My partners parents are Turkish Cypriot and do not believe that its right for him to be with a anyone who isnt turkish. this is really frustrating as we want to get married but wont until his parent come round as we want to do things the right way with out upsetting any one does any one else have this problem? how has it turned out for you ?
2006-10-01 09:37:48 · 18 answers · asked by Sarah Jane 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi! I wish I knew from which country you are. Earlier this year, I visited Cyprus (for 3 months) and learned about the vendetta between the Cypriots and the Turks. I mean it is so bad, the Cypriots don't sell Turkish Delights in their country, they sell "Cyprus Delights"!!
Now, what I do find interesting, is that your boyfriend's parents are Turkish Cypriot. I don't know if you mean the one parent is Turkish and the other one Cypriot or if you mean they are both Turkish from the island Cyprus? And perhaps you are Cypriot. If it is the latter, then I understand why you are in this dilemma. But if your boyfriend's parents are one Turkish and one Cypriot, then what is their problem? Then they are from two nations who hate each other.
Please let me know which scenario is the correct one. I would love to know, as I absolutely love the country Cyprus. I fell in love with it when I was there earlier this year!!
In the meantime, good luck with your dilemma. And don't worry, it is common, many people have this problem. It boils down to how you will handle it from here, will you let them mess with your love or will your love for each other win!! I know in some cases it is much harder, for instance when you are from two nations hating each other. That is tough!!
2006-10-01 12:23:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbeam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with yet another answerer - i would not say that's simply by fact he's not very severe with you on account which you 2 have been mutually for fairly a protracted time.. inspite of the incontrovertible fact that it sounds to me like there is somethin' incorrect together with his dad and mom that he's hiding. Or there is a few reason he's hidin' which you will no longer meet them. And thinking how mad he have been given on the mere point out of assembly them? Yeah, despite that's he's not tellin' you is somethin' he thinks is authentic great. All that aside, however, if he's left like that, he's actin' like a baby and actin' like a baby plus sayin' those hurtful issues to you? Yeah, despite if that's time so you might head on or no longer, that's the marvelous selection so you might make. he's in finished administration of this dating and forgettin' that relationships are approximately compromise. supply and take. possibly his dad and mom have disowned him? Disowned him way until now you got here into the image and he's in no way informed you? Does he ever communicate approximately goin' over and seein' them himself?
2016-12-12 18:35:06 · answer #2 · answered by andie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only asssume that either he's lying to u .. cause he dont wanna marry you ... or he is an idiot who really believes that what his parents think matters more than the girl he loves...
Either way ... your'e kidding yourself...
Lots of people have that problem ,.... but most people realize that they can't live their life trying to make other people happy ...
In summary .. he is a liar or a wimp .. but I only have your word 4 that '
Dr BAd
not taking prisoners ... there go another 10 points.
2006-10-01 09:50:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard the expression, "when you marry the man you marry the family"? After 4 years, I think the guy needs to make a decision: either live his own life and risk hurting his parents, or end it with you and find someone they'd approve of.
I pity you if you marry him and have kids- it will be a struggle without their blessing and he will be forever torn.
I wouldn't date a man for more than 3-4 months if he hadn't introduced me to his family by then.
2006-10-01 09:43:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
After he has been with you for 4 years it is time that he steps up and tells his parents that he has found the love of his life that he has been looking for or you need to move on!
2006-10-01 09:42:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Four years does seem a long time. Has he talked with his parents and explained how much he wants to be with you and how happy you make him?
If he has and they still won't budge, then maybe it's time to take the bull by the horns and just go ahead and marry.
As much as it would be nice to have their blessing, your happiness is more important.
2006-10-01 10:16:04 · answer #6 · answered by Fifi L'amour 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have yourself a mommas boy. If yu two are considering marrying then his first alliance should be to you-not his parents. Tel him that he has to tell his parents you're getting married and that's that. Then he needs to stand by you and defend you against any remarks they make. If they invite only him to their home to visit, he should decline! Set a date, invite his parents and if they don't come-say "oh well!"
2006-10-01 09:40:55 · answer #7 · answered by Lesleann 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if they're anything like my hubbies parents keep away from them as much as you can.mummys of thier little boys can be a nightmare.if it where up to them no man would have ever picked his own wife.
2006-10-01 10:27:38 · answer #8 · answered by tallulaberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey
my parents in law hate me with a passion...they are rich i am/was poor...in five years two grandchildren later they still hate me...dont let them ruin ur chance for happiness..if i did i wouldnt have my wonderful two kids
2006-10-01 09:45:57 · answer #9 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they dont agree with their son being with someone (out) of their culture....this all boils down to their religion....but 4 years of not meeting them, is alot better than having 4 years of hell, if you had have met them, it's obvious they are not interested in their sons (outside) life, they want to keep it in their culture,
2006-10-01 11:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋