important to have a good balanced life. You need to balance school, exercise, and social life. Good luck!
2006-10-01 18:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by jade_d05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea its reasonable. if this happens more than 2 more times(having to stay at home all weekend to do homework) then you should either talk to your teachers(because thats way too much homework)or get a tutor. education is first so your dad is right to have you stay home all weekend as long as this isnt happening every weekend.
2006-10-01 17:40:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your homework is due. If you don't turn it in, your grades drop, then you're stuck in the house anyway.
Why does it take all weekend to do your homework?
2006-10-01 16:57:59 · answer #9 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is reasonable. Your father knows best and wants you to do well. Friends will always be around, your grades are more important right now.
2006-10-01 16:58:22 · answer #10 · answered by Melie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋