How to talk to new people you don't know?

Question

I would want to make new friends. How am I suppose to talk to new people. I am very conscious on how I talk. After I ask them a question, they tend to ask me to repeat it. I guess I am embarrassed of how I speak. But then again, all my friends understand how I speak and they understand every word that come out of my mouth. Same thing with my family. I guess they have to get used to the way I speak? I know that you have to introduce yourself then after you introduce yourself, then what do you talk about after introducing yourself. like on day 1, I introduce myself to that person then ask about their personal background. On day 2, what do I ask them? What do I talk about? What subject do they do not take offensive?

Answer 1

Maybe talk about yourself, but only information that you do want to share. Ask opinions from this other person too. I'm not shy, I'll talk to anyone anywhere. It's really easy.

Answer 2

Hiya, you don't say whether you are at school or college or in employment but my advice would be fairly similar anyway.

Remember, making friends is something that everyone finds at least a little bit hard. However, making friends is a skill we can all develop.
You don't say whether you have a speach impediment or whether you mumble and that is why people don't understand you. I used to mumble too and people would often ask me to repeat myself. The more nervous i was the more i would repeat myself.
The way i dealt with this is to record myself speaking and listen and then try and practice speaking more clearly. In about a year i had almost completely stopped.
If you are at school or college consider joining a drama club to practice.

Now another thing about making friends is we all become incredibly conscious of ourselves and our nervousness we don't think how nervous eveyrone else feels. A big part of making friends is helping other people feel at ease. Often just giving a big smile is a good way to make friends. I ask people lots of questions - people always like to talk about themselves. I listen to what they say and sound interested and ask more questions about it. People feel flattered when you take an interest.
I also often go up and talk to other people in the room that look shy as they may often want to talk.

Also remember that talking to people is fun - don't take it personally if they don't have much to say or aren't really friendly, oout of everyo few people you talk to - you will find one that will be nice too.

The more people you talk to the easier it becomes. Talk about the courses, their background, what they like to eat what movies they like, where they went on holiday and take it from there. Remember they will ask you questions too. Don't worry too much about making a fool of yourself occasionally we all do it. :-)

Another option is to join a club and get a new hobby, then you could talk about that too.

I know you feel nervous and under pressure - but the more you talk to people the less big a deal it will be. Its very brave of you to recognize the difficulties you are having and i am sure you will develop the skills to make it easier for you to talk to new people.

Good luck.

Answer 3

First of all be yourself..Never can go wrong doing that. Second, when you meet new people smile. Be a good listener as everyone appreciates that you care what they say too. Third talk about what interests you. The conversation can start off with mentioning anything from weather to current issues to just about anything you can think of. Just be polite, smile, be yourself. And about the speech problem, do NOT ever let that be an excuse not to make friends. There are al ot of famous people throughout history who have had speech problems and that has not stopped them. Good luck! Lovely day, isn't it?

Answer 4

I love talking to new people all together talking. i am not shy at all. On the second day just ask them their favorite color, see what u guys have in common. Maybe if u r not embarressed about talikng to your self , try practice taling in the mirror it may seem weird but it should make a difference.

Answer 5

Ask them if they like Carebears. Everyone likes to talk about Carebears.

Answer 6

it all depends on what they like just be yourselve and on day one ask what they like what they do tell them what you like and do on day to talk about about the things you like and do and things like spot tv never as very personal qusetions till you know them very well

Answer 7

well, i think the best way to have a conversation with strangers is to ask for the time "do you know what time is it?", "do you have a pen/pencil that i can borrow?" "you looked familiar, is your name [a boy/girl name's here]".

Answer 8

you start off by interdusing ur self to them 1st smile and inteteruce ur self be nice a smile is very inportant!

Answer 9

go to maidmarian.com and click the pic of the girl

Answer 10

if you dont talk to them you will never get to know them just go for it